Should i wait for him to intiate or first date, or reach out and confirm plans myself

[Candygirl1414]

I met a guy on Friday night while I was out with my friends. We hung out for about an hour then he asked for my number- none of us were drunk. He texted me that night and also the next day (Saturday). He said both dates that we’d definitely have to get together for a date and I said that would be great. When I was going to bed Saturday we were talking about tv shows I ended the conversation with “ if we get a chance to go out this weekend we can talk about it more then ” I haven’t heard from him for the past 2 days, this is the third day. Should I wait for him to reach out and initiate plans for this weekend or shoot him a text and confirm myself? I know generally people say to let the guy initiate at first to see if theres true interest there but he did seem very into me when we went out and was very complimentary and saying we should definitely go out when he was tetxing me as well.. so not sure if he’s trying to gauge my interest also. Any suggestions? Wait a few more days and see if he’ll text? Or reach out to him tonight or tomorrow? Reaching out tomorrow will be the 4th days which is feel like is a pretty long time..and I know some people say if a guy doesn’t confirm or intiate plans he’s not interested.. thanks all!

[alphamale]

wait for 2 days and then contact him

[smackie9]

Spring something on him...ask him if he wants to meet up for coffee tonight.

[preraph]

No. You already hinted and he didn't ask you for the weekend, so it's not a good time. Just wait for him to ask. Don't be pushy. I mean, he hasn't forgotten that you already pushed for the weekend date. Don't do it again!

[Gaeta]

“ if we get a chance to go out this weekend we can talk about it more then ” I haven’t heard from him for the past 2 days, this is the third day

As I see it, you already asked him out. If he was interested he would have jumped on that offer and set a date and place right there.

 

This guy doesn't reach to you because you're not on his mind. Let him go. It doesn't matter why he was acting interested and now he doesn't, he's dating someone else, his ex called, god knows what.

 

Don't chase after him, he did nothing but fake interest in you.

 

 

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[alphamale]

Spring something on him...ask him if he wants to meet up for coffee tonight.

 

come on smackie, who drinks coffee before bed?

[divegrl]

Please wait for him to initiate.

 

If not you will be constantly questioning his feelings towards you.

 

Have a beautiful day!

[Gretchen12]

There's nothing to confirm. If you reach out about it, I think kinda creepy because YOU hinted at the weekend, you can't just now assume this weekend is in play. If he had hinted at this weekend then you can follow up.

[Candygirl1414]

Just to clarify - he was the one who suggested meeting up this weekend first. he had said to me in one of his text msgs maybe we can meet up for a coffee this weekend . When I ended the conversation saying " if we meet up this weekend" I was just reiterating what he has already suggested.

[kendahke]

Give him until Wednesday to contact you.

 

If he doesn't, he's not that interested or he's waiting to see if this #1 choice wants to do something this weekend... if she doesn't, he'll fall back to you.

 

You haven't even known him 5 days--don't expect devotion out of a stranger.

[Versacehottie]

I strongly believe that if you are "patient" you will end up in the right place. That means the ball is in his court clearly and he almost needs to do the work in order to be the kind of guy you would want to be with. If he doesn't make the effort, you will have lost nothing because he's not that into you or dating isn't a priority for him. If you wait to hear from him, you are teaching him the valuable lesson that you have value and aren't desperate to "make it happen" and push for a guy who doesn't treat you as if you matter. I think meeting a guy halfway to show you are interested and excited is fine or good --in my opinion, you've already done that though.

 

If you do the "work" for him, i think it sends the wrong message about how to treat you and/or he will take you for granted. Just my opinion.

 

I wouldn't get all caught up in the exact wording. The way you told the sequence of events, he does know that he has a green light to arrange something this weekend. Be careful or you will end up with a guy who is lazy about you. For example, if you reach out to him to make it super easy and again suggest or plan getting together, you might even get him to go, actually that's likely but my opinion is that he won't respect your time or your investment as he should. Be careful of over investing in someone who hasn't shown you that you should. Good luck

[Gretchen12]

Just to clarify - he was the one who suggested meeting up this weekend first. he had said to me in one of his text msgs maybe we can meet up for a coffee this weekend . When I ended the conversation saying " if we meet up this weekend" I was just reiterating what he has already suggested.

 

Ok, new info. So when he said "maybe we can meet up for a coffee this weekend". What was your reply?

[Candygirl1414]

I responded “ that would be great!”