ScionaraTC Posted September 30, 2005 Posted September 30, 2005 Well as you all saw in my first couple postings, i've been hanging out with this girl for quite sometime, and we've been talking nearly almost everyday on the phone. Well, i'm leaving for arizona in 19 days, and i will be living out there for a year, however i will be coming home for the holidays. Well tonight on the phone, she said "i think we should be friends for now because you are going away"...inside i was sorta hurt, but i started to think about it and i came back "yeah, i totally agree with you." we've already agreed that we will hang out as much as possible before i leave, and we are going to hang out over my christmas break. BUT..right now i just want to ask her so bad, but i am afraid of what she might say...."what if i wasn't going away, would you want to see where this would lead?"...i want to ask that so bad, i started to get the nerve out, but she said "well its getting late, and we both have to wake up at 6am for work" advice, please, i need it...ladies what would you do if you were her?
jhurtinct Posted September 30, 2005 Posted September 30, 2005 I would probably answer the question truthfully if asked. I would also be scared to death of a LDR, I would want to be friends and take things slow to see where they ended up, for alot of plp LDR"s are a very scary thing. Good luck
HotCaliGirl Posted September 30, 2005 Posted September 30, 2005 "what if i wasn't going away, would you want to see where this would lead?" That implies that you think she currently doesn't want to see where things are leading to...she said she'd stay in contact and spend Christmas, so obviously she already is giving an opportunity to see where things may lead...I wouldn't push it any further, especially since it's only been 19 days you've known each other, if I understand correctly.
RecordProducer Posted September 30, 2005 Posted September 30, 2005 Ask her! If you're in love with her, stay together. Many long-distance relationships have succeeded.
Author ScionaraTC Posted September 30, 2005 Author Posted September 30, 2005 That implies that you think she currently doesn't want to see where things are leading to...she said she'd stay in contact and spend Christmas, so obviously she already is giving an opportunity to see where things may lead...I wouldn't push it any further, especially since it's only been 19 days you've known each other, if I understand correctly. we've known each other for 2 months now. i leave in 19 days...i dont think i will push it any further. i guess she may be giving it an opportunity to see where things may lead during the holiday break...i just have gut feelings inside she could be the "one" if things play out. and yes, we have been taking things very slowly, primarily because i am leaving for arizona.
jhurtinct Posted September 30, 2005 Posted September 30, 2005 Good luck I really hope things work out, and I've always thought a wonderful friendship first makes for a wonderful and loving and honest relationship so maybe its best this way, you can really get to know someone this way. Wish you the best with this and your yr in arizona:)
Author ScionaraTC Posted September 30, 2005 Author Posted September 30, 2005 Good luck I really hope things work out, and I've always thought a wonderful friendship first makes for a wonderful and loving and honest relationship so maybe its best this way, you can really get to know someone this way. Wish you the best with this and your yr in arizona:) thanks a lot! thanks for the advice everyone..needed it to calm down
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