lanasin Posted September 30, 2005 Posted September 30, 2005 I have been seeing this guy for the past two years we met online and started dating and he has moved in with me. Now after about a year of living together I find that I am not attracted to him anymore. We are hardly ever intimate and when we are I feels like he is pressured or doesn’t enjoy it. I am a very intimate person I can never get enough of it. I spoke to him about it and he has confided that it was problems with past relationships. Also he requested that I try enticing him so we have we have tried different things but after a few days it goes back to the same thing. I just feel like it is a never-ending cycle. It has gotten to a point that I just don’t know what to do anymore. It is not just the intimacy that has me down its also that he can never make a decision in the relationship. It is always what I want or what I would think is best. There are just times that I wish he would be more the man in the relationship so I can have an opportunity to be the woman. Should I break up with him? Should I continue to try to work it out? I just really don’t know anymore.
Art_Critic Posted September 30, 2005 Posted September 30, 2005 You never mentioned how you feel about him ?? Do you REALLY love him ? or is he just there passing time ? If you REALLY love him then no you shouldn't break up.. Keep talking to him
Author lanasin Posted September 30, 2005 Author Posted September 30, 2005 I do love him. I have been trying to make this relationship work for a while now. We have been having these problems for about a year. I am just feeling unfulfilled and I am getting to a point where I am honestly emotionally exhausted. I have tried talking to him about it and how I have been feeling with everything. How I needed attention and needed him to be more assertive in the relationship. Sometimes he will say that he will work on it to make the relationship better and others I feel like he just blows it off.
Art_Critic Posted September 30, 2005 Posted September 30, 2005 If it's been this way for a year and it bounces back and forth then it may be time to think about a more drastic approach to getting him to participate in the relationship. You might consider couples counseling or if that is not an answer then you might consider some time apart.
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