hmmhmmm2 Posted October 27, 2019 Posted October 27, 2019 Dated a girl, had a good time, only had my arm around her, nothing more than that. We set up a 2nd date for wednesday for a picnic. She said it might rain so we should have a backup plan, I replied "maybe I already had a backup plan ;-) she replied Awesome! I cant wait to see you! Its only our second date so should I reply with anything, or just let her anticipate?
basil67 Posted October 27, 2019 Posted October 27, 2019 It would be really bad manners to not reply. Even as simple as "yeah, I'm looking forward to catching up with you too. Will confirm plans when we know what the weather is doing" 2
Lotsgoingon Posted October 27, 2019 Posted October 27, 2019 You want to reply as honestly as possible. If you're feeling excited you can say "me too." If you're not excited but you do want to see her again. You write language more measure. "I'm looking forward to seeing you again." Express honestly where you are at the moment, don't fake it either way. No need to overstate what you're feeling because she stated strong feelings. No need to understate what you're feeling unless you're madly in love--in which case you want to understate in order to calm your own emotions.
basil67 Posted October 27, 2019 Posted October 27, 2019 Could I just ask why you considered not replying to her?
TheFinalWord Posted October 27, 2019 Posted October 27, 2019 I don't think this warrants a reply. Keep texting to setting up dates, anything more than that in the early stages, you end up unnecessarily risking the momentum.
alphamale Posted October 27, 2019 Posted October 27, 2019 Could I just ask why you considered not replying to her? because he doesn't want to seem too eager
basil67 Posted October 27, 2019 Posted October 27, 2019 Ah, game playing. Sad that games trump good manners these days. 2
d0nnivain Posted October 27, 2019 Posted October 27, 2019 I think that was the natural end to that conversation. By Tuesday when you have a better sense of what the weather will be on Wednesday you can talk about the picnic date & the back up plan if required. . .If the back up plan requires a wardrobe change do fill her in on part of the plan. Otherwise just have fun.
Mrin Posted October 28, 2019 Posted October 28, 2019 Here is how I see it. Will the lack of a response potentially send a message you don't want to send? In this case yes - it could make her second guess showing enthusiasm about seeing you. The polite and prudent thing would have been to mirror and respond with either "likewise!" Or "me too." 3
LivingWaterPlease Posted October 28, 2019 Posted October 28, 2019 Here is how I see it. Will the lack of a response potentially send a message you don't want to send? In this case yes - it could make her second guess showing enthusiasm about seeing you. The polite and prudent thing would have been to mirror and respond with either "likewise!" Or "me too." I agree with this. Response to a person who expresses warmth is always a good thing, provided they're not a stalker! Seriously, though, when arranging a meet up with a gf, with family, bf, whomever I always make it a point to let the person know I'm looking forward to it! IMO, it's part of being warm and loving and does not mean you are in romantic love with or want to marry the person! Things you could say: We'll have a blast! We're going to have fun! Looking forward to seeing you! Glad we're meeting up! Etc. etc. etc. 1
chillii Posted October 28, 2019 Posted October 28, 2019 Ah, game playing. Sad that games trump good manners these days. Yep, the bs of it all. Besides, if she's into him she ain't gonna mind one bit. 1
vv3469802 Posted October 28, 2019 Posted October 28, 2019 because he doesn't want to seem too eager Otherwise, he can be shown as too shy or not interested in her. 1
rightondude Posted October 28, 2019 Posted October 28, 2019 I typically try to match or mirror without seeming overeager. I'd reply back with "yep, thinking we're going to have an awesome time!" and that will get the juices goin' but is safe enough for the early stages 2
Author hmmhmmm2 Posted November 1, 2019 Author Posted November 1, 2019 So I went on a 2nd date with a girl, and everything was going smooth, touching each other by the end of that date..I planned to kiss on the drop off..however right before we left the place we were at, my foot decided to stop working...I guess a nerve broke causing me to not be able to walk. The date ended with an awkward hug as I didnt want to exaggerate the injury. She texted the next day to see how I was doing...but idk how to proceed for next date or when my foot will be in better condition. Would it be bad form to ask if she wants to watch a movie at my place, since it's really all i feel up for right now?
d0nnivain Posted November 1, 2019 Posted November 1, 2019 She's going to interpret the request that she come to your place for a movie as a request for sex. Do update her about your foot. Depending on where you live, if you can manage a really close by date out of the house try that. Otherwise just keep talking to her while you heal.
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