Nuser94 Posted September 25, 2019 Posted September 25, 2019 I've spent time with a girl I know a few times, and we've gone to the movies, dinner, amusement parks..etc, just the two of us. But I want to know how do I transition from doing this into actually dating? I've been too afraid to bring up the topic of dating in our hangouts, and we only see each other every 1-2 weeks so I'm wondering if I should text her about this, or bring it up if/when we see each other next? I really like her, but I can't get myself to ask her on a proper date in person.
Redhead14 Posted September 25, 2019 Posted September 25, 2019 You call her on the telephone, not text, and you ask her to go to dinner with you on Xday, at Xtime and Xplace and you tell her it's an actual date. PERIOD. "Hey, Xname. I want to take you on a date on Xday at Xtime at Xplace". 2
Cersei Posted September 25, 2019 Posted September 25, 2019 Yes, do as Redhead says. Otherwise this will not progress at all. You will just be friends for years and it will only get more awkward the longer you wait to do this. If you do nothing, then nothing will change. Good luck.
d0nnivain Posted September 25, 2019 Posted September 25, 2019 You are already dating. Those outings were date. Just keep doing what you are doing but add in some touching. Try holding her hand or kissing her. If you are uncertain about that try a slow dance. Tell her you like her. It's not that hard or mysterious. 3
preraph Posted September 25, 2019 Posted September 25, 2019 Has she said anything to make you think she is under the impression you two are "just friends"? Like has she said "I only want to be friends?" Has the subject ever even come up? If so, that's a no. If no, then you need to stop talking and start at least holding her hand and watching to see how she reacts to touching. If she likes you romantically, she will be happy about you touching her hand, her shoulder, her back, her arm. If she doesn't want it to go beyond friendship, she will flinch and pull back and her demeanor will change and not in a good way but subtly most likely. And that's a no. 1
Gaeta Posted September 25, 2019 Posted September 25, 2019 You need to speed up those dates. Friends hang out together every 1-2 weeks, you need to set up dates more often like 1-2 times a week. 1
smackie9 Posted September 25, 2019 Posted September 25, 2019 Ask her out more often. Make the dates like 2 or 3 times a week. 1
Gretchen12 Posted September 25, 2019 Posted September 25, 2019 All of the above. Plus make it datish: - you're more dressed - pick her up - bring flowers - open doors (including car) - there is good eye contact - some touching - walk her to her door - there may be a kiss or at least hug
fromheart Posted September 26, 2019 Posted September 26, 2019 I've spent time with a girl I know a few times, and we've gone to the movies, dinner, amusement parks..etc, just the two of us. But I want to know how do I transition from doing this into actually dating? I've been too afraid to bring up the topic of dating in our hangouts, and we only see each other every 1-2 weeks so I'm wondering if I should text her about this, or bring it up if/when we see each other next? I really like her, but I can't get myself to ask her on a proper date in person. Arrange a date, tell her she's beautiful and at the right moment go for a kiss. If you get the cheek, never reach out to her again. Be a gentleman about it. 1
Lotsgoingon Posted September 26, 2019 Posted September 26, 2019 And look really sharp the next time you see her.
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