Allupinnit Posted October 23, 2019 Posted October 23, 2019 I literally can't think of a worse ex-husband situation than that. 1
Author Trail Blazer Posted October 23, 2019 Author Posted October 23, 2019 JMO having an X in the mix in anyway is gonna be drama no matter what. Better rethink that one. Everybody has an ex in the age range I'm looking to date (26-39). So, when children are involved you have to expect the ex will be in the frame.
Author Trail Blazer Posted October 23, 2019 Author Posted October 23, 2019 I literally can't think of a worse ex-husband situation than that. It's certainly not ideal. However, I don't plan on having anything to do with him for a while. I also made it clear on the first date that I am in no rush to push things quickly and a relationship would need time to develop.
mortensorchid Posted October 24, 2019 Posted October 24, 2019 Glad to hear things went well,but what were the red flags?
Author Trail Blazer Posted October 24, 2019 Author Posted October 24, 2019 Glad to hear things went well,but what were the red flags? She has significant baggage, chiefly being her ex.
Author Trail Blazer Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 I've just arrived home from our second date. I'm a little uncertain about how I feel. It felt like we'd hit a bit of a brick wall the second time around. When we connected on Bumble, we had such a well-flowing conversation which was quite frankly challenging to keep up with (for both of us). I'd said after a couple of day, "we should really catch up in person, we've got so much to talk about." She agreed completely, hence the first date. Second date, we'd kind of spoke about the same topics that we'd discussed on the first date. The conversation still flowed and it was only right at the end where it felt like there were a few uncomfortable silences creeping in. I just don't think it will work. She hasn't been in a relationship for five years. It's clear to me that she's very warm and receptive, very intelligent and is kind-hearted. I jist feel, though, that she's got a lot going on in her own life and has been single for so long, it will take her time to adjust to a relationship. I feek that she's a case of offering *almost* enough, but just not quite enough for me to feel like I can invest. A relationship with her would be hard work at times and would require a lot of patience and compromise. I've been down the path of single mom, full-time worker and little family support. I've also been burnt by being phased out of the relationship as the excuse of "I'm too busy" is so easy to use and cannot be called on easily. I've got my date with teacher M tomorrow evening. She's not bringing her dog now, so we don't have to go to the dog park. I joked and said I'm sad that he won't be coming and she replied, "Play your cards right and I'm sure you'll be seeing a lot of him in the future" with a winky emoji. At this point in time I will see how this date goes and evaluate how I feel after that. I didn't hit it off as well with teacher M online as we seemed to have less in common on the surface, but perhaps we'll hit it off better in person.
Author Trail Blazer Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 Really well. She's a great woman, but unfortunately she's been overshadowed by the date I had two days later. I was blown away by the 5'.0" bombshell that came out of the blue and went on a date the same day we connected on Bumble (Sunday). Teacher M is awesome. She teaches Math, Science and Chemistry. We had a really good date. Talked for hours. She is really keen on me, messages a lot. I can't date anyone for a month as I'll be working in California until late November. I'm just not sure what I'll do. M is a quality person and definitely someone I'd see as relationship material. But unless something spectacular happens, the heart is set on someone else.
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