LuckyM Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 How do you know when someone is merely being nice and acting friendly, or is genuinely interested in you? (NOT romantically) many women and guys have expressed interest in me and my life, but I wonder if they are just being nice. They ask a lot of questions.but this can be decieving. Maybe they are patronizing me for some reason. I know they do not share the same interests as me. One woman actually told me that her happy laughter is a facade, a front. If they don't answer your calls or return calls, is that a red flag, a major signal?. When I ask questions about themselves, they don't say much. Puzzled.
schlumpy Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 How do you know when someone is merely being nice and acting friendly, or is genuinely interested in you? (NOT romantically) They invade your personal space. Of course that is hard to experience when using a dating ap. Maybe a special Emoji could be set up for it.
preraph Posted September 25, 2019 Posted September 25, 2019 Is any of this in a business context? Are these people you meet through work or do business with? Because if so, they are just trained to act interested and get on good terms with the people they do business with. And with coworkers, usually they're just trying to advance themselves and make themselves look good. If these are just people on the street that you meet out doing nonbusiness things, there's more chance they're open to being friendly. Of course, if they don't answer or return your calls, they're not interested in becoming any better friends.
anika99 Posted September 25, 2019 Posted September 25, 2019 Not answering or returning calls and not opening up about themselves is definitely a signal that they are not authentically interested in being friends. A good rule of thumb when forming new friendships is to watch for reciprocation and act accordingly. I take it slow and make sure the potential friend has a similar interest in me before I get invested in the friendship. If I open up a little bit and share some personal information about myself but the other person doesn't do the same then I put a lid on it. If I call or text someone once or twice and they don't respond or ever contact me first then I leave the ball in their court and leave them alone. If they reach out, great. If they don't, that's fine too. I don't get invested prematurely
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