isabellaraviv Posted September 30, 2005 Posted September 30, 2005 This girl I know as a casual acquaintance has suddenly made it her personal mission to get everyone we know to hate me and to intimidate me into either leaving our sorority or the school. Last semester I had a couple of big issues with a nasty break-up and coping with a chronic illness. This semester, I am better, although still trying to cope with the illness and making everything with school work. I am trying to prioritize. I guess this girl dislikes (or more like wishes me dead) because of some miscommunication. I asked a couple people about it who are of higher authority than she and they said she has no right to say anything she has said and they are the only ones I have to listen to and they say I did nothing wrong. And no one else thinks I did anything wrong. But the night after the party, not realizing I had done anything "wrong", I receive a LJ comment from her saying I did something horribly wrong and that I'm this terrible person and she had to pick up my slack. I asked her to clarify and she told me that I was an irresponsible, disrespectful and selfish human being. I tried to clarify the situation because it seemed only like a minor miscommunication and she tells me that she doesn't have to listen to me because I'm nothing but a hypocrite and a liar. I then go to her own LJ where she has written mostly things about me. It talks about how she hates people who start drama and wants to rise above it and that she doesn't deal well with hypocrites or liars or dramatic a**holes who need attention. She also said eveyone in sick of me because I've been so sick and unable to complete my obligations, and said "Everyone is so sick of your ****. Get with it or get out, bitch." I asked around and from what I hear, those are purely her OWN sentiments. I went a good two weeks not hearing anything else about this. During this time, I notice she had blocked me from IM, myspace and un-friended me as her LJ friend. I thought fine, whatever. And I went on my merry way. I don't recall talking to anyone about it during this time either...I was just doing my own thing. A couple days ago, I get this e-mail from her saying that I was talking about her behind her back and that I need to "get her name out of my gd mouth and grow up" and if I have a problem with her to tell her to her face. I asked the person who allegedly told her I was talking about her behind her back and the girl cleared it up saying exactly what was said. I think I had told the girl about her livejournal entries and what not, but I didn't say "Please hate her." The harrasser girl was POed that i even mentioned her LJ entries to anyone and said I should be respecting her privacy better. I e-mailed her back basically telling her that I don't even care so why would I talk about someone I don't even care about? I said i didn't really like her, but I'm not asking anyone to dislike her. I get an an e-mail back saying "I'm not even going to read this because all you do is hide behind your computer. You must know I did nothing to you except find out the true nature of your character, and I've lost a lot of respect for you. If you have something to say, say it to my face." Sick of this, I called her. I said "Dude, I don't even care about you. I'm not talking about you behind your back, get over it! I don't like you, you don't like me, let's just move on." She tells me she is busy and hangs up on me. I then get a text saying "I read your e-mail and we need to work this out." WTF? So I texted her back and said fine. I haven't heard from her since. But i did go to her livejournal and found ANOTHER entry about me where she says that she's sick of people feeling sorry for me because I'm sick at her expense and that just because my life sucks I don't need to drag other people down with me and stir up drama. She also called me melodramatic and needing attention. What the hell should I do? Is it wrong that I kind of feel threatened? I don't feel like this person is completely stable to be honest. I've mentioned the drama to a few people who pointe blank say she is crazy. I actually do feel somewhat harrassed and threatened, but I feel like police involvement might be a little too dramatic at this point. What would you do?
Barby Posted September 30, 2005 Posted September 30, 2005 Just avoid contact with her. Getting the police involved will only make her think that you're proving her point that you are in fact over-dramatic. I understand that you're in the same sorority so you kind of "have to" see her but no one can make you speak to her or about her. It all seems so childish....why does she care if people feel sorry for you or not? Other than attention what is she losing out on?
Author isabellaraviv Posted September 30, 2005 Author Posted September 30, 2005 oh yeah I know I don't have to talk ABOUT her...which is why I haven't. i only told that one girl because she was in a similar situation with this girl's friend and I told her how this girl had written nasty things about me online, etc., and not to worry because its all ridiculous. The only thing I've said is that she's behaving ridiculously. I guess my issue here is, I don't care if she hates me, I just don't want her harrassing me and writing 10000 entries in her LJ about me.
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