CarbonCopy Posted October 7, 2019 Posted October 7, 2019 Just spent another weekend with a guy I've been seeing for almost a month. He mentioned that his mom was going to stop by for breakfast with him yesterday. So after we woke up I said I'd leave before his mom got there. He asked if I wanted to stay and meet her, but I said no. As the morning progressed I changed my mind and decided I would stay to say hello and then go home. His mom ended up getting there later than she said and I went down with him to greet her. She invited me to have brunch with them and I said no, it was ok, but then he said we should so I agreed and we ended up having brunch at this beautiful waterfront restaurant near his place. His mom and I talked the whole time and she's a truly lovely, adorable person. We get back to his place and I was getting ready to leave but they invited me up to his apartment to see him try on the shirts she got him on her latest trip to Europe, lol. So I went up, he tried on the shirts, then we go back down and finally say our goodbyes. I'm assuming this is a good sign if he wanted me to meet her and have lunch together? But I don't want to read into anything either. But it was great to meet her and interact with her. 1
ajequals Posted October 7, 2019 Posted October 7, 2019 It's only been a month So.. try not to be the one in a hurry.
Author CarbonCopy Posted October 7, 2019 Author Posted October 7, 2019 It's only been a month So.. try not to be the one in a hurry. Hurry for what? I'm not rushing anything. I'm happy where we are and how it's going.
preraph Posted October 8, 2019 Posted October 8, 2019 It's a good sign, but you can't assume it's a big deal simply because there are people who bring all their friends around their parents real casually usually because their parents are cool about it and not nagging them to marry and have babies. But then most are cautious about it and wait until they're serious (too soon for that) because they don't want to get their parents started about it and that it is just the more traditional way. I was never able to be that organized because of dating nontraditional guys. I had two who met my mother whether I wanted them to or not. I specifically told one not to come over that day because my mom was coming and that she wasn't all that tolerant of long hair, etc. And he showed up and stayed half the night. My poor mom didn't say a word. Lord. Then I had just broken up with one when my mom came down and I guess he called while I was at work and she invited him to dinner!! He lived nearby, wasn't even finished with his divorce yet (which she knew). So we went and did something and came home ready to cook and then he calls ready to come to dinner (I thought he'd have the sense not to) and says he's over at his wife's, and I said, Well, then let HER cook you dinner, and hung up. So I guess I'm really underqualified to be giving you mom/boyfriend advice because all my boyfriends and my mom were all nuts.
Flame Aura Posted October 8, 2019 Posted October 8, 2019 Why do you keep saying no then changing your mind and saying yes? What's wrong with just saying yes in the first place? If a guy wants you to meet his family off course it's a good sign. I really don't get why you didn't want to at first.
preraph Posted October 8, 2019 Posted October 8, 2019 Well, it could make you worry the guy is moving too fast. I mean, a month...
Author CarbonCopy Posted October 8, 2019 Author Posted October 8, 2019 Why do you keep saying no then changing your mind and saying yes? What's wrong with just saying yes in the first place? If a guy wants you to meet his family off course it's a good sign. I really don't get why you didn't want to at first. I know, lol. I guess I was nervous? And I didn't want to make him feel weird about meeting his mom, even though it was his suggestion. Next time I'm just saying yes.
Author CarbonCopy Posted October 8, 2019 Author Posted October 8, 2019 Well, it could make you worry the guy is moving too fast. I mean, a month... Our pace is good. We're both in our mid to late 30s, not looking to play games. Neither one of us feels like we're rushing into things. 1
Flame Aura Posted October 8, 2019 Posted October 8, 2019 I know, lol. I guess I was nervous? And I didn't want to make him feel weird about meeting his mom, even though it was his suggestion. Next time I'm just saying yes. Nervous yea I guess that makes sense, but you would have to meet her at some point so might as well get it out of the way! If a man suggests to do something, then the last thing it is going to do is make us feel weird. We don't suggest doing things that make us feel weird Just go with the flow, be positive about the future and open to ideas, sounds like things are going well.
d0nnivain Posted October 8, 2019 Posted October 8, 2019 I'm glad it went well. Personally I never would have met his mom under those circumstances. While you are both adults, upon 1st meeting I would have been mortified to immediately confirm to my SO's parent that we had been intimate. Yes, you are both adults & I'm sure she's under no illusions that her son is celibate but just . . . ew. Again, some people are close to their families so meeting the parents is not a big deal. It sounds like he introduced you because mom was going to be there not because he was making some unspoken announcement about the seriousness of your relationship.
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