Gaeta Posted October 1, 2019 Posted October 1, 2019 What you need to do is put logic and good common sense above your hormones. Until you start doing that you'll live only romantic disappointments and you'll wonder why each time. .
Author Love2015 Posted October 2, 2019 Author Posted October 2, 2019 Hi everyone! So I am so happy I went with what I wanted to do. He is a train wreck ...now with context. Lots of things happening to him which he shared and opened up. Does not justify his behavior yet he was open and honest...or so it seems. I followed my gut and worked out. Unfortunately no no relationship prospective as I had first wanted but I am content with his explanations. Guess what? He also gave me back half of the money! The other half he says will come by Nov 1...or he will try. No sex ..no kiss just two messed up souls able to tell each other what they felt without judgement. I am so happy I did it! Now I retire to no dating as I know I need to heal more. Also the other guy..Mr Booty Call seems to have wanted a booty tonight yet I rejected him. That too felt very good 1
ExpatInItaly Posted October 2, 2019 Posted October 2, 2019 Ah, OP. I think you are going to crash hard again when you seek out their attention again and they turn you down or blank you. You are riding a wave of false empowerment right now, because for one night you felt you were in control. I agree you should not have gotten into bed with either one of these guys, so that's a positive. However, I don't think you're enough in control of your own emotions to manage this well when the crap hits the fan again. Please, be careful with your own heart and mind. I also agree that taking time off dating would be a good idea. You seem to attract men who can smell your vulnerability and gullibility a mile away. It hasn't served you well and will continue to cause you pain until you really work on validating yourself without a guy.
Maddie82 Posted October 2, 2019 Posted October 2, 2019 I strongly suggest that you avoid both these guys permanently. Neither are serious about you. Neither of them actually care about you. One only wants one thing and the other is messed up. Unfortunately you don't listen to people when they advise things that are for your own good. You went to see this guy with expectations of kissing and sex? Why? Are you that desperate?
Author Love2015 Posted October 2, 2019 Author Posted October 2, 2019 I strongly suggest that you avoid both these guys permanently. Neither are serious about you. Neither of them actually care about you. One only wants one thing and the other is messed up. Unfortunately you don't listen to people when they advise things that are for your own good. You went to see this guy with expectations of kissing and sex? Why? Are you that desperate? Hmmm...not sure why would you say this? I have had an amazing meeting with Mr.Money. I said nothing happened and would not happen (as Initially wanted when I was into him before the drama unfolded) . Where did you get I went with expectation of kissing and sex? I have stated clearly it was about respect and something I felt I had to do. Anyways this one turned good. He was able to tell me what is truly going on with him and I was able to get through to him with my thoughts I even got half of the money Back! Which is great! I know this whole story was drama but can't you see the positive? And I am going to take time to no date anyone because I want to. I only see the light here and rollercoaster riding ended. Can anyone else not see it? O course I am taking my time to heal but not everything is negative at least not this meeting. Was not.
Maddie82 Posted October 2, 2019 Posted October 2, 2019 Where did you get I went with expectation of kissing and sex? I know this whole story was drama but can't you see the positive? You mentioned there was no sex, no kissing, which means you obviously thought about it, possibly hoped for it. The only positive i see is that you have half your money back. 1
Author Love2015 Posted October 2, 2019 Author Posted October 2, 2019 You mentioned there was no sex, no kissing, which means you obviously thought about it, possibly hoped for it. The only positive i see is that you have half your money back. Oh no. I mentioned it because it has been a recurrent theme in my dates and everyone has been saying that is all he wants. To be honest after hearing his story , I understand where he is coming from. I don't agree with his behavior for the longest but now at least I understand. I am very grateful for everyone's input. I can see the half glass full and my meeting has been very good. Better than I ever expected! Sometimes we are so focused on what we want ...We forget humanity.... 1
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