Alexafree Posted June 6, 2001 Posted June 6, 2001 My BF and I have a very mature, open (meaning we speak freely about our past, our feelings, etc.), committed relationship. I have never been a jealous girlfriend, I've never felt the need. Yet this relationship is unlike any other I have been in. My beau was some what of a "player" in the past, he is very charismatic, therefore attracts a lot of women. Sometimes he can even be a little flirty. On a few occassions I have been insanely jealous - a very new feeling for me. I know that I am his one and only. How do I get over this new-found insecurity?
feisty red Posted June 6, 2001 Posted June 6, 2001 My BF and I have a very mature, open (meaning we speak freely about our past, our feelings, etc.), committed relationship. I have never been a jealous girlfriend, I've never felt the need. Yet this relationship is unlike any other I have been in. My beau was some what of a "player" in the past, he is very charismatic, therefore attracts a lot of women. Sometimes he can even be a little flirty. On a few occassions I have been insanely jealous - a very new feeling for me. I know that I am his one and only. How do I get over this new-found insecurity?
feisty red Posted June 6, 2001 Posted June 6, 2001 I know exactly how you feel. Our situation is almost the same. I just have to remind myself he's with me. I basically bite my tongue and try to think of other things. I would like to know how to get over this insecurity. But for now, that's what I do.
jen Posted June 6, 2001 Posted June 6, 2001 is it possible that he likes to see that you get jealous and kind of plays into it? if so, which is what a boyfriend of mine use to do until i realized i was playing right into his hands.....then once i quit and just ignored his flirting and what nots, it took all the fun right out of it for him.... it still killed me but after a while i just learned to look the other way, then he finally stopped...it's worth a try if nothing else.
kiara Posted June 7, 2001 Posted June 7, 2001 I think the most important thing for you to remember is that a man is a man and he will do exactly what he wants. If he chooses to cheat on you there is no amount of jealousy that is going to stop him! As a matter of fact that will probably encourage it! You must trust your own judgement, did you choose to be with him cause he is a good man or was it his physical appearance? If he is with you cause you are a good woman nothing some "hotbody" says or does to him will take him away.
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