Legatus Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 That they can still be very, very close friends despite him spending a lot of time with you
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 It still doesn't mean that they can't be friends or more than friends So you believe its possible that they could just be friends?
dramallama Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 So you believe its possible that they could just be friends? Absolutely. Although do remember she got pregnant while they were just friends. 1
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 They were fwb then though. Not just friends
Legatus Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 I specifically did not use word "just" because that you might never know..
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 I specifically did not use word "just" because that you might never know.. So really, no one here believes theres any possibility that they could be just friends?
Legatus Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 I personally think it's possible but highly unlikely. Mostly because I don't know them, I didn't see them together, we only have your stories to base our opinions on. Regardless of who believes what. You don't have to look at it in black&white, like there are just friends or aren't. I can't begin to presume what it's like to have a child together and then split up. That's why I am very cautious in my opinion here. They are definitely friends but whether they are "just" friends is improbable for me to know. It depends whether you can live with the possibility that they might not be just friends..
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 They are definitely friends but whether they are "just" friends is improbable for me to know. It depends whether you can live with the possibility that they might not be just friends.. Ive heard at work that they were really good together and that he was completely in love with her. I think it took him longer to fall in love hence the fwb first. Ive also been told a few times that even while she was away he was trying to get her to have another baby. If they arent having sex does that make them just friends or can they still be more than friends even without sex?
Legatus Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 See you're almost answering your own questions. They had quite a foundation here. Who knows what's going on in their heads right now. They might say to the whole word they're just friends but their actions and feelings will show something different.. I repeat.. who knows...
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 If they arent having sex does that make them just friends or can they still be more than friends even without sex? And this part?
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 (edited) So even though he spends all his time with me and seemingly puts me above all of them the fact he still talks to her everyday, even if shes the one to text him first, and the fact that he lies to her about what hes doing while hes with me means that some part of him still wants her around? And that part of him probably isnt over her whether he realises it or not Edited October 25, 2019 by Lucyjane86
Legatus Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 Part of him? What part? Which part? I don't get when people say that part of somebody isn't over - which part exactly? It is pretty binary thing, you either are or not...
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 Part of him? What part? Which part? I don't get when people say that part of somebody isn't over - which part exactly? It is pretty binary thing, you either are or not... Ok so then hes not?
dramallama Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 If they arent having sex does that make them just friends or can they still be more than friends even without sex? Yes, you can be more than friends without having sex. People have emotional affairs. People have relationships where they're waiting for marriage for sex. Sex does make a relationship and absence of sex does not mean it's platonic.
Legatus Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 Only he could answer that but maybe he wouldn't even admit. It's one of those things that you won't know for sure. It doesn't even matter. What matters is what you believe in and how it makes you feel
elaine567 Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 You have to start looking at this realistically. People have just left long term relationships take a long time to get their head back into gear, that is the truth. It may take weeks, months, years... some may in that time never date anyone, others will jump head long into playing the field or will acquire a "rebound". Here he slotted you into the space she left, you and he do all the "homely" stuff he did with her, you feel cosy and warm, but it is not real. He is just substituting you for her. He does not want to be alone, he wants a warm body, a companion, but at some point he will wake up look at you and think who is this person? I don't really know her, she filled a slot when I was hurt and lonely but now I need to look for someone better suited... that, or go back to his ex... Here the ex is still around, his small kids are still around and he is slowly getting them back into his life. Soon, whether or not they get back together, you will be surplus to requirements, that is the sad reality of the rebound...
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 (edited) What matters is what you believe in and how it makes you feel I dont know what i believe. He tells me he loves me and even comments that he does on my IG posts, we see eachother alot. Although i have stopped staying over as much i still spend time at his in the evenings when i drive him home from work. He texts me all the time when we are apart. But on the other hand he texts or atleast replies to her everyday. Hes told her he is seeing someone but always lies about what hes doing when hes spending time with me. He signs off his texts to her with xx or xxx And they seem to laugh and joke when texting. Not just talk about the children Edited October 25, 2019 by Lucyjane86
Legatus Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 Now we're getting somewhere. You don't believe him, let's agree on that. His behaviour confuses you. Even though we can feed you all the possibilities, the only real thing you can do is talk to him and then see if you believe his answers. If you still keep asking us that means you probably don't trust him, therefore what kind of relationship it is...
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 Whenever i ask him about him talking to her he just says uts about the children. He doesnt like any photos of her on her IG or anything. I looked on her page and shes posted selfies but he hasnt like them. He just likes the ones of the children. Whereas mine he likes and comments on
Gaeta Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 How is she his priority when its me he spends all his time with? If I remember well you said she doesn't live local and it's an hour away or two? They both do not drive so it's difficult to get together as much as they want. If she was living local, you bet he'd be there often. Proof he text her he'd rather be with her and the kids than at work. He spends his time with you because you're convenient, you have a car and drive him around, you bring him sex home, he has no efforts to provide so you're the one he fills his free time with while they patch things up.
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 He didnt say he wanted to be with them just that it would be better than working. But he came to work anyway. She lives about a 10 miles away i think
Gaeta Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 How do they go places? Like to his parents and to parks with the kids?
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 25, 2019 Author Posted October 25, 2019 How do they go places? Like to his parents and to parks with the kids? He lives a 5 to 10 minute walk from his parents place. There are loads of parks around by his too. And if they go further then i think, train/bus/taxi
Gaeta Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 I looked on her page and shes posted selfies but he hasnt like them. He just likes the ones of the children. Whereas mine he likes and comments on of course he doesn't go around and specifically like her pics, he knows you're watching.
Gaeta Posted October 25, 2019 Posted October 25, 2019 How long does it take by bus from his place to hers?
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