Art_Critic Posted October 1, 2019 Posted October 1, 2019 The other thing is he is almost certainly going to feel entitled to sex after spending money and making the trip, so before he even makes plans, you should tell him, Yeah.. but the problem is that he will say it's okay and still try of bed her.. Unless of course the OP has sex on the table.. maybe she is okay with that.. 2
preraph Posted October 1, 2019 Posted October 1, 2019 I wasn't familiar with Tinder, so once someone said that it should only show people within your radius normally, then I would be very suspicious he may be married looking for affairs out of town. Married or otherwise supposed to be committed. Otherwise, why would he even be looking in your area? I mean, even if he was planning a trip there, then that means he was looking to hookup while there. I think your instincts are right on this, OP. There's something off. And if your instincts tell you it might not be anything more than he's gotten carried away with the fantasy of you, well, that's plenty, honestly. And why start something long distance? It's only frustrating and usually their lives go on at the other end..
preraph Posted October 1, 2019 Posted October 1, 2019 Forgive me if I missed this in the posts, but have you two Facetimed? Where did he Facetime from, like his home, his car, his office?
Author yesilikebread Posted October 1, 2019 Author Posted October 1, 2019 Forgive me if I missed this in the posts, but have you two Facetimed? Where did he Facetime from, like his home, his car, his office? No, we haven't. I mean, I'm talking to a few other men in my city so I'm not very invested in one in particular, which might also be why I feel a little weird about him wanting to visit me. Would have felt better if we had established a little bit more of a foundation. Feels like I hardly know anything about him other than shallow stuff. I mean he has already hinted at liking me and "if I like these traits/characteristics he is my type of man". Of course it would be nice to meet him, but it's not really important honestly and the distance is a deal-breaker. If he lived in my city or even in the same country it would be different.
Ruby Slippers Posted October 1, 2019 Posted October 1, 2019 I've had two serious relationships that started as getting to know each other online from long distance. Both of them eventually flew to my city, one after months of communicating online, the other after years, when the time was right - that is, we were both single and ready for such a thing. In one case, I ended up moving to his city. In the other case, after a while of long distance, he moved to my city. I think you're smart to take your time with such a situation. In my case, we had plenty of time to get to know each other before taking the leap to meeting. I'm still open to it, and have come close to it again a few times - but the connection has to be very special for me to say yes to such a big leap.
kendahke Posted October 1, 2019 Posted October 1, 2019 (edited) preraph --Forgive me if I missed this in the posts, but have you two Facetimed? Where did he Facetime from, like his home, his car, his office? --yesilikebread No, we haven't.. This needs to happen before the end of this week. Considering the distance, it would be foolish not to. Edited October 1, 2019 by kendahke
Art_Critic Posted October 1, 2019 Posted October 1, 2019 I think you're smart to take your time with such a situation. I totally agree and agree with with your post, heck..the billing cycle for your power bill is about 30 days.. and she has only know him 2 weeks
Maggiemay1 Posted October 2, 2019 Posted October 2, 2019 the distance is a deal-breaker. If he lived in my city or even in the same country it would be different. Have you told him the distance is a dealbreaker? You are essentially entertaining the conversation with him because you enjoy his attention. But why seek attention from someone who is out of your distance requirement? You simply thought it was safe ! You don’t have to meet him because he doesn’t even live in your country. Right?? Why are you not meeting the guys you are chatting to locally? You need to tell this guy the truth!! Whatever that is!!!? He might be a married guy looking for a hook up where he is going to be working for a couple weeks? But I wonder why you are not meeting locals?? Why chat to someone who you decided from day one is a dealbreaker because of distance which you knew about??
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