I 28 male lied to my 30 f girlfriend, need !

[Thedubman]

Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 and a half months. I made a grim mistake when I first met her parents at dinner about a month ago when they asked about my education level. I told them I have a bachelors degree when I really have a 2 year associates degree. I’m always a super honest person and I instantly regretted it as soon as it left my mouth. This is totally out of character for me. I think I lied because my girlfriends family is highly educated and she has her master’s degree. I made a big mistake, I lied out of shame and being insecure about myself. I felt guilty for not being at my girlfriends level and felt intimidated. I feel like such a scumbag for lying about this. I’m coming clean to her tomorrow but is there anyway I can salvage this relationship? I love her and she told me for the first time today she loved me. What a mess I put myself in... any advice on how to come clean? I guess you can say I have been hiding this for about a month and a half and it’s killing me

[preraph]

Tell her you got it mixed up and then were too embarrassed to correct yourself.

[d0nnivain]

You're not a scum bag. You were embarrassed & tried to cover.

 

Say something along the lines of how much you admire her & that you feel somewhat intimidated. Then tell her you exaggerated your education in an attempt to be seen as more worthy by her parents. Tell her how much this is eating you up inside & that you hope she can forgive you.

 

If you are genuinely contrite she should be able to see that this foible is not systemic.

[Tamfana]

--I think I lied because my girlfriends family is highly educated and she has her master’s degree. I made a big mistake, I lied out of shame and being insecure about myself.--

 

Tell her that ^.

 

My daughter's husband lied that he had Irish citizenship way back when they started dating. He came clean about 10 years later to my exH and I saying about what you wrote above. Not a biggie. It was just puffery.

[Legatus]

Tell her that ^.

 

My daughter's husband lied that he had Irish citizenship way back when they started dating. He came clean about 10 years later to my exH and I saying about what you wrote above. Not a biggie. It was just puffery.

 

I used to feel insecure my whole life about lack of degree. Started working at 19 but got to a pretty good job. My ex had always told me that for me it was the best decision ever because I got to experience real life early, got a lot of skills etc.

 

Papers are not everything - it was an honest mistake because you care for her! Tell her that and she should be fine!

[Lotsgoingon]

You lied out of insecurity.

 

Say you got nervous, which sounds really really true.

 

In the meantime, get comfortable with the Associates degree!!!! ... And I can't but wonder if you got nervous for good reason: as in your gf's folks might be quite snobbish and judgmental.

 

Chill ... you didn't shoot anyone ... or rob them of the retirement savings.

[Londy]

Easy. Play dumb. When and if the topic comes up again you correct whoever brings it up and say without hesitation that you have an Associates degree. If they say "You told us you have a BACHELORS degree" you can say "I must have said that by mistake it's an Associates Degree, I probably meant to say that my ultimate goal is a Bachelors degree and I'm halfway there."

[Gretchen12]

I'm surprised they didn't ask where you got your bachelors because it's a common question, it's a conversation topic along with your major and where you lived. You should probably tell your gf the truth. Just state the facts. Don't talk about guilt over lying or explain why you did it. It's too dramatic and saying you were intimidated makes others feel bad for intimidating you. She doesn't want her masters degree to make you feel bad. So don't explain. And if she's a clever/nice girl she won't need/want to ask you why you said that.

[smackie9]

Go get your Bachelors, and that should cover it.