I had an amazing date this evening, but now I won't be able to see her for a month

[Artdeco]

She sounds like a fun person, and we’ve all had too much to drink at times. No big deal, IMO. She didn’t do anything illegal, and she didn’t drive. And she’s old enough to sleep with her date (you), anytime she wants to. And as far as the bar incident, honestly, it sounds like she’s telling the truth, looking at somebody’s tattoo and then noticing the beard and saying “nice beard”, after apologizing for touching his face. I mean, you were there, and you would’ve noticed if she had talked “whack” all evening. I suspect that this was a “misunderstanding” that may have been caused by the other females there. Instigated. Jealousy can make women quite catty and mean. Maybe the one that acted offended about the horse remark was already pissed off at her. If she is the one who’s also dating the beard guy, or a friend of that guy’s girlfriend, I wouldn’t be surprised if they made up s*** about your date, out of insecurity or jealousy or whatever. I wouldn’t pay too much attention to what your friend told you. 

[Trail Blazer]

6 hours ago, mark clemson said:

Sounds like a decent start with great potential if there's not hidden sides to the story and the drinking tones down.

 

Consider doing no-booze dates. You don't have to make a big deal out of it nor go zero-tolerance or anything, but consider that your (mutual) emotional connection may get even better/more authentic without booze-goggles on.

 

We've only had two dates where we drank.  We caught up five times since the first date, three of which were booze-free.  

 

I agree that there's great potential here.  There's a lot of "chemistry".  I feel like we are a very good match.  Only time will tell for certain, but overall, I like the general direction it's headed.

[ThorntonMelon]

This is a nothing burger again. She sounds great. Don't overthink it. 

[fishlips]

On 12/11/2019 at 2:16 PM, Trail Blazer said:

 

We've only had two dates where we drank.  We caught up five times since the first date, three of which were booze-free.  

 

I agree that there's great potential here.  There's a lot of "chemistry".  I feel like we are a very good match.  Only time will tell for certain, but overall, I like the general direction it's headed.

 

Oh okay, for some reason I thought you only saw her three times and she was drunk twice. This sounds a lot better. I hope it works out for you, as you seem to be a nice guy. Good luck!

[Trail Blazer]

22 hours ago, fishlips said:

 

Oh okay, for some reason I thought you only saw her three times and she was drunk twice. This sounds a lot better. I hope it works out for you, as you seem to be a nice guy. Good luck!

 

Well, the first date we caught up at a local bar and had a couple of drinks, but nothing too full-on as we both had driven.  Our second date where she met my buddies, and her sleep over at my place were the only other times.

 

I've stayed at her place twice, both times we did not drink.  We spent the day out, braving the freeze at our local mall, had coffee, grabbed a bite to eat and then chilled.  It's been a great mix, to be honest.

 

Thank you for your well-wishes.  It's greatly appreciated.  I like her and I hope it works out.  I'm just hesitant to invest too much too soon, as I don't want the old heart getting broken again.  I think I'm going at a steadier pace this time around.

[Mrin]

Right on dude. Like others the level of alcohol consumption doesn't seem like a big deal. So funny about the thong and dress. Best laid plans... 

[Trail Blazer]

I fly back to PDX from work on NYE.  My date and I are heading down to town to ring in the new year.

We have both agreed to delete all our dating apps and concentrate on each other.  I guess you could say we're now officially an item.

I'm still planning to take things slow and steady.  I'm not going to get too far ahead of myself as I've been there before - the all-consuming new love energy.

What I will say is that I'm happy and excited to see where things lead.  She really is a lovely, caring soul with a little wild side thrown into the mix.

This has turned from a date, to exclusively dating.  The test will be how she copes with my work schedule, being away for up to a month at a time.  So far, so good, though.