How do you know when you've worked on yourself "enough"?

[chillii]

Not at all! If no one has been attracted to me for me yet, though, wouldn't that mean I still have a lot of work to do on myself?

 

 

 

 

Not at all , you might be aiming at total miss matches anyway, or maybe you just haven't met the right girl yet.

[chillii]

Maybe the thing you need to 'work on' most is to stop swallowing the BS that gets rammed down our throats to make us feel inadequate. Every day, in hundreds of ways, we receive subliminal messages through media that we're just not "enough". Ignore it, many of the people who put that stuff out there, people in advertising, tv, the media in general, are so full of coke it's a wonder they don't exploded in a puff of self-important delusion. Stop giving a $--t what other people think, and you'll find life's much less stressful.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Haaa, yeah, my sentiments exactly , and people read their crap and mess with themselves so much they dunno wtf is going on in the end by the look of it.

[Love2015]

Working on yourself is very important and kuddos to you for doing this instead of becoming a dead weight to some woman. However, ideally you should date and continue working on yourself plus she work on herself and help each other do this.

 

Hope you can find that. Congrats on working on yourself!

[fromheart]

I'd say, when you stop working with the specific result of acquiring a woman, that's usually when a woman comes.

 

As a man, your purpose in life should come first.

[Wasting Light]

Hm. I guess I've never felt like I'm "ready", and I don't know how to get to that point.

[Gaeta]

It's just the nerves of not having dating experience, you need to jump in. If you don't join the parade you'll end up 40 with no dating experience and then you'll have a real problem. Like we say, better to have loved and failed than have not loved at all.

[SumGuy]

When you are "Riding the Bull" you are close.

 

(It's a reference to The Ten Bulls in Zen and the progress to enlightenment if you're wondering)

[SumGuy]

I had a boss that was had a side hobby of psychology. I hated working for her because it was all about "working on ourselves". She called it emotional intelligence and yes it meant reading a bunch of books with titles like.... "who ate my cheese" or "how to not give a F***". It also means working on soft skills like communication and providing constructive feedback, stuff like that. I hated working for her because I was hired to write code and that was not what I was doing.

 

Couldn't you just hold up the book "how to not give a F***" when she came around with this stuff and let her know you are putting it into practice?

Or, do you want this code debugged or me to be your emotional caretaker for the next hour?