What gives with this guy l sorta of work with?

[chillii]

Eh people.

Got a weird thing happening with a more sort of a a business friend more than friend as such. Although he comes round for a coffee and we'll talk awhile and deals, ideas.

We both buy sell. He has his business l have mine, but if he sees a deal l'll want or me him, whoever will grab it and the other one gets a kick back. We've been goin like this 6 years or so, it's only a few deals here and there , we do our own thing mainly.

 

A few mths back he found a deal but we thought we might try 50 50 on a few , did 7 or 8. Thought it'd be a lot less time for me and l'd been thinking about something like this. He picks up the job had he's bits to do then he'd drop it off to my place l'd do mine and sell it off. lt went ok ,although l was getting out once the last was done, l worked a lot less on my own because l make a lot more buttt, we gave it a go.

Soooo, the last job was meant was meant to be around 17-18k. but it had issues, got an offer for 13, took that. l know the business, the issues only hold it up best just grab the 13.

 

However, he comes round but he's in a shyt sayin we should've done much better on that one ra ra.

And pretty well suspicious l'd ripped him off. l thought fk this showed him the deposits on the deal, explained the issues, he was still doin alright at that, it'd be all mine on my own.

Well , that was a month ago. He hasn't been round, hasn't rung with any deals- as in the old days, not the 50 50 stuff. Had to call him once about picking one up, he hardly said a word

We'd normally call or drop in once or twice a week or if l'm at his his w comes out too.

6 yrs , now this bs as if l ripped him off.

l mean what do l do with this, shame to lose the friendship, not to mention the kick backs and deals we'd come across. But l'm fkd if l'm being silently accused of that bs when l actually looked after him if anything.

Edited October 23, 2019 by chillii

[Mr. Lucky]

But l'm fkd if l'm being silently accused of that bs when l actually looked after him if anything.

 

Were it me, I'd address something like this head-on. Meet him for a cup of coffee, bring all the transaction records and details, and say something like this:

 

"look, it's obvious you're pissed over our last deal. Didn't turn out as we'd have liked, but you've been doing this long enough to know that's part of business. Here's all the records and I'm never too old to learn - how do you think this could have been handled better?".

 

Then let him talk. It may simply be he needs to get something off his chest, be quiet and listen. I'd wager you can work through the issues involved if you're interested in continuing the relationship...

 

Mr. Lucky

[chillii]

Thanks Mr Lucky , but the problem is that's what l did the time he came over.

l called him the night before told him that deal went and the price, he got shytty right there so l said look , come over in the morning l'll show you transaction.

l could hear his suspicion too over the phone.lt's one thing being a bit pissed at the lower price but thinking l'd ripped him off on top of it, not good.

 

So he came over in the morning, we chatted a bit. had a coffee, he's tone was a bit better. l showed him the transaction and explained the issues.

You see usually in that situation, we'd have to spend more time and money fixing the issues, to then get the original price anyway.

So even on my own l'd still usually would've just taken the 13k offer, it's just easier quicker and l'd still do ok.

l mean it was a totally honest decision. Still , had a feeling right through something like this would end up happening that's another reason l was going back to my own thing.

l dunno.

Edited October 23, 2019 by chillii

[Foxhall]

I suppose its human nature with blokes anyway, there is always the suspicion in mind that this "buddy" is out to do me,

in the sense of being hoodwinked,

 

you could compare it to a game of poker even and a guy is always on his guard about the other party being smarter or "pulling a fast one"

 

this might resolve in time, your mate is clearly suspicious of you,

 

Id imagine based on your posts here, well you are a straight decent bloke,

 

you might get the opportunity to throw something his way in due course and it will get yee back on track.

 

I suppose just plough your own path in the meantime.

[chillii]

Eh fox

Yeah , bout it l spose . Thinking about it this morning at work and now l'm thinking to hell with it.

l'm not usually out to make other people money but l looked after him non the less.

l usually only take any good deals he finds me out of laziness really , just save's me going to the trouble but eh, l usually take a hit profit wise though which l was getting a bit sick of anyway tbh.

The 50 50 thing , every time l gave him a wad of cash l'm thinking damn it that's usually mine, again though it was just a bit easier, not really worth it though.

 

But yeah your right too , blokes are usually pretty wary in this stuff aren't they.

Atm l'm thinking like your saying, it'd probably just pan itself out in a few mths. Don't think l'll take any more deals anyway but the business mate ship side wa spretty cool, see how things go l spose.

Edited October 24, 2019 by chillii