Amyjk Posted September 29, 2005 Posted September 29, 2005 Two days ago my 48 yr.old fiancee and I broke up. I am a single mom, 47 yrs. old with 6 kids, but only 3 still at home. I had a really bad marriage and was divorced for 7 yrs. before I finally decided to start dating again. I went out on a couple of dates before meeting Joe. We both have hep-c and met on the internet on a hep-c singles site. We really hit it off, we just clicked! We had so much in common. The only problem was he lived 3 hours away in IND. At first it wasn't really a problem for us. He either drove out every weekend or I took the train to see him. We were like a couple of school kids I admit. We got engaged very quickly after only 3 weeks, and we planned on getting married in 1 yr. this past Sept 4th. I was going to move into his house with my 3 teenagers. Things were great!! We rarely ever fought and had a great time together! We were madly in love!! I really thought I had found my soulmate. He's the most wonderful man I've ever met! He even loves my kids! Well, about 2-3 months ago when we were planning the wedding, my kids were giving me a real hard time about moving away. They didn't want to leave their family and friends. I don't blame them, I really didn't either. And I felt like I was abandoning my 3 other kids who were staying in IL. I was torn. Joe and I discussed it and decided to postpone the wedding. Just recently I notice Joe was acting a little distant. So I questioned him about it and he admitted he was having second thoughts about the marriage, because of the distance and my kids etc. It was just getting too hard and costing too much money with the gas prices etc. He said it would be 5 more yrs. before my youngest was 18 and he didn't want to be doing this for the next 5 yrs, running back and forth. He has a good job, so it's out of the question that he move out here with me. So, we decided we had no alternative, but to break up. So, now I am absolutely devastated!!! I can't eat, I can't sleep. It's hard enough to walk away from a bad relationship that's going nowhere, but ours was great!! He says he still loves me to death, but we're just prolonging the inevitable. I really do understand, but it doesn't make it any easier. I finally find the love of my life and I have to let him go because we live 3 hours apart. I'm heartbroken! Can anybody give me any advice as to how to survive this! Thanks!!
Art_Critic Posted September 29, 2005 Posted September 29, 2005 He said it would be 5 more yrs. before my youngest was 18 and he didn't want to be doing this for the next 5 yrs, running back and forth. I say good riddens.. Did you really want to be stuck with such a selfish as* ?
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