Trail Blazer Posted October 3, 2019 Posted October 3, 2019 I connected with a girl on Bumble about a week ago. She responded to me almost immediately. We exchanged small talk and she was quick to tell me she'd like to grab a coffee with me. She gave mer her cell phone number and I gave her mine. Later that day I'd received a text message from her. She'd told me she was thinking of deactivating her account. Over the next couple of days we exchanged a few more texts. I'd hardly been on Bumble, and honestly I'd had my focus on other things since returning home from working away for three weeks. This girl lives 30 odd miles from me, but I'd happened to be in her area earlier today and she had told me previously that it was the last day she'd be free before her ex-husband would be dropping their two kids back. So, I just said, if you're free in an hour, let me know. She replied immediately, telling me that it would be fine, but that she doesn't have time to get ready and said, "I apologize in advance as I'm going to be in my gym gear and I have to pick up my little dog, Charlie, from the groomer, so he will be with me as well." As I was heading to the coffee shop it dawned on me that I'd not remembered her name. So, I quickly got on to Bumble and couldn't find her account! *For anyone who hasn't used Tinder or Bumble, each member is distinguished by their first name, rather than a chosen username* She'd already deleted it. I'd never saved her phone number, so I couldn't actually remember it. I remember it being uncommon, as she's Columbian. So anyway, we sat outside (thankfully the weather was decent) and along came this woman, gym gear and Bichon Frise in tow. She sounded EXACTLY like Sofia Vergara. 18 of her 37 years spent in America hadn't softened her accent at all! She had a big, bubbly personality and was very eccentric. I'm not sure if I could live with her, but I'd certainly like to go on a second date! But... I cannot remember her name. How does one broach this with her? Sure, I could just be honest, what's the worst that could happen, right! I guess... but it's not ideal! Haha. Especially as she kept addressing me by my first name, and I'm like, "Ah, yeah" while thinking "what IS her name again!" 1
alphamale Posted October 3, 2019 Posted October 3, 2019 tell her you want to give her a card and you need to know how to spell her name
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted October 3, 2019 Posted October 3, 2019 Take her bowling and have her program the scoring computer 5
lurker74 Posted October 3, 2019 Posted October 3, 2019 Send me a pic. Maybe I know her! Honestly, I'd probably just cop to it. Tell her that it sounds like the plot of a romantic comedy or a Seinfeld episode but you figured it would be better to know it now before you are screaming it out loud in ecstasy later. 1
mortensorchid Posted October 3, 2019 Posted October 3, 2019 Hey, it's a lousy situation to be in, but I'd just ask her. Ask how to spell it correctly, plus what her last name is. Chances are you don't know that either if you just had one internet date with her so far. Plus didn't you save her number in your phone?
Artdeco Posted October 3, 2019 Posted October 3, 2019 Google her number, or put the number into the Facebook search. Maybe something comes up..... 1
Mrin Posted October 3, 2019 Posted October 3, 2019 Hahahaha. Hahahaha. I thought stuff like that only happened to me. Many years ago I matched with a woman on OLD. Her username was JT. We chatted on the phone and she told me her name but said everyone just calls her by her initials, JT. Her actual first name was some innocuous J name. Nothing unusual. So we made a date. And went to it. Then another. And another. I just called her JT. But finally a friend asked what her real name was and I had completely forgotten. I developed a kind of complex about it. On the next date I decided to do something about it. "hey what do they call you at work?". Clever right? Her response, "JT" Next date, "did you ever go by your first name?". Nope, always been "JT". Things are getting kinda serious now. One night we went to a bar and she was carded. Ah ha!!! My chance at last! I said, "hey let me see your picture. I'll show you mine if you show me yours". She handed it to me and I realized I had my contacts on and couldn't read it without looking like a freak. I almost took a pic of it with my phone. Lol. Then thought better of it. Looked kinda long... Jennifer. Julianna. Josephine. Jacqueline. Joanna. We went out several more times. She had kids so I never was in the house to rifle through her mail. All in all I think we went out 7-8 times then we both ended up meeting other people and just sort of faded. Never found out. 3
Happy Lemming Posted October 3, 2019 Posted October 3, 2019 Call her "Sunshine"... When I was dating multiple people, I just called them all "Sunshine" that way you won't slip up. When you call her... "Hey Sunshine, its trail blazer, just wanted to confirm our date, etc." Hopefully, during the date her name will come up or it will come back to you. If not, keep calling her "Sunshine" until she tells you to stop and call her XXXXX. 1
Gretchen12 Posted October 3, 2019 Posted October 3, 2019 If you remember the name being foreign, ask her how she pronounces her name. Make like you want to say it right. Hopefully she doesn't say "just as it is spelled." 1
gaius Posted October 3, 2019 Posted October 3, 2019 I think the fact you didn't get her name from her profile before she deleted it and that you've been spending the week trying to figure out how to get it from her could be a charming story. You could even mention how you embarked on a quest to figure out what to do, asked a few people and one suggested taking her bowling, another just calling her a generic name. But you decided to just be honest and ask! It would show she's on your mind and that you're confident enough to be straightforward. Good natured truth is generally more charming than being fake or coming up with some grand semi-honest scheme to not embarrass yourself at all. 1
mark clemson Posted October 3, 2019 Posted October 3, 2019 At it again, eh TB. Good for you that you seem to be able to land the hot ones!
Author Trail Blazer Posted October 3, 2019 Author Posted October 3, 2019 Take her bowling and have her program the scoring computer That's a fantastic idea!
Author Trail Blazer Posted October 3, 2019 Author Posted October 3, 2019 Send me a pic. Maybe I know her! Honestly, I'd probably just cop to it. Tell her that it sounds like the plot of a romantic comedy or a Seinfeld episode but you figured it would be better to know it now before you are screaming it out loud in ecstasy later. If anyone's going to be screaming out anyone's name is ecstasy it'll be her, so it's a good thing she knows my name! (jokes) 2
Author Trail Blazer Posted October 3, 2019 Author Posted October 3, 2019 At it again, eh TB. Good for you that you seem to be able to land the hot ones! I never said she was hot! But while we're on the topic, I can confirm she's hot! LOL! 1
alphamale Posted October 3, 2019 Posted October 3, 2019 Take her bowling and have her program the scoring computer hopefully she won't put in her initial 2
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted October 3, 2019 Posted October 3, 2019 hopefully she won't put in her initial If that fails, then Starbucks afterwards! 1
preraph Posted October 3, 2019 Posted October 3, 2019 Hand her either a piece of paper or phone and ask her to put her name and number on/in it.
Artdeco Posted October 3, 2019 Posted October 3, 2019 If that fails, then Starbucks afterwards! They spell everybody’s name wrong if they put it on the cup. Even if your name is Jack hahaha ..... my friend’s name is Evelyn and they put “Eblen” on the cup (I mean that doesn’t even really work phonetically) :lmao: 1
rightondude Posted October 4, 2019 Posted October 4, 2019 meet her at the bar. Explain the situation to the bartender and he'll come up with a smooth way to get her name. Or invite a buddy to happen to be there and then introduce them. "Hey, this is my pal Chip!" She'll respond with her name hopefully. Or maybe they'll lock eyes and fall in love. Either way you're out of this embarrasking situation! 1
alphamale Posted October 4, 2019 Posted October 4, 2019 meet her at the bar. Explain the situation to the bartender and he'll come up with a smooth way to get her name. don't forget the $10 tip
Author Trail Blazer Posted October 4, 2019 Author Posted October 4, 2019 (edited) I'm not sure if I even want to go on a second date now. I think she's a little cray cray obsessive! She's sent me about 7 texts to my one in the space of 18 hours. She sent me a message not long after I made this thread, asking me "when will our first real date be?" I'd told her that I would be having my children for the next 4-5 days and I asked her how long she had her's for, too. She responds instantly, suggesting we could all meet up for dinner on Saturday night or Sunday. I told her that would not be happening as introducing my children to someone will take some time. She replied back again instantly (she runs a small business from home so is always on her phone apparently) saying, "Oh, I totally agree. I just misunderstood you - I thought you wanted to know when I had my kids so we could all meet together." I'm not sure I buy that, as she was immediately keen to meet me with the kids, before backpedaling when she realized it wasn't what I meant. Then she asked if I had Facebook. Well hey, presto! That's an easy way to get her name, isn't it! I tell her my surname, she looks me up and adds me. I've left it there, I haven't responded. She's starting to scare me. And she coincidentally deactivated her account on Bumble two days after we connected? Is there something I don't know about South American women that I should? Like, are they more open and liberal than I thought? Or is this one just a little bit out there and one I should let down gently? My gut is now telling me to run... Edited October 4, 2019 by Trail Blazer 1
rightondude Posted October 4, 2019 Posted October 4, 2019 yes, there's something you don't know about South American women, They are quite the passionate ones. stay with it at least until you get some brother 2
Author Trail Blazer Posted October 4, 2019 Author Posted October 4, 2019 yes, there's something you don't know about South American women, They are quite the passionate ones. stay with it at least until you get some brother I don't doubt at all that she'd be a bombshell in the sack. With that high pitched shriek I'm sure she has, all the neighbors will be left without doubt as well! LOL. I just don't think my head can deal with another crazy obsessive woman again right now. 1
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