Flame Aura Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 Yeah but you couldn't give it a few wks to see what comes of this just encase, if you were feeling it yourself no way you'd be off with someone else already. So l'd forget about it l don't see how you could be yourself either so non of it really matters. Maybe had a look at the OP's previous posts before commenting.
Flame Aura Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 Then he asks me if i miss him etc and he says he is missing me a lot what can i say Again that's just words. Words are cheap. Where is his action? Nowhere to be seen? You say 'Well you say you miss me but you are not making any effort to spend time with me so I don't believe you really do miss me.'
Author Chrys31 Posted September 24, 2019 Author Posted September 24, 2019 Again that's just words. Words are cheap. Where is his action? Nowhere to be seen? You say 'Well you say you miss me but you are not making any effort to spend time with me so I don't believe you really do miss me.' Anyway, he doesnt seem to reply after what i said to him yesterday. If he is really that angry, what can I say, I just stated the truth. I will go on my new date on Saturday and see what happens. I honestly think i gave many chances
BaileyB Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 Having been in a similar situation and dated a single father I will say two things... It is a lot to balance. It’s unbelievably exhausting - working, maintaining a home, raising children, and trying to find time for a relationship. That said, if he was really interested in having a relationship with you, you would have seen him more than six times in the last six months. The writing is on the wall here. He’s not going to turn down the sex you offer, but he’s also not able or prepared to offer anything more than he has done for the last six months. And, it’s kind of hard to build a relationship that has a viable future if you don’t often see or talk with each other...
Author Chrys31 Posted September 24, 2019 Author Posted September 24, 2019 Having been in a similar situation and dated a single father I will say two things... It is a lot to balance. It’s unbelievably exhausting - working, maintaining a home, raising children, and trying to find time for a relationship. That said, if he was really interested in having a relationship with you, you would have seen him more than six times in the last six months. The writing is on the wall here. He’s not going to turn down the sex you offer, but he’s also not able or prepared to offer anything more than he has done for the last six months. And, it’s kind of hard to build a relationship that has a viable future if you don’t often see or talk with each other... Well he doesnt have full custody and I recognise that he might have had some problems and generally i havent pressured him as he has said he wanted to invite me to his house, cook for me. He asks me if i miss him but i hate the fact that he doesn't come clean and what is he scared of. Anyway, I think i will move on for now
Gaeta Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 I am feeling it i just dont know why he behaves like that and he doesnt tell me what he wants to do. Why do you put your faith in his hands? You are not happy with the way he treats you then you leave, you don't need his permission, or his explanation. Chances are he'll just feed you a bunch of none-sense that he's busy and you'll wait longer to get again a lot of nothing. Judge people you date by their actions, not their words. This man is full of it. You're not long distance, he sees his kids what? each second weekend? He has plenty of time for you, even if it's just taking you along while home shopping. Do not let anyone else treat you like this. If a man cannot find time to date you 2 times a week then pass. . 1
Author Chrys31 Posted September 24, 2019 Author Posted September 24, 2019 Why do you put your faith in his hands? You are not happy with the way he treats you then you leave, you don't need his permission, or his explanation. Chances are he'll just feed you a bunch of none-sense that he's busy and you'll wait longer to get again a lot of nothing. Judge people you date by their actions, not their words. This man is full of it. You're not long distance, he sees his kids what? each second weekend? He has plenty of time for you, even if it's just taking you along while home shopping. Do not let anyone else treat you like this. If a man cannot find time to date you 2 times a week then pass. . He has one kid. I think he sees him quite often. I think whilst he might not have plenty of time, he certainly has enough time to see me. In this case, yes i will pass as it seems that he may be just using this app for hook ups and to be fair he may be hiding something
Timshel Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 In this case, yes i will pass as it seems that he may be just using this app for hook ups and to be fair he may be hiding something Ya think? I would be blown over by a feather if this guy is single. He is shady Chrys and whatever he is up to, it's not working for you, nor should it with a good head on your shoulders. Good idea to walk away and not look back. 1
smackie9 Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 You don't need him to come clean...you can figure this out on your own......the proof is always in their actions. Hope your date goes well with new guy.
Author Chrys31 Posted September 24, 2019 Author Posted September 24, 2019 Ya think? I would be blown over by a feather if this guy is single. He is shady Chrys and whatever he is up to, it's not working for you, nor should it with a good head on your shoulders. Good idea to walk away and not look back. Ye to me he doesnt seem totally single either.... There is def something going on
Gretchen12 Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 You said "come clean" three times. Usually come clean means admitting guilt. Was there wrongdoing? It seems you feel he has done you wrong and you want him to take responsibility. You want to confront him but you contacted him to make peace. Why should you? I can agree that you were played, more or less. He had sex with you and now he ignores you. You are a woman scorned. But you know, once you face that fact and you kick yourself for having believed and slept with him, there's nothing more to do but to move on. You're an adult and must take some of the responsibility for this. It's not like you're gonna harrass him or scratch his car. So let it go. 1
Author Chrys31 Posted September 24, 2019 Author Posted September 24, 2019 You said "come clean" three times. Usually come clean means admitting guilt. Was there wrongdoing? It seems you feel he has done you wrong and you want him to take responsibility. You want to confront him but you contacted him to make peace. Why should you? I can agree that you were played, more or less. He had sex with you and now he ignores you. You are a woman scorned. But you know, once you face that fact and you kick yourself for having believed and slept with him, there's nothing more to do but to move on. You're an adult and must take some of the responsibility for this. It's not like you're gonna harrass him or scratch his car. So let it go. Come clean as to what hw wants to do as it seems like he has been leading me on for all these months... If he didnt wanna go out and i mean out like pubs bars etc, he should let me know really not play me like this
Gaeta Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 Cheaters, liars, players, time waters, don't ever come clean.
Redhead14 Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 Come clean as to what hw wants to do as it seems like he has been leading me on for all these months... If he didnt wanna go out and i mean out like pubs bars etc, he should let me know really not play me like this This is on you. It doesn't matter what you or we think he's doing, i.e. leading you on etc. What is important is that you are not satisfied with the dating scenario he's presenting/offering. PERIOD. You cannot change him or what he wants or does. He's not leading you on. You're leading yourself on by continuing to "wait" in the wings like you have been. You're not happy. Enough time has passed for you to make an evaluation for yourself about this guy and make a decision for yourself. Tell him you are moving on and wish him well. 1
basil67 Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 He's not leading you on and he's not playing you. Other than sometimes asking if you miss him, he's not doing much of anything really. The limbo you're in has all been on you. If someone doesn't meet your needs, move on. You don't need to discuss it or have agreement or honesty or anything else from them. 2
spiderowl Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 He is married, separated (maybe), and has a family. Of course, all this depends on whether he is telling you the truth or whether you have verified what he is saying. If you only know this because of what he has told you, then beware - he could be a very convincing liar. He does only want sex every so often and when he is available. He may be with a wife, other women, or even long-term girlfriend. Yes he might be very busy if he has children but men are rarely too busy to meet a girl they really like. If he is not taking you out regularly, he is not that interested. He may also have other commitments (women) that you are not aware of. Please dump this useless guy. He can say what he likes about missing you but if he really was, he would be making contact and seeing you as often as possible. You are better off dating someone else but please check them out properly first. Don't take someone just at face value. When you have got to know them, visited their home, met their family, learned about their work, then you know they are telling you the truth.
Inspire Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 If he has so little time on his hands, then why is he dating? Clearly, he isn't looking for anything serious but rather a hookup and an occasional night out here and there. You've only seen each other 6 times in all these months and you're still hanging around? 1
Author Chrys31 Posted October 1, 2019 Author Posted October 1, 2019 I have clearly tried to make things clear with him and what he wants to no avail. I dont see any other option. Maybe I should not even bring this up last time??? But i really felt like he didnt have a transparent agenda with me.... Honestly its the worst to be in limbo. He hasnt replied to that text i sent him last week for peace, so he must have taken really bad what i said, but i dont find the reason to be so angry, I just said what I felt without putting him down, but really if he didnt wanna go out with me he should just say so.... I didnt want something only sexual and i said that from the beginning, i was just hoping i guess for some answers
stillafool Posted October 1, 2019 Posted October 1, 2019 Come clean as to what hw wants to do as it seems like he has been leading me on for all these months... If he didnt wanna go out and i mean out like pubs bars etc, he should let me know really not play me like this Do you realize how desperate you sound asking him these kind of questions? What does he want from you? he's showing you that now it's obviously nothing because he isn't making time for you. There is nothing for him to 'come clean' about as you aren't a couple. He's annoyed because you want him to s-p-e-l-l it out for you. Men don't typically like to say things they know will hurt a woman so they show you how they feel by their actions. This guy has put on a Broadway Show for you and you still don't get it.
Author Chrys31 Posted October 1, 2019 Author Posted October 1, 2019 He just wanted sex. I know a lot of super busy guys. They still make plenty of time for a woman to feel special. Besides - he seems married. Did you do a back ground check on him yet? I have and it doesn't seem that he is...
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