Tweety9 Posted October 1, 2019 Posted October 1, 2019 I've gone on two dates with this really sweet guy in the last two weeks. We get a long very well, he is very attentive when I'm with him and I am not used to that at all! We met last Saturday for our 2nd date and confirmed that there would be an another date by saying "next time we should..." but he hasn't texted me since. I feel so awkward texting him because I did write him telling him what a nice time I had and there was no response. I have asked him before about when he doesn't write back, if he's actually interested in me and he says he forgets to write people back all the time. We both have kids and he's also a med student so I understand he is busy a lot. I dont want to come off desperate. Ugghh I'm so awful at dating!! I feel terrible if I'm not reassured regularly that he is into me. Even though he has said nothing but sweet things. Still.. 3 days and no text? What do you think?
basil67 Posted October 1, 2019 Posted October 1, 2019 If he’s too busy to find time to text you, how will he find time for a relationship? 1
Author Tweety9 Posted October 1, 2019 Author Posted October 1, 2019 If he’s too busy to find time to text you, how will he find time for a relationship? Honestly I really dont mind the fact he gets busy, I'm often quite busy myself with 2 kids and it's a challenge to figure out when I will be available for a date. It's not knowing what he currently thinks of me that is bothersome.
introverted1 Posted October 1, 2019 Posted October 1, 2019 We met last Saturday for our 2nd date and confirmed that there would be an another date by saying "next time we should..." but he hasn't texted me since. I feel so awkward texting him because I did write him telling him what a nice time I had and there was no response. Either the "next time we should..." was just talk in the moment, or you will hear from him in the next day or two. You've already reached out once. Ball is firmly in his court. 1
Maddie82 Posted October 1, 2019 Posted October 1, 2019 How long has it been that he hasn't responded?
stillafool Posted October 1, 2019 Posted October 1, 2019 . We get a long very well, he is very attentive when I'm with him and I am not used to that at all! See this is a problem. You admit that guys you've dated are not very attentive to you on dates. Why not? If they aren't you shouldn't date them. Expect more and you will get more.
Flame Aura Posted October 1, 2019 Posted October 1, 2019 3 days is a pretty long time of no contact after a date.. Either he's just not that into you, or a relationship isn't a priority in his life. Just contact him once more asking how he is.
spiderowl Posted October 1, 2019 Posted October 1, 2019 Not hearing from him for three days would irritate the hell out of me. Saying he is not big on texting would be a cue for me to mention that I am looking for someone who likes to keep in touch. If he ignores that and still does not keep in touch for days, then I would give up on him. He is not treating you as important in his life. Is he married? When does he contact you? Is it when the 'wife' is asleep or when he is away from home? Has he given you his contact number? Is he ok about you phoning him? He might just be busy at work but it is still not good enough that he cannot find a few minutes to send you a text to show he is thinking of you.
kendahke Posted October 1, 2019 Posted October 1, 2019 He sounds too busy to be dating. I wouldn't make him the center of your universe nor would I expect or give devotion at this stage of things. Date other men, too.
preraph Posted October 2, 2019 Posted October 2, 2019 A med student with kids? He really doesn't even have time for a relationship, but your best bet is to not press him at all and accept a date when he offers one and just realize he has big other obligations. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted October 2, 2019 Posted October 2, 2019 You say you don't mind that he has a busy life, but you've also created this thread wondering where he's gone after 3 days of silence. I don't blame you, to be clear. I would be wondering too. If he's just so busy that he cannot manage a simple reply to you, then trying to actually date him is going to be impossible. Maintaining a relationship requires much more time and effort than messaging someone, so I am sure you can imagine what trying to see him consistently would be like. This is just a glimpse into his world. And really, if he were keen to keep you in his sights, you wouldn't be wondering where's he gone. He'd be making his presence known more. He wouldn't necessarily be blowing up your phone, but he wouldn't be radio silent either. How did you meet him? 1
salparadise Posted October 2, 2019 Posted October 2, 2019 And really, if he were keen to keep you in his sights, you wouldn't be wondering where's he gone. What if he's not keen? OMG! 1
d0nnivain Posted October 2, 2019 Posted October 2, 2019 I've gone on two dates with this really sweet guy in the last two weeks. I have asked him before about when he doesn't write back, if he's actually interested in me and he says he forgets to write people back all the time. What do you think? You went on 2 freaking dates with a med student with kids & in there before now you already had the audacity to ask this guy why he doesn't write you back? Are you kidding? That screams needy, clingy, not worth the effort. This guy thinks you want more then he can give & he's probably right. I think this isn't going to work for you. "Next time we should... " was a conversation filler, not an offer of a 2nd date. You need way more then this guy -- or most guys -- can give. 1
preraph Posted October 2, 2019 Posted October 2, 2019 Med students and doctors are overwhelmingly busy and their minds need to be on their work! They're not sitting at some desk daydreaming about women. They're working on patients and following doctors around and can't have nose in phone because what they are doing is busy and important. When my sister was in the hospital for months, I found out that the busy doctors didn't even return messages from the staff! They had a choice - they could be operating on someone or they could be answering questions all day. So don't marry a doctor or frankly anyone whose work isn't idle work. 1
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