Author Tagalz Posted October 13, 2019 Author Posted October 13, 2019 (edited) Hey! This is about Amy the girl I met on hinge dating app. We have already been on two dates so this does not count as an third date because I’m invited to be with her friends. the third date will most likely happend after this. I was invited to come and play escape room where we have to solve problems and puzzles in a room to get to the next level. She has 6 of her friends attending while I have 1 friend coming along so we are total of 8 people. I think it’s a step in the right direction for me because if I give good first impression then they might like me and I’m sure Amy values her friends opinion very highly. Her friends could say something like «yeah Tagalz seems to be the guy so go for it» or vice versa At the same time it puts pressure on me to be nice to everybody. I’m also thinking that this is a test were I can show Amy that she needs to chase me a bit. I’m not going to be all around her and instead I’m going to try to spend as much time as possible talking to her friends. That way she have to chase me and maybe take me out of the group so we could be alone. If I were to do that then I lost. Hahah it’s sounds like a competition lol. Other than that how should I behave? Never met 6 girl so I’m nervous Edited October 13, 2019 by Tagalz Some mispelling
basil67 Posted October 13, 2019 Posted October 13, 2019 Great that she wants to see you again. But your plan of ignoring her is terrible. If you ignore her, her friends will see that you're not interested in her (or worse, think you're interested in one of them) and advise her to not bother with you again. And truth be told, they may not even need to tell her because she'd be so appalled she'll just stop seeing you. The way you should behave is to talk with Amy and her friends. Be inclusive and pleasant company. 2
Lotsgoingon Posted October 13, 2019 Posted October 13, 2019 One of the funnest dates I ever went on was when a woman invited me to join her and her friends for dinner. You're overthinking this. In my case, I loved this woman's friends ... and this woman and I had good chemistry. We hung afterwards without her friends. Forget about chasing and all of that ... Show up for real ... to have a good time. Also show up with your mind turned on ... You may not like her friends. You want to just experience her friends ... Don't try to impress them--that usually leads to the opposite. Be yourself and see what happens. You might find you dislike her friends and that gives you a clue about her. Just show up to have fun--show up and see what happens. The truth is ... you actually often do not know what will impress people anyway. At a deep level what impresses people is that the person seems relaxed and real. Faking qualities you do not have ... doesn't really work. 1
Mrin Posted October 13, 2019 Posted October 13, 2019 Yeah. Most women just LOVE inviting a dude to show him off to her friends and then have the dude ignore her. Nothing makes a woman feel awesome about herself like watching her man flirt with her friends. And speaking of her friends, they're sure to be all like "damn girlfriend! He's a keeper! I'm just dying to be ignored like that!" Great plan! Lmk how it works out for you. /Sarc You know, it is a miracle that my gender gets laid. At all. 5
Maggiemay1 Posted October 13, 2019 Posted October 13, 2019 She invited you to hers and to meet her friends!? But that isn’t enough for you?? You want her to chase you how exactly?? She will definitely NOT chase someone that ignores her at an event SHE invited you to. Why on earth would you think ignoring her in that situation is a good thing to do? 1
schlumpy Posted October 13, 2019 Posted October 13, 2019 Rethink your plan Tag. This isn't the time to focus on an objective. Just be open and pleasant and curious about her friends. Ask them about heir pets. That's always a safe topic. If you want focus on something then it's having a good time and enjoying pleasant company. 1
BaileyB Posted October 13, 2019 Posted October 13, 2019 (edited) I’m sorry, my friend invites her new boyfriend out to meet our group of friends and he ignores her all night and flirts with her friends... if/when she asks my opinion because that’s what girls tend to do, I would probably tell her that he is a fool and that she could do better. Your inexperience is showing here - as is your arrogance. Best to rethink this plan if you want to have another date with this woman - these kinds of games are immature and silly... Edited October 13, 2019 by BaileyB 1
preraph Posted October 13, 2019 Posted October 13, 2019 OMG, now I am really disappointed in you. What has this girl done to you to make you want to punish her by ignoring her and trying to gain the upper hand? Do you know how controlling and mean that is? Stop playing games. If you like her, go out with her and treat her with respect and dignity. You might need counseling to find out why you have this urge to put someone in their place who's only been nice to you. That's messed up.
smackie9 Posted October 13, 2019 Posted October 13, 2019 You want her to chase you a bit, tell her you are going out with your buddies for a night.
schlumpy Posted October 13, 2019 Posted October 13, 2019 Yeah tag. She may end up chasing you right our her life. 1
Author Tagalz Posted October 15, 2019 Author Posted October 15, 2019 Yeah tag. She may end up chasing you right our her life. I don’t think so. She’s been giving me short answers... like why? Here I an giving her a long reply and she just hits me with a short texts
schlumpy Posted October 15, 2019 Posted October 15, 2019 I don’t think so. She’s been giving me short answers... like why? Here I an giving her a long reply and she just hits me with a short texts It's hard to say. Some people like to write and to others it's a chore. She may not find much to respond to depending on what you are talking about. If you are talking about your date maybe she has a lot to say but if you are complaining about your job, maybe not so much. Stick to subjects that she has a good knowledge of and encourage her to share her thoughts with you.
Author Tagalz Posted October 15, 2019 Author Posted October 15, 2019 Hey! I just got home from Escape room with Amy and her friends. It was alot of fun but also frustrating because the puzzles were at times hard. It was a total of 8 people and we did not have 2 groups which I think would be better because we were not working well together. It was a total of 3 rooms. First was easy, the second one was the hardest and many of us just gave up on the puzzle. Third room was medium hard. I felt that at times they were talking to much to the point that it got hard to focus on the puzzle. Me and my friend Alex did good on the first room. We found the number that we all needed to lock the door open. Second room was all about Alex cause it took a huge amount of energy to solve math puzzle I think I did great on the last room. Alex were fooling around while I found a clue which united everybody to work together. Me and Amy while playing: She was often times with her friends during the puzzles and It was very difficult for me to get her alone. I was either trying to be with her group or to go with Alex and search for clues. All in all we did not have much contact but at the same time I feel like it does not matter because we both had fun and that is the most important things
Lotsgoingon Posted October 15, 2019 Posted October 15, 2019 Did you guys (the whole group or just you and A) have a chance to hang together afterwards to trade stories? That would have been nice.
Author Tagalz Posted October 15, 2019 Author Posted October 15, 2019 Did you guys (the whole group or just you and A) have a chance to hang together afterwards to trade stories? That would have been nice. We did not have a chance to hang out together afterwards. It got late and they had to sleep early because of school and I had to go to work the next day (:
alphamale Posted October 15, 2019 Posted October 15, 2019 if you want some alone time with amy just ask her out to dinner
schlumpy Posted October 16, 2019 Posted October 16, 2019 All in all we did not have much contact but at the same time I feel like it does not matter because we both had fun and that is the most important things You handled it well.
Author Tagalz Posted October 21, 2019 Author Posted October 21, 2019 Hey! I’ve been on 2 dates with Amy as you know. The last time we were together was last week with her friends and mine. She was often with her friend group so it was hard for me to get her alone. So we have clearly not been on the third date yet. If I wanted I could ask her out on dinner but something is holding me back. The past 2 dates was fun but we did not have alot to talk about and it is partly my fault because I’m not really good at conversations. She could also be more clever asking questions from her part Altought I did get to know her a little BUT I want to know more of her. I want to know her story and what she thinks about the age gap between us. Like we need to connect and I have not felt that with her. I can tell her my story so that she will open up and maybe she will ask me more questions because that’s what I want back from her. There is more topics I want to talk about and share my opinion on and maybe she will as well. Topics like Aliens, magic, the meaning of life, the lies we’ve told, childhood, fears and insecurities. Should I ask her out and tell her how I feel? I’m 23 of age and she is 17. I was writing about age gap so here is a little bit more info! (:
schlumpy Posted October 21, 2019 Posted October 21, 2019 Tag - you need dating coach. If she expresses an interest in any of these topics then go for it otherwise hold all them in reserve for the future if ever. Ever since I was teenager and read Major Keyhoe's books on UFO's I was hooked on Aliens. Like everyone else I was always looking for evidence that never materialized. Lots of talk, lots of people writing books and going on speaking tours but no real evidence. The crack in my belief system began when NASA took all of the popular UFO pictures and digitized them. By running different algorithms they could bring out different features as well as enhancing the image. They found strings holding up models and one enhanced image, if I recall correctly, was a garbage can lid flung into the air. Those blurry and shaky pictures hid a lot of detail. Nasa disproved 95 percent of all the popular UFO photos. How did the true believers respond? "What about the other 5 percent" they asked. I responded with budding skepticism. Today my standard is - "bring me a smoking piece of an alien spaceship." Even today with advanced cameras the pictures are always shaky and blurry. Now-a-days I just have fun with it. My weakness is that I have a splendid imagination and aliens were very appealing grist for the mill.
Author Tagalz Posted October 21, 2019 Author Posted October 21, 2019 Tag - you need dating coach. . Dating coach are expensive. Schlumpy you could be my coach! Heheh xD
Author Tagalz Posted October 23, 2019 Author Posted October 23, 2019 Hello. It’s a 3 date with Amy. You are probably thinking: «Is he stupid? He had the chance to have 69 with her and he is just dodging it?» Hear me out (: Ofcourse I want to have 69 but I haven’t connected with her yet as the last two dates have been not much talking. My fault for choosing bowling as the first date. However I still got to know her a little bit but I want to tell her what I feel and see if her opinion matches with mine. She also don’t know my story as well so it could be good for both of us to share more personal things. There is many more topics I want to talk to her about. Topics like, aliens, magic, the meaning of life, childhood, fears and insecurities and the lies we’ve told. What could we do on a 3 date that does not INVOLVE her coming to my place?
Gaeta Posted October 23, 2019 Posted October 23, 2019 She's 17, she doesn't want to talk about magic, aliens and the meaning of life! Girls that age want to have fun. You are in your mid 20s and you enjoy that type of deeper exchange....not teen girls. You'll discover why it's better to date closer to our age. Go out play billiard, go to movies, go to club dance, go pick apples, those are the best dates. You have plenty of time to get to know her through those activities. 1
BaileyB Posted October 23, 2019 Posted October 23, 2019 The third date is also way too early for her to come to your home. If a man asked me to go to his home after the third date, may answer would be no. You need to be especially careful because she is 17 - take her own for dinner if you want to talk. And I agree with Gaeta - I wouldn’t want to talk about magic, aliens, or anything similar on the date. Those are YOUR interests, not HERS. Your job on this date is to get to know HER, and to make HER comfortable. Definitely don’t talk about childhood fears and insecurities, the meaning of life, or lies that you have told - what the heck do you mean by that? Dates are supposed to be fun my friend - this would not be fun for anyone... 2
clia Posted October 23, 2019 Posted October 23, 2019 A 17 year old girl asked you to 69? Um.... There are a lot of things you can do: Dinner Hiking Museum Haunted House Festival Pumpkin patch Cider mill / apple orchard Mini golf 1
d0nnivain Posted October 23, 2019 Posted October 23, 2019 (edited) Better topics: her favorite television shows & movies where she wants to go to college any local sports teams she follows what she likes to do for fun You can ask her if she's into gaming, magic or aliens but if she's not, shut up about them. I do not know the law in Norway but a 17 year old seems too young for you. Are her parents OK with your age? You know what you should be talking to her about? Why she lied to you about her age & why she is violating the dating app's terms of services which require her to be 18 to get on their system. This is going to blow up in your face. Edited October 23, 2019 by d0nnivain 2
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