Sam2020 Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 Geez, you'd think at my age I'd have it figured out, lol. But that's what happens to some of us after being with the same person for over 20 years. Anyway...have now been OLD for three months with another first date lined up for Wednesday. I met a guy IRL yesterday and after talking for a while, he asked if I would go to dinner with him. I was able to calculate his age by some things he told me and he is ten years younger than me. I'm pretty sure he thinks I'm his age or younger because pretty much everyone thinks I'm 10-15 years younger than my age. Anyway, I liked his energy so am going to get in touch with him. My question is if I should mention that I'm on OLD? I mean when you meet someone on a dating site you pretty much know they are possibly dating others. So this is a first for me since we met irl.
SumGuy Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 If you want to, but see no reasonable expectation that you should. Just because the source of meeting him was in the day to day doesn't mean who you can see and what info you can keep private on a first date has changed. Now it might be a topic of conversation, bet he has or is doing the same; bonding over shared bad OLD experiences. I'd be thinking more about the potential age gap, depending on what you are looking for. If you are thinking long term relationship at some point you may want to ask how old he thinks you are. Again purely your call, you have no social obligation to reveal your age in initial dating or even later if it is not serious. 1
Lotsgoingon Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 Relax, Mention this when you want. Some people would mention their age right away ... just so they don't have that anxiety or fear hanging onto them. Other people would wait until further along. He might be fine with your age when you reveal it. Up to you. Some people would wait until things got serious ... and right before you let yourself get carried away, you share this ... so you don't get burned after you're deep in. Bottom line: just go out and have fun! Play it by ear. If you feel like sharing, share. If not, just relax. 1
Ami1uwant Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 Why do you think he’s 10 yrs younger . I’m guess you are early 40s The issue in a relation with someone younger is having children or if you already have kids snd he doesn’t.
Author Sam2020 Posted September 24, 2019 Author Posted September 24, 2019 Relax, Mention this when you want. Some people would mention their age right away ... just so they don't have that anxiety or fear hanging onto them. Other people would wait until further along. He might be fine with your age when you reveal it. Up to you. Some people would wait until things got serious ... and right before you let yourself get carried away, you share this ... so you don't get burned after you're deep in. Bottom line: just go out and have fun! Play it by ear. If you feel like sharing, share. If not, just relax. My question is if I should mention that I'm online dating. Since I met this guy irl.
Erik30 Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 My question is if I should mention that I'm online dating. Since I met this guy irl. No you don't have to mention it, it's just a first date. (And "everyone" does OLD anyway) But I can imagine the age difference being a problem, if he really does think you're 10-15 years younger than you actually are...
Gaeta Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 No, don't mention it, it's a 1e date not confessional. If after 3 dates you still want to see each other then delete your profile. 2
Lotsgoingon Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 Why would you mention you're online dating? Any more than you would mention that you have had X number of boyfriends? Online dating is the norm. Even if not everyone does it, it's totally acceptable these days ... and in fact online dating is often considered a sign that someone is socially confident and has the courage to "put themselves out there." Mention this if and when you want to mention it. Just like you mention that you like watching hockey games if and when you want to mention it ... or that you prefer x kind of restaurant or that you like grocery shopping at a particular store. That you are dating online is no more relevant than those bits of info. Now if you guys really connect and you're four weeks in and you realize you want to only be with this person, then you can say, "I'm taking myself off whatever online dating platform you're using." He might very well tell you the same thing. Just go out with the guy. 1
hippychick3 Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 There’s no reason to mention it unless he asks. As far as age difference goes, my bf of 6 years is 10 years younger. I also look 10-15 years younger than my age. It’s not been an issue for us. 1
Author Sam2020 Posted September 24, 2019 Author Posted September 24, 2019 Thanks for the input. I'll just wait and see how it pans out between us. 1
oldtruck Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 My question is if I should mention that I'm online dating. Since I met this guy irl. no do not mention
smackie9 Posted September 24, 2019 Posted September 24, 2019 Yup I'm with everyone else....say nothing. Focus more on the things you like to do, etc. Keep it light and simple.
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