Gaeta Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 Your sisters are young and pretty much don't know much about life yet, just like you. About your ask your mom what she thinks of your situation? 1
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 My mum has mental health issues so doesnt really take things in very well
Gaeta Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 I am sorry to hear about your mom's condition. :-(
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 Thank you. Shes fine. She just doesnt really understand things
jjbarr19 Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 I'm sure they can, but mine didn't work out the way I envisioned it to work out. To be more specific, I blocked my ex 4 months after the breakup, which then lasted till about a year of NC. After a year, I unblocked her, called her, said that I would like to be friends and remain amicable. It definitely was a weird relationship, because we weren't truly friends. Like she never spoke about her relationship with me, and I rarely mentioned any girls I was seeing. But we weren't lovers obviously. It was weird because we would have a long phone conversation every couple weeks or so, and there were times it felt like we were talking like we were still in the relationship (naturally we're both witty and sarcastic so conversation just flowed.) We were then scheduled to meet. Kind of like our last meetup. I was graduating and so was she so it clearly would have been our last time seeing each other. But she pulled the move of insisting on bringing the person who she basically replaced me with on the date. As in, she started dating this person while we were on a break. What bothered me wasn't that they were dating, but rather I wanted the last interaction with her to be just us. I just know I wouldn't be myself with them two looking at me, and I would have felt resentment throughout the entire interaction. In the end we didn't see each other and we haven't spoken since. I unfollowed her on all platforms because she disrespected me, and you could say we definitely aren't friends anymore lmao.
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 Were you friends in the 4 months before you blocked her? How long were you together?
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 Hes told her tonight that he cant get the bonfire night off work but that hes going to try and swap with someone. I dont think he has any intention of swapping though because as far as im aware he never even asked for the night off. So that means no taking the children to the fireworks and no movie night afterwards
Gaeta Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 So he accepted to make these plans to go out with her and the kids but without the intention of ever going. This guy's word doesn't mean much. 2
dramallama Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 Hes told her tonight that he cant get the bonfire night off work but that hes going to try and swap with someone. I dont think he has any intention of swapping though because as far as im aware he never even asked for the night off. So that means no taking the children to the fireworks and no movie night afterwards you know when I said before he sounds like a pacifier, i.e. he says things to you and her to make you happy in the moment? Here's another example. And I think you know, if he pacifies other people, who's to say he's not just pacifying you?
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 you know when I said before he sounds like a pacifier, i.e. he says things to you and her to make you happy in the moment? Here's another example But why does he feel like he needs to keep her happy? He shouldnt care. He should just say no if she suggests plans or not suggest anything himself
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 Hes been sharing things on IG all night and shes liked all of them and commented on one with xxx on the end. So she must feel comfortable in their 'friendship' or whatever it is to be posting publicly like that. Must'nt she?
Gaeta Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 He shouldnt care. But he does. Any way you turn this around the answer is always that he cares more than he should. What are you going to do about it?
Gaeta Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 Hes been sharing things on IG all night and shes liked all of them and commented on one with xxx on the end. You know real life isn't on IG or FB or any other social media right? When you start counting the x your boyfriend does, or gets, it means you are unhappy and miserable in your relationship.
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 (edited) You know real life isn't on IG or FB or any other social media right? When you start counting the x your boyfriend does, or gets, it means you are unhappy and miserable in your relationship. Hes just deleted the post she commented on. He must not have realised i had already seen it. Im guessing thats why hes deleted it anyway Edited October 25, 2019 by Lucyjane86
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 You know real life isn't on IG or FB or any other social media right? When you start counting the x your boyfriend does, or gets, it means you are unhappy and miserable in your relationship. I realise that. I just meant she obviously doesnt see them talking as a secret or anything to be posting things publicly like that. He on the the other hand must do as he deleted it about 10 mins after she commented
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 Nothing special at all. Its more that he deleted it thats bothering me now. He posted a quote about worrying too much and she put something like that makes 2 of us with a laughing emoji and xxx
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 He didnt just delete her comment. He deleted the entire post. She was the only one that had liked and commented though so it had to be because of that. That was the only one he took down. She didnt even say anything bad so in guessing it was either because she put xxx or because it shows they have alot of friendly contact
Gaeta Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 Why would anyone delete a post just because of xxx. It means nothing. I put xxx at the end of every happy b'day I post. You put too much importance in those x.
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 Why would anyone delete a post just because of xxx. It means nothing. I put xxx at the end of every happy b'day I post. You put too much importance in those x. Yeah i put them to friends and things too. But i would never put them to an ex. And so then why did he delete it?
Gaeta Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 I don't know why and I don't think it's important in the big picture.
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 He must have had a reason for deleting it. Because it shows how much contact they have? That its not all about the children?
Gaeta Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 You already know how much contact they have. You already know they exchange plenty about other things than the kids. I don't know the reason he deleted his post, you can spend the evening coming up with theories, but I won't. In the big picture it's not important. You have plenty of reasons to drop this guy already. Why he deleted that post is not important.
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 You already know how much contact they have. You already know they exchange plenty about other things than the kids. But he doesnt know how much i know because he doesnr know that i looked at his phone that time or that one of the guys at work keeps telling me what hes told him
Gaeta Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 It's not important, like I said you already have plenty of reasons to drop him.
Versacehottie Posted October 26, 2019 Posted October 26, 2019 You are effectively snooping on him and stalking him instead of just talking to him. And that's basically because you know he either a)won't tell you the truth or b) you won't like what you hear. Sorry, you both are out of line. Keep this in mind: a lot of guys (and girls) would dump you just because you are snooping on him and keeping tabs on him. good guys or bad guys. It doesn't matter which one he is--what you are doing isn't helping you or the relationship. That said, there is so much wrong going on here. It really is just a matter of WHEN, not IF, you guys officially break up. Sorry, i know you are doing everything in your power to avoid hearing this. but yeah you two will break up.
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