Foxhall Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 Id venture to disagree with Smackie there, I think girls your own age, you might find a little overbearing for you, dating a younger girl will be easier for you, her expectations will be lower, and it will give you a chance to take things slowly and fun, plus build your confidence 1
crispytoast Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 I can't believe any of you are actually encouraging him. Like what the actual ****? She is 17 and he is 23. Just because it is legal in his country doesn't mean that it's ok. OP you should find someone that is older. 1
RecentChange Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 Yeah I am flabbergasted that school girls are fair game. Same stage of life? She lives at home with her mommy and daddy and probably has a curfew and needs to get permission to go out. How is that the same as someone who is old enough to be a college graduate and is living on his own? My husband is younger than me - we got together at 21 and 23. We were both living independently of our parents. We were both paying our own bills, signing leases, buying car insurance all of that fun stuff. Not deciding who to sit with during second period or during the school lunch break. This girl's peers are her fellow school kids - she isn't yet an adult, hasn't lived like an adult. The OP has been an adult for 5 years. Oh right, but she is young and naive, and will have low standards..... So he should use her like a bike with training wheels to gain experience with. Yuck 3
The Outlaw Posted September 25, 2019 Posted September 25, 2019 It may have went off without a hitch, but honestly you would be better off finding someone close to your own age, but at least you got out and tried. Good on you.
crispytoast Posted September 25, 2019 Posted September 25, 2019 This girl's peers are her fellow school kids - she isn't yet an adult, hasn't lived like an adult. The OP has been an adult for 5 years. Oh right, but she is young and naive, and will have low standards..... So he should use her like a bike with training wheels to gain experience with. Yuck On point. And it really makes me question the integrity of this forum that many are condoning such behavior. 1
fromheart Posted September 25, 2019 Posted September 25, 2019 23 year old If I were this girls father, we'd be having a chat. 1
Author Tagalz Posted October 2, 2019 Author Posted October 2, 2019 Hey! My second date will be this friday with Amy. Now the question is: What can we do on a second date? I don’t have much else to write hahha so hit me with all the suggestion you got! 3
Flame Aura Posted October 2, 2019 Posted October 2, 2019 Your first date was bowling right? In that case a romantic dinner in a nice restaurant will be perfect.
Foxhall Posted October 2, 2019 Posted October 2, 2019 Is this the 17-year old, go for it buddy:) Id suggest going for a walk or visiting a wildlife park or something outdoor, then go for a coffee perhaps, keep it fun and relaxed.
Author Tagalz Posted October 2, 2019 Author Posted October 2, 2019 Your first date was bowling right? In that case a romantic dinner in a nice restaurant will be perfect. Yes it was bowling but a romantic dinner would be the next time because she wants to see how good I am at football/soccer. So I will be playing soccer with her and possible with her friend?
Author Tagalz Posted October 2, 2019 Author Posted October 2, 2019 Is this the 17-year old, go for it buddy:) Id suggest going for a walk or visiting a wildlife park or something outdoor, then go for a coffee perhaps, keep it fun and relaxed. Yeah it’s the 17 year old girl (: a walk would be boring this time around because we already did it the last time before we went bowling. A park would be boring as well... and she’s not really into coffee. She likes chocolatemilk and energydrink. Any other suggestions? (:
Author Tagalz Posted October 4, 2019 Author Posted October 4, 2019 Hey! This is an update on how the second date went with Amy I met up with her and we walked to a near football field to play football. I showed her my dribbling skills and what kind of training I do with my football club. She wanted to learn and I did that. I was suprised by how well she executed it! I would say that she could play as a striker just like me. She were asking me question about football in general and so on. Even if I talked and she seemed to be a little uninterested I tried turning it down by asking how she is when it comes to sport. After that we went to grab some sushi. From there I asked her questions about family and where she sees herself in 5 years time. She is do have good relationship with her family. She told me that she wants to come and see my apartment which means it might be sex next time I meet her. It’s not a good thing because she is only 17 and if it were to happend I would just tell her straight up that it can’t happend. Lastly I asked her what she look for in a guy because I was unsure if she wanted one night stand or a long term relationship. She told me that she looks for a guy that is nice and treat her well.
Gaeta Posted October 4, 2019 Posted October 4, 2019 Do you understand that she may not be aware that in the dating world visiting a guy's apartment = having sex. I wonder why at 23 you are so excited at dating a girl that is still a teen? You cannot connect with women your age? . 1
The Outlaw Posted October 4, 2019 Posted October 4, 2019 I understand that you connect with her really well, but she's just too young for you. You're an adult and she's just a teen. And showing her your apartment as is just a bad idea. Let her down gently and find someone your own age before this gets out of hand.
Foxhall Posted October 4, 2019 Posted October 4, 2019 there is a slight cultural difference I notice with the American posters on this age difference thing, the European attitude on this is a more relaxed one, anyway I think your actually a gentleman really Tagalz, you will treat this girl properly and as I said before there is no doubt the two of you are a good match. 1
schlumpy Posted October 4, 2019 Posted October 4, 2019 there is a slight cultural difference I notice with the American posters on this age difference thing, Age of consent in Germany is 14. Age of consent in Norway is 16. Tag is in perfect harmony with the laws of his country and culture. It's 18 here in the states but it is more an ideal today then reality.
Author Tagalz Posted October 5, 2019 Author Posted October 5, 2019 (edited) there is a slight cultural difference I notice with the American posters on this age difference thing, the European attitude on this is a more relaxed one, anyway I think your actually a gentleman really Tagalz, you will treat this girl properly and as I said before there is no doubt the two of you are a good match. It’s actually good to see other cultural attitude as well (: what happends in the US if people have sex or date girls that are under 18? Edited October 5, 2019 by Tagalz
Author Tagalz Posted October 5, 2019 Author Posted October 5, 2019 EDIT The age of consent is 16 in Norway which means I am allowed to have sex with a 17 year old girl without getting into trouble
Author Tagalz Posted October 5, 2019 Author Posted October 5, 2019 Age of consent in Germany is 14. Age of consent in Norway is 16. Tag is in perfect harmony with the laws of his country and culture. It's 18 here in the states but it is more an ideal today then reality. You saw that before me! I realized I wrote the wrong facts... so yes for people reading this... It won’t do any harm if I have sex with her. Question is: Does she want just hookups or a relationship?
Gaeta Posted October 5, 2019 Posted October 5, 2019 In my country consent age is 16, it doesn't mean it's right for a 23 year old to date a 17 year old. She's still a teen, you're an adult man. You're at different places in your life. If you want to know what she wants you do like the rest of people dating, you ask. 1
crispytoast Posted October 5, 2019 Posted October 5, 2019 It’s actually good to see other cultural attitude as well (: what happends in the US if people have sex or date girls that are under 18? If they're lucky enough to be arrested instead of facing vigilante justice, they go to jail where they get regularly manhandled by an inmate twice their size. Unless of course they are a priest, a member of Congress, or filthy rich in which case their cohorts cover for them and it all gets wiped under the rug.
RecentChange Posted October 7, 2019 Posted October 7, 2019 You saw that before me! I realized I wrote the wrong facts... so yes for people reading this... It won’t do any harm if I have sex with her. Wouldn't do any harm? You mean you wouldn't be in legal trouble. I am assuming you know that she isn't a virgin? Do you know about her past relationships? Has she dated older men before, or only school boys? Why do you, as an adult independent man have a lot in common with a school girl living at home? Are you behind your peers in social development? What do you and this girl have in common when it comes to lifestyle etc? Will she be leaving for uni next year? 1
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