FREEcandies Posted September 30, 2005 Posted September 30, 2005 I recently went through a break up. It was a 3 year relationship and the breakup was not my choice. I've simply been dumped. I've already come to terms with it, there's no getting back and I've already started to move on. I've done everything to let her fade out of my head and everything seems to be working just fine except one thing. I am having sleeping problems. Lately I haven't been able to have a sleep of more than 6hrs. I'd go to sleep only to be woken up about 4 hrs later by a dream of her. I've never been woken up by dreams before, they're more like nightmares. And when I wake up, I don't really feel like going back to sleep. Has anyone gone through the same thing? I feel like I should talk to a doctor but I don't know whether I need to see a family doctor or a psychologist. Your comments please.
tillgii Posted September 30, 2005 Posted September 30, 2005 Yeah I went throught this phase for 2 weeks. Its just time that will help. Talk to your mates at night or do things like sports to make you really tired. The only real cure is time.
lynnered Posted September 30, 2005 Posted September 30, 2005 ive been going through that ,cant fall asleep then when i do i cant wake up. mine is depression related to ending of a unhealthy relationship. has been going for a couple of months so i had to go to a doctor,if its longer then 1 week i read on a website when my problem started,because it can persist long after Ur stress has went away. and write down Ur sleep habits until U see the doctor . it sounds like its breakup related ,but sleep issues are related to depression are U having any other issues? i wish U luck& take care of U ,time will help:D
Author FREEcandies Posted September 30, 2005 Author Posted September 30, 2005 Depression? Can it be caused by breakups? I don't think I am depressed. I bring myself out of the house, I hang out with friends, talk, chat, play games, even manage to smile and meet new people. I've heard that time will heal many times over and I don't doubt that. The only thing now that makes me doubt my ability to overcome this is the sleeping trouble. Aside from the breakup, I can't see anything else wrong with my life. Thanks.
slubberdegullion Posted September 30, 2005 Posted September 30, 2005 There's lots of info available in bookstores and online about sleep problems. It seems that a substantial percentage of North Americans are chronically sleep-deprived, maybe upwards of 30% (http://www.cmha.calgary.ab.ca/virtuallibrary/cmhapub/articles/whileyou.aspx). This page has some basic tips about insomnia and how to overcome it: http://www.well.com/user/mick/insomnia Good luck!
Author FREEcandies Posted September 30, 2005 Author Posted September 30, 2005 well I never had sleeping problems before until recently. Iv'e always been able to go to sleep and wake up whenever I want or have the alarm do it. but not I wake up even before the alarm wakes me up even though it's only been 4 hrs. Thanks for the sites, I'll try some of that.
lynnered Posted September 30, 2005 Posted September 30, 2005 Depression? Can it be caused by breakups? I don't think I am depressed. I bring myself out of the house, I hang out with friends, talk, chat, play games, even manage to smile and meet new people. I've heard that time will heal many times over and I don't doubt that. The only thing now that makes me doubt my ability to overcome this is the sleeping trouble. Aside from the breakup, I can't see anything else wrong with my life. Thanks. "mine is depression related to ending of a unhealthy relationship." "it sounds like its breakup related ,but sleep issues are related to depression are U having any other issues" i was reffering to mine being depression ,Urs sounds like breakup related ,like i stated ,then i was questioning U if anything else was wrong because sometimes if someone is depressed they usually have sleep issues. i wasnt trying to diagnose, U i am not a doctor nor do i play one on TV:rolleyes:
Author FREEcandies Posted September 30, 2005 Author Posted September 30, 2005 yes, mine is definitely breakup related. I read from webmd that temporary insomnia can arise from a great deal of stress/anxiety and they usually last from 1 week to 4 weeks. I'm hoping that is the case for me. I am in school and this is not going to help with the studies. If this persists, I'll have to go see a doctor.
brooke7777 Posted October 1, 2005 Posted October 1, 2005 I've been experiencing sleep problems for about 6 weeks now. Like you, I am coming out of a 3 1/2 year relationship and it was not my choice. Unlike you, I am having a real hard time coping and am not really ready to move on yet. The first two weeks were awful...I honestly don't know how I functioned. I probably slept about an hour or two each night. Since then I don't think I've slept more than 5 or 6 hours a night. Usually it's between 3 and 5. I'm not having too many nightmares, but I am restless. I have trouble falling asleep and I wake up really early. The weird thing is that I'm not really that tired. I wake up a little tired, but I'm never tired at night. I exercise everyday and I've tried to vary my workout times, but that hasn't helped me. I'm not really for sleeping medicine, but I know lots of people that have used that to help. I've also heard that journaling or reading inspirational/prayer books can help for they help get all of your thoughts out so your mind isn't running in a million directions. I also NEVER had sleeping problems before this. It's so frustrating because I want to sleep and there are time that I knowI look awful and totally sleep deprived, but my body just won't allow me to sleep. Good luck with your sleep.
lynnered Posted October 1, 2005 Posted October 1, 2005 6 weeks is a long time ! have U made a dr appointment ? even with Ur general doctor ?
Author FREEcandies Posted October 1, 2005 Author Posted October 1, 2005 brooke7777, I'm very sorry that you have been going through this a lot longer than I have. I know what you are talking about though and it's a little comforting to know that it isn't just something that I have alone. The "nightmares" I mentioned aren't the nightmares in the usual meaning. They aren't the scary dreams that wake you gasping for air. I used the the term nightmare as a metaphore because my dreams wake me up in the middle of the night. Lately I've been getting about 3-5 hrs each night also. During class I'd get really sleepy but otherwise I don't feel tired at all. I sure hope that you will be able to move on with your life soon and one day both of us will be able to sleep fine again. PM if you want someone to talk.
brooke7777 Posted October 1, 2005 Posted October 1, 2005 Yeah...I'm not really for sleeping meds. It is off and on. I'll go a few days in a row where I'll sleep about 6 hours each night and then I'll go a few days where I'll sleep 3 hours a night. It sucks...but I think that in time I'll eventually fall back into regular sleeping patterns. My mind is still trying to process things too much
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