Tagalz Posted September 20, 2019 Posted September 20, 2019 (edited) Hey! I’m so excited that I will go to my first date this monday with a girl from Hinge! It’s been a long time since I last were on a date so I might have forgotten most part. We can call her for «Amy». We talked about our vacation and later about music. I did not want to waste my time on Hinge talking so I went straight forward and asked if she wanted to go on a date and she replied with «yes» She’s 18 year old and lives a little bit far from Oslo but the train just takes 15 min so it’s not all that bad. My plan is to go for a walk and then take her and go bowling but I can’t decide between the two places. I don’t want to eat dinner cause I feel it puts pressure on me. Taking her to a restaurant will be for the 2 date If I will get one. The first place: It’s located nearby the city but we still have to take the bus. The good thing is that they have an offer where you can get free slushie if you get 3 strikes in a row. The bad thing is it could be awkward on our way home. We need to take the bus together and it’s possible it would be silence between us. The second place: Is located far from the city (about 20 min) and is a new bowling place. Only good thing is that I can take the bus directly home while she has to spend time in the train and after that switch to another which will take her 1hour for her to be back home. This also means that it’s less awkward so we don’t have to sit on the bus and not say a word. Which place would you choose? Any other advice on what we could do? Edited September 20, 2019 by Tagalz
schlumpy Posted September 20, 2019 Posted September 20, 2019 I'm very happy for you but I think you should make sure that bowling is something she can do or even likes. I'm assuming of course that bowling with an alley and ten pins? It's a fun activity but not everyone does it or cares to learn. It does require practice and skill. Do you have miniature golf in OSLO?
justwhoiam Posted September 21, 2019 Posted September 21, 2019 My plan is to go for a walk and then take her and go bowling but I can’t decide between the two places. I don’t want to eat dinner cause I feel it puts pressure on me. Taking her to a restaurant will be for the 2 date If I will get one. You can have something at the bowling place, usually. Most have a diner or at least a café. Would the date be in the afternoon? I guess so... The first place: It’s located nearby the city but we still have to take the bus. The good thing is that they have an offer where you can get free slushie if you get 3 strikes in a row. The bad thing is it could be awkward on our way home. We need to take the bus together and it’s possible it would be silence between us. You gotta take risks, kid How far is it going to be for her? I say: make it the most comfortable for her. If you run out of things to say on the way home, you smile and tell her you hope she loved the bowling as much as you did, give her time to answer, and then say that you guess you loved it more than other time because you were in her company. That'll surely give you more points (but no slushie ) The second place: Is located far from the city (about 20 min) and is a new bowling place. Only good thing is that I can take the bus directly home while she has to spend time in the train and after that switch to another which will take her 1hour for her to be back home. Don't overwhelm her with something that sounds like a long commute. Make it easy for her and, most of all, pleasant. Any other advice on what we could do? I think it's perfect for a date... I'd love it But ask her and see what she thinks. As an alternative, you could go to see some castle, take pictures with the view, and then take her to some tea house or nice place for a lovely break in the afternoon. Get to know her tastes... if things go well later on, I already have an idea for a full day outing 1
Author Tagalz Posted September 21, 2019 Author Posted September 21, 2019 I'm very happy for you but I think you should make sure that bowling is something she can do or even likes. I'm assuming of course that bowling with an alley and ten pins? It's a fun activity but not everyone does it or cares to learn. It does require practice and skill. Do you have miniature golf in OSLO? There is! I’ve already order a table for two in the bowling hall so I will keep your suggestion in my mind for later dates xD 1
Author Tagalz Posted September 21, 2019 Author Posted September 21, 2019 You can have something at the bowling place, usually. Most have a diner or at least a café. Would the date be in the afternoon? I guess so. How far is it going to be for her? I say: make it the most comfortable for her. If you run out of things to say on the way home, you smile and tell her you hope she loved the bowling as much as you did, give her time to answer, and then say that you guess you loved it more than other time because you were in her company. That'll surely give you more points (but no slushie ) I think it's perfect for a date... I'd love it But ask her and see what she thinks. As an alternative, you could go to see some castle, take pictures with the view, and then take her to some tea house or nice place for a lovely break in the afternoon. Get to know her tastes... if things go well later on, I already have an idea for a full day outing The second option is far from her. She lives in the west side of Oslo and I live in the east side. From east to west takes about 1hour and 15 min by train so it could take her up to 2 hours to get home if I choose that option. I have choosen the first option because it’s easier for her to get home. Yes I was thinking afternoon like 19:00 or 20:00 Dinner and cafe is not an option this time around as I have already told her that we will take a walk before we go bowling. But I will make sure to buy her ice cream while we walk so we can have something to eat on xD Thanks! I also think it’s a good date and especially your idea of taking pictures with a view xD 1
preraph Posted September 21, 2019 Posted September 21, 2019 You should do Place 1 because it's rude to give her an hour to get home alone. Doesn't matter if she's bowled or not. You can teach her. Just tell her to keep her wrist straight facing forward while swinging her arm and crouching slightly to drop the ball. 2
Author Tagalz Posted September 21, 2019 Author Posted September 21, 2019 Doesn't matter if she's bowled or not. You can teach her. Just tell her to keep her wrist straight facing forward while swinging her arm and crouching slightly to drop the ball. I’m not really good at bowling myself so we both can laugh at it if she is also not good 1
justwhoiam Posted September 21, 2019 Posted September 21, 2019 The second option is far from her. She lives in the west side of Oslo and I live in the east side. From east to west takes about 1hour and 15 min by train so it could take her up to 2 hours to get home if I choose that option. I have choosen the first option because it’s easier for her to get home. Ok, but in my book, it doesn't have to be even! You can do the traveling and stay in her area. Consider that too for other times... Yes I was thinking afternoon like 19:00 or 20:00 Hmm, that's not afternoon, that's evening... going into the night! Is 7 pm the time you go home or the time you meet? 7/8 pm is exactly dinner time, unless you agree you both eat before the date. I mean, if I was taken out at 7 I'd expect to have dinner!
preraph Posted September 21, 2019 Posted September 21, 2019 You can always have a hot dog at the bowling alley.
Author Tagalz Posted September 21, 2019 Author Posted September 21, 2019 Hmm, that's not afternoon, that's evening... going into the night! Is 7 pm the time you go home or the time you meet? 7/8 pm is exactly dinner time, unless you agree you both eat before the date. I mean, if I was taken out at 7 I'd expect to have dinner! Ops my bad! I ment that I’ll meet her at 16:00 xD I will keep you updated, Justwhoiam
preraph Posted September 21, 2019 Posted September 21, 2019 Well, have fun! Don't worry and just relax and have fun.
Author Tagalz Posted September 23, 2019 Author Posted September 23, 2019 Hey. As you may know from my last thread I went out on a date with Amy from Hinge App. We were eating ice cream while walking to «Tjuvholmen» which is a nice place by the sea with cool looking architecture like buildings. We sat by the sea and talked about ice cream to begin with. I did apparently choose her favourite ones which was haagen dazs salted caramel. Haagen dazs never fails After taking a walk we went bowling but she were not good at all and I won both times... yeah I was kinda savage not letting her win. She did not talk much tho but because she were so bad she wanted me to teach her. When we were done I was thinking to go home but she said that she wanted to stay a little longer with me even if she had to wake up early for school. I take it as a good sign. One thing that shook me was that she’s not 18! She lied on the app so her real age is 17.... so I don’t think I would have a relationship with her until she’s 18 tho She does not have any hobbies, she works at a grocery store, her favourite color is white, she has a big sister, her favourite movies are drama. She talked a lot about school related things and asked me back about school so I had to go down my memory lane hahah. We also don’t like the same movie genre. Overall: We are in different life situation cause she’s 17. I have two jobs, I have my own apartment while she have a job, studies besides the job and does not know what she wants to be in the future. The only common thing is that we both wants to have a car license and we both have a job
spiderowl Posted September 23, 2019 Posted September 23, 2019 If she lied about her age, she could still be lying about her age. I would be careful not to assume she really is 17. I do not know what the age of consent is in your country but you need the truth here or you could get in trouble with the law. It sounds like the date went well. What attracted you to her in the first place? It sounds like she might be rather too young for you.
Author Tagalz Posted September 23, 2019 Author Posted September 23, 2019 How old are you? 23 year old
alphamale Posted September 23, 2019 Posted September 23, 2019 maybe you can date her big sister next 5
Author Tagalz Posted September 23, 2019 Author Posted September 23, 2019 What attracted you to her in the first place? It sounds like she might be rather too young for you. Age of consent is 17. Since I’m 23 I won’t be able to have sexual relationship with her because she’s considered being too young. Her looks attracted me the most. She’s not 10/10 but she’s an 8. Other than that I feel like she understands me and that we both think alike.
alphamale Posted September 23, 2019 Posted September 23, 2019 a 17 year old "understands" you?!? now I've heard it all 1
schlumpy Posted September 23, 2019 Posted September 23, 2019 Hey. Haagen dazs never fails Yes, my wife would heartily endorse that statement with a spoon in her mouth. I think this is a great start. Try and stay relaxed, be casual and go with the flow. This could be very good for you and I wish well. 1
Author Tagalz Posted September 23, 2019 Author Posted September 23, 2019 maybe you can date her big sister next Hahah! Why not right? 1
Foxhall Posted September 23, 2019 Posted September 23, 2019 girls mature earlier than guys and all that, this is a good one for you Tagalz, your on a winner here:cool:
RecentChange Posted September 23, 2019 Posted September 23, 2019 I would want to see a government issued ID stating her age, and get a chance to meet her parents. That is if you really want to be dating a high school girl. I know when I was 23, like you I had my own place, I had a real job and real responsibilities. Dating someone who was still in highschool, living at home, and not yet experienced being an adult is the last thing I would want to do. And double if you do persue this school girl, always always wear a condom - please no teen pregnancies 1
BaileyB Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 Age of consent is 17. Since I’m 23 I won’t be able to have sexual relationship with her because she’s considered being too young. I think it’s a long way from ice cream and bowling to sex. Seriously, if you like her - go out with her again. Get to know her and have a little fun - go to the movies, ice skating, out for dinner, etc. Getting a little practice dating and talking to a girl would be a good thing... It would also be a good experience for you to find out what is and is not important in a relationship - you will be surprised how little it matters what her favourite color is or whether you like the same movie genre. Just have fun.
BaileyB Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 That is if you really want to be dating a high school girl. I know when I was 23, like you I had my own place, I had a real job and real responsibilities. Dating someone who was still in highschool, living at home, and not yet experienced being an adult is the last thing I would want to do. Girls do mature faster than boys. It is important to date others who are of similar social and emotional development. This seems to be a good match. 1
smackie9 Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 As soon as she gets to drinking age, she's going to leave you in the dust as she heads off to the night clubs. Don't waste your time. 2
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