nc87whf Posted October 8, 2019 Posted October 8, 2019 I haven't had a real crush like this for years, not since my last relationship, which was 3 years ago. I know this is silly because lots of people have had the same crush. I can't stop thinking about my doctor! He isn't even my typical type but for some reason I've been really crushing hard on him. I'm not that young anymore. Definitely didn't expect this to happen. I know most people will say it's a bad idea, since he can't ask me out and it would be hugely inappropriate for me to even try. But I do want to send him a thank you card during the holidays since he really did help my illness. Is there a way I can find out if I have a chance by writing something on the card? I obviously don't want to put anything too out there - I can only send this to his practice and his staff might open it first. Or should I really just kill this thought? It's so hard since I haven't had any real feelings for anyone else and the one time I do, it's for someone I can't really date 99% of the time.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 9, 2019 Posted October 9, 2019 I know most people will say it's a bad idea, since he can't ask me out and it would be hugely inappropriate for me to even try. But I do want to send him a thank you card during the holidays since he really did help my illness. Is there a way I can find out if I have a chance by writing something on the card? I obviously don't want to put anything too out there - I can only send this to his practice and his staff might open it first. Or should I really just kill this thought? It's so hard since I haven't had any real feelings for anyone else and the one time I do, it's for someone I can't really date 99% of the time. Yes, kill this thought. It is extremely risky and you are likely to wind up looking for another doctor when he figures out you have a crush on him and he has draw boundaries with you. Just don't go there.
basil67 Posted October 9, 2019 Posted October 9, 2019 Yes, if he finds out you have a crush, he should refer you to another doctor. 1
vv3469802 Posted October 14, 2019 Posted October 14, 2019 In case when you are kids and you need to celebrate your classmate with a birthday - "Thank you card" is a good idea. But let's face it, you aren't kids and he is your doctor. There is plenty of ways of showing your passion like find him on social media and start chatting or something else.
Gaeta Posted October 14, 2019 Posted October 14, 2019 This is a sign you are lonely and grasping at anything. You don't know this man at all, he's probably married. Quit this crush like an annoying habit, cold!
d0nnivain Posted October 14, 2019 Posted October 14, 2019 Read up on a concept called Transference. You only think you are infatuated with your doctor. It's not reciprocated. You are just grateful that he healed you.
kendahke Posted October 14, 2019 Posted October 14, 2019 Kill the thought. Send him a holiday card, but don't put any messages in it other than gratitude for him helping you. He isn't trying for a personal relationship with you--don't make things awkward for him. His wife or SO will not appreciate you doing this. Don't be that chick.
preraph Posted October 14, 2019 Posted October 14, 2019 First, you need to find out if he is married. Do a background check if that's the only way. He probably is already married or has a girlfriend since he's a doctor, in which case it would be unethical to flirt with him. Usually you can tell if they're married by the photos in their office, but you may not be asked to his office and only see the exam room. The two times I had a passing thought about young doctors, one was a plastic surgeon and he had his picture perfect work of art wife that he'd perfected all over his office. She looked like a tv news broadcaster or model or something. The other one was an eye doctor and he was flirty and single at first, but I let him know I was completely repulsed by his creepy clown hologram. Then last time I saw him, his gorgeous girlfriend came to pick him up for lunch, and I mean she was just fairytale gorgeous. These doctors can get the lookers. The young lookers. I did write a doctor a letter once. I had been sent there for tests to see if I had cancer and he did a thorough set of tests and scans and was so nice. I wrote him a thank you letter (I wasn't flirting) and when I went for the follow-up he had it on his office wall. If anything, do NOT wait for the holiday. That's personal and implies he sends a card back. If you are going to write a thank you, do it now or right after your next appointment and just on a thank you card and no more than two lines long, and no flirting. I have taken two of my doctors muffins before, but they're such killjoys about sweets, you know, so not a great idea.
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