Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 27, 2019 Author Posted October 27, 2019 If i has no reason not to yes
basil67 Posted October 27, 2019 Posted October 27, 2019 So he goes out to a fun fair with his ex and kids and that night his phone is "broken". You'd believe him?
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 27, 2019 Author Posted October 27, 2019 No probably not but thats not the same. For a start in that case i would know he was with them whereas she didnt know he was out with me last night. He told her was working. He never tells her when hes with me.
basil67 Posted October 27, 2019 Posted October 27, 2019 Yes, it's the same. She knows he's got a side chick and she's making him pay. He's going to be begging her forgiveness before you know it.
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 27, 2019 Author Posted October 27, 2019 But im not a side chick. Theyre broken up and we're in a relationship And like i said she cant even be that angry because she hasnt argued with him. Just told him she doesnt want to speak to him right now and then ignored him
basil67 Posted October 27, 2019 Posted October 27, 2019 Yeah, sure you're in a relationship....he won't even be in the same photo with you and his social media still has love notes to her. One doesn't need to have an argument to be angry. He wasn't there when she needed him, so she's shut him out to punish him. And it sounds like it's working. 1
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 27, 2019 Author Posted October 27, 2019 Hes probably more bothered that he doesnt know how his child is
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 27, 2019 Author Posted October 27, 2019 Shes replied telling him to stop messaging. That shes not angry just extremely disappointed in him. That he let her down when she needed him and that he let the child down
elaine567 Posted October 27, 2019 Posted October 27, 2019 All seems positive. But... everytime someone goes to take a photo he finds a reason not to be in it, like he needs the toilet or hes going to get a drink or go for a smoke. I know he doesnt mind being in photos as ive seen ones of his that either his ex or his mates have posted so its abit odd The difference between FWB/casual/ONS/affair/short term material and relationship material... One is a woman a man is proud of and he wants to show her off, the other he is not proud of, he hides her away and he may deny her existence... As long as there was no proof, he could deny he ever went on that night out with you, a photo was proof, so he was suddenly camera shy...
basil67 Posted October 27, 2019 Posted October 27, 2019 Shes replied telling him to stop messaging. That shes not angry just extremely disappointed in him. That he let her down when she needed him and that he let the child down Well, that's fair on her part.
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 27, 2019 Author Posted October 27, 2019 Is disappointment worse than anger?
basil67 Posted October 27, 2019 Posted October 27, 2019 Would you rather your mom be disappointed or angry with you?
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 27, 2019 Author Posted October 27, 2019 Angry i think but thats me personally. Is it the same for everyone? Because hes gone really quiet now
basil67 Posted October 27, 2019 Posted October 27, 2019 He's gone really quiet now? Well there's your answer. She was mad because he was shagging you and gave her a BS story about his phone and so she got him where it hurts. Sounds like she's a good a player as he is. You're really punching above your weight with these two. 1
elaine567 Posted October 27, 2019 Posted October 27, 2019 Is disappointment worse than anger? Probably, as it is easier to shift the blame. "She is angry because she is crazy, she doesn't know what she is talking about..." "It is not my fault, it is her fault for being unreasonable, stupid, ludicrous etc..." He matches anger with anger. But disappointment is different, she is the calm one, the one assessing the situation and the conclusion being that he doesn't come up to scratch. As he knows he doesn't come up to scratch, it hits home... He can still get angry, but matching anger with sadness at being let down doesn't work quite so well... 2
elaine567 Posted October 27, 2019 Posted October 27, 2019 He's gone really quiet now? Well there's your answer. She was mad because he was shagging you and gave her a BS story about his phone and so she got him where it hurts. Sounds like she's a good a player as he is. Is she a "player" or just a mother genuinely disappointed in the father of her child who was MIA when she really needed him?
basil67 Posted October 27, 2019 Posted October 27, 2019 I think she's possibly both. She'd be seriously upset at him with good reason. But she's clearly maintaining some type of close relationship with him. I strongly suspect they have an ongoing dysfunctional relationship happening complete with a lot of head games which both of them seem to feed from.
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 27, 2019 Author Posted October 27, 2019 From what i heard at work once they got together properly everything was good with them for years until they broke up. Do you really think shes playing games?
elaine567 Posted October 27, 2019 Posted October 27, 2019 I think if I was left alone with two kids under 2, I think I would want to maintain some sort of close relationship with the father to relieve me of some of the burden if nothing else...
elaine567 Posted October 27, 2019 Posted October 27, 2019 From what i heard at work once they got together properly everything was good with them for years until they broke up. Do you really think shes playing games? Of course not. She wants him back. It is no game. It is deadly serious She has been dumped with two very small children, she doesn't want them growing up without their father...
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 27, 2019 Author Posted October 27, 2019 Even if he hardly saw the children and he left you for someone else? And he knew you wanted him back. Because thats the case with her. And hes always lying to her, like last night for example, we went out for the night and then stayed in a hotel and he turned his phone off but told her this morning that his phone wasnt working so he never got her messages. He also said he was working last night. Hes told her he doesnt want her back as hes seeing someone but continues to hide when hes actually with me from her. All his friends know about us and came out last night too. He also texts her everyday, even if just to reply to her, puts xxx on the end of his texts and deletes posts if she comments publicly on his things. He left her to be with me so why does he hide it all still? Not just from her but he thinks i didnt see the post he deleted so hes hiding his contact with her too. He tells me its all about the children but they shouldnt need to talk daily then. Should they? And i saw before that if theres times he hasnt replied to her he apologises and reassures her he wasnt ignoring her that he was just busy at work or his mental health was playing up, things like that But then turns his phone off so as she cant message while we're out together which seems like a positive thing, like he doesnt want her disturbing us
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 27, 2019 Author Posted October 27, 2019 Of course not. She wants him back. It is no game. It is deadly serious She has been dumped with two very small children, she doesn't want them growing up without their father... She has made it very clear to him a number of times that she wants him back. He told her no. Yet still keeps in daily contact
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 27, 2019 Author Posted October 27, 2019 He seems happier now. Theyve been texting and shes told him whats going on. I think the child needs surgery. He hasnt said anything about going though and we're only just about to leave the hotel so he doesnt seem in any rush to get anywhere
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 27, 2019 Author Posted October 27, 2019 Ive just seen hes been tagged in photos this morning by his mate. Theres a couple that im in in the background but hes not in them and theres a few selfies of him with his mates. He did seem to spend alot more time with them than he did me too. We only went to our work so it wasnt anything special. Just quite a big get together
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