Author Alugo6340 Posted October 10, 2019 Author Posted October 10, 2019 Why are you telling them about your past dating experience unless they ask? you have already lowered their expectations before they even meet you. Don't date guys who AGREE to go on a first date with you. Date men who are excited to take you on a first date. I must say if I were a man and you told me those things I would be turned off so much I wouldn't want a first date. I would just forget it. I only cried on 4 first dates cause i felt the guy didn't like me or I was picking up vibes he wasnt interested cause he was real quiet or didn't hug me like he said he would so in my head I start thinking he found me ugly in person so then i get humiliated and think their gonna reject me and then they do not long after. Why would a guy tell you he will hug you? Did you ask for that? A lot of people don't show physical affection on a first date in order to be respectful. You should have been flattered. You seem to only care about having your looks validated and that get's tiring. By asking men about your looks you are putting them in a position to either hurt your feelings or lie. Most will lie to avoid hurt feelings and an upset. Do not talk about your looks, past dates or relationships when on dates. Find other interesting things to talk about. Some guys will have sex with women they don't particularly find attractive because they are hard up for sex. So if you have previously been rejected by a guy don't give him another chance. Block and delete him immediately. I There are a lot of creeps out there. After you blocked him why were you reading stuff he said? Move on.[/QUOtE] they arent good looking they are mostly average looking.
Author Alugo6340 Posted October 10, 2019 Author Posted October 10, 2019 (edited) Why are you telling them about your past dating experience unless they ask? you have already lowered their expectations before they even meet you. I also thought you meant them acting cagey as no matter what response they gave me it won't be good enough Don't date guys who AGREE to go on a first date with you. Date men who are excited to take you on a first date. I must say if I were a man and you told me those things I would be turned off so much I wouldn't want a first date. I would just forget it. I only cried on 4 first dates cause i felt the guy didn't like me or I was picking up vibes he wasnt interested cause he was real quiet or didn't hug me like he said he would so in my head I start thinking he found me ugly in person so then i get humiliated and think their gonna reject me and then they do not long after. Why would a guy tell you he will hug you? Did you ask for that? A lot of people don't show physical affection on a first date in order to be respectful. You should have been flattered. You seem to only care about having your looks validated and that get's tiring. By asking men about your looks you are putting them in a position to either hurt your feelings or lie. Most will lie to avoid hurt feelings and an upset. Do not talk about your looks, past dates or relationships when on dates. Find other interesting things to talk about. Some guys will have sex with women they don't particularly find attractive because they are hard up for sex. So if you have previously been rejected by a guy don't give him another chance. Block and delete him immediately. I There are a lot of creeps out there. After you blocked him why were you reading stuff he said? Move on. Is it possible that some found me as cute looking as my pics ? Even the two guys that said I don't look bad? Since I asked them a few times off and on that im cute or whatever is it possible they got tired of it and said something kind of negative on purpose? I just dont want to think i look different than my pictures so idk maybe they say that cause I start to look unattractive when I keep asking? These are the dudes that told me I was cute on video chat too so idk how they couldn't find me attractive in person and yea I know im insecure. Edited October 10, 2019 by Alugo6340
Author Alugo6340 Posted October 10, 2019 Author Posted October 10, 2019 i posted recent full body pics and some of them were heavy too and i saw a pic if their ex on Facebook and she looked bigger than me so idk.
Author Alugo6340 Posted October 10, 2019 Author Posted October 10, 2019 Why are you telling them about your past dating experience unless they ask? you have already lowered their expectations before they even meet you. Don't date guys who AGREE to go on a first date with you. Date men who are excited to take you on a first date. I must say if I were a man and you told me those things I would be turned off so much I wouldn't want a first date. I would just forget it. I only cried on 4 first dates cause i felt the guy didn't like me or I was picking up vibes he wasnt interested cause he was real quiet or didn't hug me like he said he would so in my head I start thinking he found me ugly in person so then i get humiliated and think their gonna reject me and then they do not long after. Why would a guy tell you he will hug you? Did you ask for that? A lot of people don't show physical affection on a first date in order to be respectful. You should have been flattered. You seem to only care about having your looks validated and that get's tiring. By asking men about your looks you are putting them in a position to either hurt your feelings or lie. Most will lie to avoid hurt feelings and an upset. Do not talk about your looks, past dates or relationships when on dates. Find other interesting things to talk about. Some guys will have sex with women they don't particularly find attractive because they are hard up for sex. So if you have previously been rejected by a guy don't give him another chance. Block and delete him immediately. I There are a lot of creeps out there. After you blocked him why were you reading stuff he said? Move on. The guy that said "im sorry" in response to me saying "I hope you didn't find me ugly in person " or something like that I don't remember, he actually gave me a compliment without me asking when he met me in person he said "you look nice" but then shortly after my dad comes in , he was gonna meet my dad later that day and seemed ok with it and my dad arrived unexpectedly at this jack in the box to meet the guy which we both didnt expect and 15 minutes later before our hang out really starts he suddenly as to go. I mean is it possible some of these guys found me good looking in person? But eventually said something negative cause they got tired of it? He did say my dad showing up was part of the problem plus my dad and my mom say i look like my pics and like I said my pics are recent full body shots and I video chatted with them so how could they not find me attractive in person if they did online or video chat?
haikss3 Posted October 11, 2019 Posted October 11, 2019 (edited) I can't tell anything about your looks cause I haven't seen you. But you seem lonely cause giving so much chances to guy who hurt you once and not really knowing what to say to people, leaves impression that you don't sociālie a lot in your day to day life. Also those dating sites brings a lot of disappointment to everyone so good that you are taking a break. Confidence is what makes person to look more attractive. So work on that cause what you say leaves impression of insecurity and approval seeking. First of all you need to find who you are and be in peace with yourself and your past. Hopefully you get out there in real world and stop looking for love in wrong places. Everyone will give you diferent formula to achieve things you are lacking. I think, I know the best way but then again it's what worked for me cause I went deep in it and believe in what I'm doing. You concentrate on negative things like being rejected 13th times in a row. But try to find something positive. You need positive experiences to feel more bold about yourself. Dating and right guy isn't gona give you everything you need so you need to work in other areas of your life. If what you are doing don't works then stop and think about what needs to change. Getting your life together works better than trying to find love for years with no success. I personally was given up on girls and just living my life, getting better at it, before right girl came to my life. All I had to do was staying social and active, attenting events I like and being brave and outgoing when someone interested me. Edited October 11, 2019 by haikss3
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