pucksdown Posted October 13, 2019 Posted October 13, 2019 So, new girl moved in to our area recently at our office about 2 months ago. Slowly over the last few weeks we have began talking more and more. At first just friendly banter, but it has escalated over the last 3 weeks or so. Conversation is always easy even from the day I introduced myself to her. Each time we talk, whether it's in her office or my office, on the phone during the day, it's always flirty, from the talking, tone of voice, eye contact, laughing and body language. All of her signs are there. She definitely does't do any of this with anyone else in the office, actually she is very shy around everyone else. When we are out and about around the office area or riding around in a car, she often brushes up against me, I will touch her, she never pulls away and will often pull in closer. Friday we had lunch with friends at work, she sat next to me and would make leg contact without pulling away pretty much the entire lunch. Later than afternoon, we found ourselves in my office with the door closed having a private conversation, nothing flirty at first, but more about something work related. Then as I am sitting on my desk, she gets a little closer and comments on how good I smell, as we lock eyes I ask her if she knows how beautiful she is, the tension was real, but got sidetracked with some people right out side my office. I like this girl in more ways than one, as a friend and well, you know. Looking for input on should I, or shouldn't I.
Flame Aura Posted October 13, 2019 Posted October 13, 2019 Why is this even a question? Off course you should go for it, why would you not? You are the man, so take the lead.
d0nnivain Posted October 13, 2019 Posted October 13, 2019 Office romance is tricky. What happens if it all goes wrong? You still have to work together. Then again we regret more in life the things we don't do. I'd say ask but if she says no, do not pursue. You do not want her to cry sexual harassments & get you in trouble at work.
smackie9 Posted October 13, 2019 Posted October 13, 2019 (edited) I agree these things can get sticky. If you two start seeing each other, then you find out she's freakin cray cray so you dump her, she can slap a sexual harassment charge against you out of haste. That me too movement thing happened at all levels. Not worth losing your job and future employment. If you really really like this girl, then yes ask her out, but find employment elsewhere while you are at it. True story, my friend told me about a new lady that started with them. 3 weeks later, my friend told a slightly off colour joke to her and a group of people. It wasn't anything that bad, but this lady started a sexual harassment law suite against my friend (btw my friend is a woman). It was pretty obvious this lady was looking to sue someone for her own financial gain because the accusations were extreme/farfetched. This person never said a word to my friend that she took offense or went to the supervisor, no she went to labor relations, which a government protection firm, where they have lawyers etc for cases like sexual harassment in the workplace. So the moral of the story is, you just never know what a person's motivation is. If this girls is way out of your league and women hitting on you is very rare, I would be very cautious if I were you. Edited October 13, 2019 by smackie9
preraph Posted October 13, 2019 Posted October 13, 2019 Unless you're her boss, I say ask her out but resolve to act polite and professional no matter what happens going forward. If you're her boss, no, because she may be only letting things go that far because she thinks she needs to. 1
Author pucksdown Posted October 13, 2019 Author Posted October 13, 2019 Unless you're her boss, I say ask her out but resolve to act polite and professional no matter what happens going forward. If you're her boss, no, because she may be only letting things go that far because she thinks she needs to. Not her boss. Girl is not out of my league for sure. I am a good looking, successful guy. I have just never had this type of relationship with a girl I work with, where it just happens very naturally.
Lotsgoingon Posted October 13, 2019 Posted October 13, 2019 Ask her out ... I would do that before kissing in the office. Go out ... movies, dinner, whatever ... and somehow there is more room to think about dating. You guys will need to figure out how to be together at work. It is highly risky to date someone you work with everyday. Highly risky. So proceed with caution. You have only known her 2 months. There's a lot you still don't know about her. I would say, no rush. Also you need to know your job's policy about dating a coworker and all of that. You two don't seem like the type that will be able to keep this a secret.
elaine567 Posted October 13, 2019 Posted October 13, 2019 You may not be her boss, but if it could be perceived that there is a power imbalance and you, due to certain factors ie difference in job grade, age(big age gap), influence in the company etc. were taking advantage, then best not to go there. Last thing you want is for her to allege harassment, when things go pear-shaped. You also need to be aware that, whilst she may indeed be a lovely genuine girl, we all like a love story, she is new, you don't really know her and she may be using you to further her own ambition, be careful, don't get too carried away.
smackie9 Posted October 13, 2019 Posted October 13, 2019 Just remember hell has no fury like a woman scorned especially in the workplace. 1
alphamale Posted October 13, 2019 Posted October 13, 2019 how much do you like your job and a regular paycheck pucks??
lavenderandvelvet Posted October 14, 2019 Posted October 14, 2019 How big is your company? Do you two have shared projects?
Recommended Posts