Flame Aura Posted October 15, 2019 Posted October 15, 2019 Name showing on Caller ID? What craziness is that? Must be an American thing I'm assuming. None of that rubbish here in Europe, shows your number only (as it should) unless the person receiving has your number saved under a name. 1
Shining One Posted October 15, 2019 Posted October 15, 2019 I wonder what women like this think about men who use company-provided cell phones. 1
dramallama Posted October 15, 2019 Posted October 15, 2019 This is what I was thinking. If I were getting ready to meet "John Smith" but the caller ID said he was "Tom Smith," unless one or the other was his middle name, I'd get a weird feeling, like this guy doesn't have his act together or maybe he's even some kind of con artist. I agree. It makes me think 'Is this your second phone? Are you married?' or 'Are you a player intending to hit and quit it and disappear?' 4
SumGuy Posted October 15, 2019 Posted October 15, 2019 I agree. It makes me think 'Is this your second phone? Are you married?' or 'Are you a player intending to hit and quit it and disappear?' That would be my thought. Then she asked if it was because he was poor, which she gets, but it is not. OP you tried to put it off as being frugal, but she didn't believe it as she believed the savings would be so minimal for a successful man that either he must be cheap (will he haggle with me to pay more for the bill if I get an extra drink) or lying. Neither good. In a sense you are lying, to the phone company, because it seems you are afraid to contact the phone company because you are not properly on the plan anyway. For some people that would be a problem right there. Now she may be ignoring all your other good traits, but she has never met you, you are just a stranger who goes by two names. It's not outside the realm of reasonable behavior that she decided to go with other guys who do not have this issue. 3
alphamale Posted October 15, 2019 Posted October 15, 2019 How do I meet women the old fashioned way? Really the only time I see women is at the grocery store or sometimes jogging/bike riding. Whenever I do an activity it's either all guys or a bunch of 60+ women. then you're going to the wrong activities
Allupinnit Posted October 15, 2019 Posted October 15, 2019 Ugh I used to hate when my phone showed my H's name when I dialed out. Should be an easy fix. Just call the cell phone company and get it straightened out. Then you won't run into this again. 1
lurker74 Posted October 17, 2019 Posted October 17, 2019 I am sorry OP, but you should look at it as funny not disheartening. She's a whack job. I've had a girl move on because my text bubbles were green (iPhone users who get texts from Android users get green bubbles); she said I must be financially unstable if I can't afford an iPhone. I thanked her for showing me who she was so early on and moved along. Be thankful for those who don't hide those parts of themselves. It saves you time.
Author max3732 Posted October 19, 2019 Author Posted October 19, 2019 I'm guessing that the brother didn't provide the necessary information to update the CNAM for the line. OP, which carrier are you using? Most of the carriers I've dealt with allow you to update CNAM information online, so there would be no need to call anyone. We have T-mobile and got the plan years ago. The only other time this came up is when I left a voicemail and someone called me back and called me by my brother's name. When my parents call me it has his name too. We've had it like this for probably over a decade and I've never really thought anything of it.
Author max3732 Posted October 19, 2019 Author Posted October 19, 2019 OP--just make sure that when she tries to get back in touch with you after getting over whose name is on an account that's none of her business, she's effectively blocked and can stay exactly where she is and not bother you with "I'm sorry, blah blah weak selfish effin' blah..." Yeah, she is sorry... a sorry sack of ... When she said that she figured I was poor or cheap I was very tempted to mention something about my income or some of the purchases I've made or trips I've done to show I'm not cheap, but like I said before that felt wrong. I don't buy or do things to show off to people and I certainly don't feel right having to justify that I'm not poor or cheap.
Author max3732 Posted October 19, 2019 Author Posted October 19, 2019 I am sorry OP, but you should look at it as funny not disheartening. She's a whack job. I've had a girl move on because my text bubbles were green (iPhone users who get texts from Android users get green bubbles); she said I must be financially unstable if I can't afford an iPhone. I thanked her for showing me who she was so early on and moved along. Be thankful for those who don't hide those parts of themselves. It saves you time. A few years ago I was meeting with someone for work and she was also shocked that I didn't have an iPhone. She knew I was in a good financial position so asked why I would buy an Android instead and I told her I preferred it. So I guess there are definitely people out there who judge you on thing you wouldn't even image. I'm planning on getting an AMD instead of an Intel processor on my next PC. If that costs me any dates I'm going to take a break from dating.
Author max3732 Posted October 19, 2019 Author Posted October 19, 2019 I agree. It makes me think 'Is this your second phone? Are you married?' or 'Are you a player intending to hit and quit it and disappear?' Why would it make you think someone is married or a player if his first name was different than the one on the caller ID and he explained why? If you liked his profile and were enjoying texting wouldn't you want to at least meet him and not write him off completely?
SumGuy Posted October 19, 2019 Posted October 19, 2019 Why would it make you think someone is married or a player if his first name was different than the one on the caller ID and he explained why? If you liked his profile and were enjoying texting wouldn't you want to at least meet him and not write him off completely? Max you need to realize that the names not matching is odd. I believe you but I’m not dating you and I have never encountered the situation you describe where the name doesn’t match the phone. Many responses here are telling you how easy it is to get the name changed. What it would say to me as a potential date is that you are using your brothers phone to hide from maybe your wife who you call, etc. or you are a player who gave a fake name to her so if it goes south easier for you to disappear. sadly these two are more likely explanations than the truth. That you gave an explanation doesn’t mean much if someone thinks your lying. Cheaters and players always have an explanation. Cheaters and players are often charming. Maybe she did find you cheap, but here’s the thing it’s not your plan it is the two different names. She is not unreasonable to be suspicious and decide it is not worth the risk, I bet if she posted her side of the story here everyone would call your explanation BS and go on about how easy it is to get the correct name to show up.
basil67 Posted October 19, 2019 Posted October 19, 2019 Why would it make you think someone is married or a player if his first name was different than the one on the caller ID and he explained why? Because when it's so easy to have a phone in your own name, the explanation sounds like a lie.
The Outlaw Posted October 19, 2019 Posted October 19, 2019 Like alpha said, try meeting people IRL. OLD is full of peeps who just don’t know what they really want, or it’s just for the sake of an ego stroke. At least meeting people face to face, you know what you’re getting.
Gretchen12 Posted October 19, 2019 Posted October 19, 2019 I do think she over reacted but it probably means she was not that keen on you to begin with. Nothing wrong with being cheap... I mean, frugal. The problem is the initial confusion, the discrepancy. And then people wonder why it's ok with you to live with that inconvenience. Having someone else's name means either you like being incognito, or you are complacent and you're willing to put up with things rather than fix it.
Author max3732 Posted October 19, 2019 Author Posted October 19, 2019 Max you need to realize that the names not matching is odd. I believe you but I’m not dating you and I have never encountered the situation you describe where the name doesn’t match the phone. Many responses here are telling you how easy it is to get the name changed. What it would say to me as a potential date is that you are using your brothers phone to hide from maybe your wife who you call, etc. or you are a player who gave a fake name to her so if it goes south easier for you to disappear. sadly these two are more likely explanations than the truth. That you gave an explanation doesn’t mean much if someone thinks your lying. Cheaters and players always have an explanation. Cheaters and players are often charming. Maybe she did find you cheap, but here’s the thing it’s not your plan it is the two different names. She is not unreasonable to be suspicious and decide it is not worth the risk, I bet if she posted her side of the story here everyone would call your explanation BS and go on about how easy it is to get the correct name to show up. It's a bit strange to me that people automatically assume the worst of others without even meeting them or talking to them. Like I said this has never come up in probably 10+ years of having the same plan. If it's important for the names to match I'll ask my brother to see about changing it. She didn't say the 1st names not matching was the issue so I didn't know to change it. Instead she said I must be extremely poor or am cheap. Her side of the story I would imagine would be the same. From her point of view she gives out her number to a guy after chatting online then finds out he has a shared phone plan and then decides they're not a match? It took me asking why to find out she thought I was poor or cheap.
Author max3732 Posted October 19, 2019 Author Posted October 19, 2019 Like alpha said, try meeting people IRL. OLD is full of peeps who just don’t know what they really want, or it’s just for the sake of an ego stroke. At least meeting people face to face, you know what you’re getting. Any suggestions on meeting people IRL when you can't meet them at work or school? I just don't meet women in their 30s IRL. The only ones I meet are either early 20s, married, or much older. The other day I was proud of myself for talking to a couple cute girls at the grocery store, but they're still undergrads. I was also chatting a receptionist who kept flirting with me and she said she's a senior in college and though I was still in school. So I guess I fortunately still look young for my age, but just wish I could find someone.
Author max3732 Posted October 19, 2019 Author Posted October 19, 2019 I do think she over reacted but it probably means she was not that keen on you to begin with. Nothing wrong with being cheap... I mean, frugal. The problem is the initial confusion, the discrepancy. And then people wonder why it's ok with you to live with that inconvenience. Having someone else's name means either you like being incognito, or you are complacent and you're willing to put up with things rather than fix it. Like I said I didn't realize that it was something that needed fixing. Most people these days just put your name and number in their contacts and don't go off of caller ID. The few that don't haven't cared until now. I've gotten calls from people where their first name didn't match or it had a company name and I don't care. What bothers me with OLD if a woman has a picture with a guy and then blocks out his face with no explanation.
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