What is your online dating age range?

[Trail Blazer]

I'm 34 and I've had my dating age range set from 27 to 39. I figure that is about right for me. I'm not looking to date too much older (been there before) and, equally, I'm not looking to date with someone too young and lacking maturity from a lack of life experiences relative to where I'm at in my life.

 

I decided to drop my age range at the lower end of thr scale from 27 to 24. Partly because I was running low on people to swipe (on Bumble mainly) and partly because I was a little curious.

 

For the most part I do not like what I'm seeing in that age range. I have conservative tastes with women, so I usually swipe left if they have too many obvious piercings, tattoos or only post up filtered images.

 

I've been surprised to see that I've gotten a few matches in the last day with 24-25 year olds. One has expired on Bumble, the other has said "hey" and then not responded to my reply. However, that's normal. The other one is on Tinder, she's replied a couple of times. So, that's cool, I thought.

 

What is your age (if you feel like posting it) and the age range you're looking to date?

 

I'm not exactly sure what a 24 year old would want in a 34 year old? A sugar daddy? A man who's more emotionally mature? Hey, it's flattering! However, I'm not exactly sure what I want in a 24 year old, either, beyond the youthful beauty which prompted me to swipe right in the dirst place. She'd have to be mature beyond her years to be a keeper for mine.

[mr_ybor]

I'm 42. Usually something like 21 to 36 (as I don't have kids yet), though I move it around a good bit, quite often.

 

One should keep an open mind, and age is hardly the first thing I think about when it comes to love. Waaaaaay bigger concerns than that.

 

I have conservative tastes with women, so I usually swipe left if they have too many obvious piercings, tattoos you

 

That sounds like the perfect woman to me. I intensely abhor conservatism as a concept.

Edited October 27, 2019 by mr_ybor

[basil67]

My Ybor, I just asked my 21yo pretty goth daughter about dating a guy your age. She pulled a weird face and said that you'd be ancient.

[mr_ybor]

My Ybor, I just asked my 21yo pretty goth daughter about dating a guy your age. She pulled a weird face and said that you'd be ancient.

 

Okay. Soooooooooooooooooo, we'd not be interested in each other. That's cool. Why are you pimping me to her, then? She wouldn't have an overlapping age range on online dating so we'd never see each other to begin with on OkC or on Tinder or Bumble or whatever.

 

My last G.F., who was was 23, did like guys my age (and not so much younger guys) messaged me online. That's kinda how the online thing works. I'm not matching anyone who's not also overlapping with me. I'm not sure what your daughter (grats on being goth these days at that age tho, I suppose) has to do with any of this.

Edited October 27, 2019 by mr_ybor

[Envy123]

Back in the day, it was 25 to 45 with a preference for older women.

[nospam99]

I feel like I'm an 'outlier' here at LS - 65 yet still interested in dating, finding an LTR partner, and sex. I even started a thread here in ISO to discuss the challenge with my dating age range.

 

To put numbers on it, I'd set my dating age range at 57-67.

 

I'd date a 'same age' or 'older woman' who was interested in the level of physical activity I enjoy. I'm not what I'd call an 'extreme' sports person. I've never jumped out of an airplane or off a bridge with a bungee cord on my ankle, gone hang gliding or rock climbing, run a marathon or a triathlon. Never ran a road race of any kind. But I do continue to at least desire to participate in all the physical activities I've done all my life. I have yet to encounter more than one woman over 60 (Natalie, for my 'followers') who is interested in being that active. For whatever reasons, 'younger' (under 60) women who might be 'up' for activities are not interested in dating me. So I've arbitrarily set my lower range at 57. I happened to meet a very hot 'young' woman on a hike last year. I think she'd be 55 now. But just one more instance of not interested in me.

[Trail Blazer]

I'm 42. Usually something like 21 to 36 (as I don't have kids yet), though I move it around a good bit, quite often.

 

One should keep an open mind, and age is hardly the first thing I think about when it comes to love. Waaaaaay bigger concerns than that.

 

 

 

That sounds like the perfect woman to me. I intensely abhor conservatism as a concept.

I will leave it at 24 for now. I'm open to someone that young, who's just finished college and finding their feet, to be mature enough to date. She'd most likely not have kids (bonus) but most likely be looking to have them at some point (down side for me).

 

I'm anything but conservative in general. I have no issue with anyone who wants tatts, piercings etc. Do whatever you want. Personally I just don't find it attractive on women, I cannot help that. I don't think anything less of them, though. Most of my friends, both male and female have at least one tattoo.

[SumGuy]

Range I use is 45-60, I’m in the middle there

[basil67]

Okay. Soooooooooooooooooo, we'd not be interested in each other. That's cool. Why are you pimping me to her, then? She wouldn't have an overlapping age range on online dating so we'd never see each other to begin with on OkC or on Tinder or Bumble or whatever.

 

Hey, I'm not the one making posts about having no matches online. If you're getting no matches, look at your parameters.

[alphamale]

i'm 54 and my match age range is 40-55

 

does that sound ok?

[Cersei]

I am a 48 year old female.

 

I set it to 40 to 52. I was surprised to have most of my matches younger than me.

[mr_ybor]

Hey, I'm not the one making posts about having no matches online. If you're getting no matches, look at your parameters.

 

My parameters are quite wide and drift North and South. What should I look at about them, hoss?

Edited October 28, 2019 by mr_ybor

[Twizzlestick]

I’m 39 Male

 

I set 24 when running out on tinder 25 usually - 32

 

Market seems to give matches or dates with women 26-29 mark. Girls are emotionally matched at that age too I’m finding.

 

Finding 32 mark usually have children and they don’t always tell you so I must remember to ask doh!!!

Edited October 28, 2019 by Twizzlestick

[alphamale]

What should I look at about them, hoss?

 

basil67 is a girl, you can't call her "hoss"

[SumGuy]

My parameters are quite wide and drift North and South. What should I look at about them, hoss?

 

My guess is it is your age parameters as that is what this thread is about.

You are 42 but looking for a woman 21-36.

Someone 21 is literally young enough to be your daughter if you had her when you were 21.

The oldest woman you want to find on-line is 6 years younger than you.

When you can see how that appears to women, especially non-basic ones, then you have a chance.

 

It certainly doesn't say relationship or girlfriend, rather it says looking for sex with a young thing.

 

Now there are women out there who are all about that, and there are certainly those with daddy issues or looking for a sugar daddy...however you need to have certain "goods/vibes" so to speak to attract those women.

 

I realize you meet women mostly outside OLD, but I would say that your age range is one of the top 3 reasons you are not getting dates via OLD.

 

to bring it back around, I think this applies to others as well when thinking about what the range they are seeking says about them on-line and how it can impact your ability to get matches in OLD.

[Michelle ma Belle]

I'm currently 50 and in a relationship but I've typically had 10-13 younger and 5 years older as my ideal age range when I've been on dating sites.

 

However, even when I've done that, I've ALWAYS gotten messages from men who were way outside those parameters so...sometimes it all just feels like an exercise in futility

[d0nnivain]

years ago during my very brief & disappointing experiment with OLD, I went 7 years older & 3 years younger for a 10 year spread.

 

My husband is 5 years younger then me so even if we had been on the same site, we would not have been matched. I think he only went 3 years older.

[Twizzlestick]

OP. It’s like used car prices. The market sets it. You set the range and adjust based on if you’re getting luck AND finding suitability (that’s where a 21 year old would be a problem). Not any specific range or figure anyone might pluck out of the air and quote you.

 

I spent 10 years with someone 10 years younger. It didn’t even notice. Ever. Yet I’ve had fantastically short and useless reles prior with women the same age. So there you go.

 

This isn’t being a nob about it, but I genuinely haven’t found too much problem at 39 with dating mid twenties to around 30. They’re just as emotionally mature as any and usually at a serious stage of life.

 

If you can’t find any luck up the age range, not according to a set age difference dictated by anyone.

 

I’m always slightly suspicious of folk who have a set rule (5 years xyz)l I often think a tiny bit of the little green eyed monster of envy lies behind some of these 1950s quirks

[Mrin]

When I was on OLD in my mid 40's I went +5/-10 usually. I did date a couple of women a little lower than -10 and one woman more than +5.

[Aleohere]

I’m going to start dating again soon. I’m 47 so I’ll probably try 40 - 55 maybe.

[boymommy]

When I was online dating I was 34 (now 36) and I set my age range from 30-42. My boyfriend was 44 when I met him (so 10 years apart) but it's never been an issue because I act old, he acts young. Before I met my boyfriend the majority of the guys I met were 40+ years old. I believe that is the case because anyone who was probably in their 30's like me and looking to date may have wanted someone who was never married/no kids. Most divorced guys with kids are older because people are now marrying older.

[major_merrick]

I think it depends a lot on your emotional maturity and what you're looking for in a partner. When I was dating, most of the time it was for the sex. So, I basically had no age range beyond "you're hot." For a LTR, I want someone close to my own age. My husband and I are the same age, and my GFs are slightly younger.

 

My husband's Wife #2 is much younger, and Wife #4 is slightly older. The age gap is noticeable. #4 is approaching middle age, and #2 is still like a college kid. But he is close to both of them, and I don't see a problem there.

[HiCrunchy]

I'm 24 F, I have it set from 21 to 29.

[introverted1]

If I were into OLD, I'd probably go 5 years younger to 5 years older.

 

 

 

I'd date a 'same age' or 'older woman' who was interested in the level of physical activity I enjoy.

 

 

Yeah, this is the key, imo. I am pretty fit/active and most men my age are not. Like Nospam, I am not talking about extreme sports, but the ability to hike or kayak or just be on one's feet for several hours. So many people are just too out of shape for even that. It's disappointing.

[SumGuy]

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Yeah, this is the key, imo. I am pretty fit/active and most men my age are not. Like Nospam, I am not talking about extreme sports, but the ability to hike or kayak or just be on one's feet for several hours. So many people are just too out of shape for even that. It's disappointing.

 

or one's back for several hours

 

General fitness level does seem to depend on where you live, there are always studies on it. I believe the fitness level is generally higher in areas with higher education and higher socioeconomic percentages.