shadyp Posted October 9, 2019 Posted October 9, 2019 Hello all... Its been a while. I have been involved with a man for 5 years. In this time we would spend time together, be intimate but he has never kissed me. Ive asked why amd he blames my behaviour of arguing for the no x. I argue when ive had enough and 'leave' because he won't kiss. Either way its left me emotionally scarred as I feel as if there was something wrong with me for him not to kiss me..I tried too him right at the start but he didnt bite back. X
d0nnivain Posted October 9, 2019 Posted October 9, 2019 After 5 years including intimacy with no kiss & no explanation, you have to conclude he will never kiss or tell. I'm remembering a line from the movie Pretty Woman. Julia Robert's character was explaining to Richard Gere's character that she didn't kiss her johns because it was too intimate. I don't know if that has any bearing here; it's just what I thought of.
Author shadyp Posted October 9, 2019 Author Posted October 9, 2019 After 5 years including intimacy with no kiss & no explanation, you have to conclude he will never kiss or tell. I'm remembering a line from the movie Pretty Woman. Julia Robert's character was explaining to Richard Gere's character that she didn't kiss her johns because it was too intimate. I don't know if that has any bearing here; it's just what I thought of. Yes... cool film. Yes kissing is very intimate. It made me feel bad of myself him not doing that. It is him not wanting intamacy which I can accept and move on. Now and again I get a text and i can't help but think ah hes got something to show me But to date, no avail.
TheFinalWord Posted October 9, 2019 Posted October 9, 2019 Sorry to hear about that. Yes, if you stick with someone that displays red flags early on, and you keep hanging around anyway, it creates an unhealthy attachment and erodes your self-esteem.
preraph Posted October 10, 2019 Posted October 10, 2019 Why on earth would you stay with someone who doesn't love you enough to want to kiss you??????? 1
elaine567 Posted October 10, 2019 Posted October 10, 2019 Some people do not like kissing for all sorts of different reasons. I doubt after 5 years he is ever going to kiss you. As he has never kissed you, why is it a big deal now? Is he a great guy who just never kisses you, or is he someone you feel meh about and his lack of kissing is just one in a long series of complaints you have against him?
chillii Posted October 11, 2019 Posted October 11, 2019 (edited) l'm not big on kissing but it's nothing to do with how l feel. love kissing other parts but lips , pashing, does absolutely nothing for me. Edited October 11, 2019 by chillii
Malin889 Posted October 11, 2019 Posted October 11, 2019 It sounds like it bothers you, otherwise you wouldn’t have written this post. If someone didn’t kiss me, I would think something was wrong, but I don’t think after 5 years I’d try to change them, I probably would have left a long time ago. To me kissing is the sweetest most intimate thing you can do. But that’s just me. Are you guys exclusive? 1
preraph Posted October 11, 2019 Posted October 11, 2019 There was only one guy I didn't want to kiss. I didn't like the way his lips were. Hopefully they were perfect for someone else, but it never felt like kissing. And I liked him more as a friend too. I think if you really like someone, you have the urge to kiss them. And kissing on the lips feels better than kisses elsewhere. The kisser may prefer to kiss elsewhere, but it's just not as sensual elsewhere. It's usually just kind of wet.
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