Maddie82 Posted September 19, 2019 Posted September 19, 2019 Again it was an Adult conversation. He deserved to be set straight. If he would of texted me and told me you know I'm not coming I met someone whatever but he didnt. So dont blame this on me. The guy is still following me so obviously he thinks differently from you He obviously hasn't gotten around to unfollowing you yet. It doesn't mean anything anyway. At the end of the day you expected way too much and he simply got turned off by that and backed off. 1
Author Britney25 Posted September 19, 2019 Author Posted September 19, 2019 He obviously hasn't gotten around to unfollowing you yet. It doesn't mean anything anyway. At the end of the day you expected way too much and he simply got turned off by that and backed off. Would you stop being on his side? He should of told me btw I met someone not when I told him you've been Mia lately then he suddenly says that. Admit it he had no balls and wanted to play me for a fool. Anyway I'm done
stillafool Posted September 19, 2019 Posted September 19, 2019 Yeah there's no reason to get your panties in a bunch over this guy. So what he met someone else he was talking to on line the same time he was probably talking to you. It happens, no skin off your back. After all you said in an earlier post you have guys texting you you have no interest in so now you know how they feel or don't care. Or maybe you will put yourself in their shoes and give one of them a chance. At least you didn't meet this guy in person and have sex because you'd feel much worse. 2
stillafool Posted September 19, 2019 Posted September 19, 2019 Well I don't think he didn't tell you about his new love interest because he didn't have the balls. I think he didn't tell you because he didn't want to hurt your feelings but he did anyway. I don't think he was trying to make you look like a fool either. He knows anyone would be crazy to be too hurt over someone they haven't even met yet. 2
Author Britney25 Posted September 19, 2019 Author Posted September 19, 2019 Yeah there's no reason to get your panties in a bunch over this guy. So what he met someone else he was talking to on line the same time he was probably talking to you. It happens, no skin off your back. After all you said in an earlier post you have guys texting you you have no interest in so now you know how they feel or don't care. Or maybe you will put yourself in their shoes and give one of them a chance. At least you didn't meet this guy in person and have sex because you'd feel much worse. What? I'm sorry I dont go on and on talking with these men..I dont reply to them and they keep texting so no I didnt act like he did. I respect people.
preraph Posted September 19, 2019 Posted September 19, 2019 Welcome to the utterly pointless world of trying to date long distance. 2
stillafool Posted September 19, 2019 Posted September 19, 2019 What? I'm sorry I dont go on and on talking with these men..I dont reply to them and they keep texting so no I didnt act like he did. I respect people. Well you were the one who said you aren't having any luck with love lately so why don't you give one of the guys "who's chasing you" a chance instead of getting butt hurt over this dude? 2
Maggiemay1 Posted September 19, 2019 Posted September 19, 2019 You both played a game. That’s what long distance chat only ever is. Nothing was ever going to come of it. He isn’t intentionally and actively following you. He likely is following a LOT of girls and you probably don’t show up on his feed unless he scrolls for ages. He just doesn’t care enough to seek you out and press unfollow. So block him. 1
Author Britney25 Posted September 19, 2019 Author Posted September 19, 2019 (edited) Load of Bs. He is o ly following 100 people most sport related and some women. So no you're wrong. He can unfollow me and he should have already but yet he didnt. Lurking on my insta stories as well. Guess what. This ******* has me on his back burner most likely Edited September 20, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote removed
Author Britney25 Posted September 19, 2019 Author Posted September 19, 2019 Well you were the one who said you aren't having any luck with love lately so why don't you give one of the guys "who's chasing you" a chance instead of getting butt hurt over this dude? I am very picky and have no interest in them. So no I wont give them a chance thank you
Author Britney25 Posted September 20, 2019 Author Posted September 20, 2019 He finally unfollowed me ha. I bet he would of been following all this time if I haven't texted him to have this BS conversation with him.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 20, 2019 Posted September 20, 2019 It's okay to be disappointed, OP. What seems to be the bigger problem is the disproportionate anger and bitterness this perceived rejection has triggered in you. That is what will ultimately prevent you from connecting well with the next man. You might want to take a deep breath, step back, and ask yourself if this random internet dude is worth all your angst here. 2
Maggiemay1 Posted September 20, 2019 Posted September 20, 2019 Guess what. This ******* has me on his back burner most likely Why are you so angry over someone you said you didn’t give a **** about only a few posts back? He is not a *******. He didn’t wrong you. He simply chatted with you as you did with him , but you took it seriously. Why did you? As you said yourself , it was instagram , not a dating site, so there was never an intent to date exactly. Rejection is something we all face in our lives. Whether it’s relationships , romantic or not, employment etc. If you were called to an interview and subsequently didn’t get the job , would you call the company out on their “BS”? Even though they met and and still chose another? Would you take it so personally? 1
Maddie82 Posted September 20, 2019 Posted September 20, 2019 He finally unfollowed me ha. I bet he would of been following all this time if I haven't texted him to have this BS conversation with him. Highly unlikely. You are just trying to cling to anything because you cant handle the fact that this guy lost interest in you and he decided that being the one to make all the sacrifices was too much for him. 2
Maddie82 Posted September 20, 2019 Posted September 20, 2019 Would you stop being on his side? He should of told me btw I met someone not when I told him you've been Mia lately then he suddenly says that. Admit it he had no balls and wanted to play me for a fool. Anyway I'm done This isn't about taking sides. This is not school but your immaturity tells me you are young and naive. Nope. He didn't play you for a fool. He simply got tired of being the one putting in all the leg work. You just can't handle rejection. 2
BaileyB Posted September 20, 2019 Posted September 20, 2019 And this is why people ghost. No doubt. I bet he is wishing that he never got involved here... 1
stillafool Posted September 20, 2019 Posted September 20, 2019 He finally unfollowed me ha. I bet he would of been following all this time if I haven't texted him to have this BS conversation with him. This is good. Now you can put this behind you. 2
Author Britney25 Posted September 20, 2019 Author Posted September 20, 2019 This isn't about taking sides. This is not school but your immaturity tells me you are young and naive. Nope. He didn't play you for a fool. He simply got tired of being the one putting in all the leg work. You just can't handle rejection. I swear you are something else Why are you so butter? Is this what hes going to do with the next chick? He didnt suddenly find anyone as it was close to the date he was supposed to come so yes he was lieing and didnt have the balls to tell me this is not going to work. He kept leading me on. So no I'm not in the wrong
Author Britney25 Posted September 20, 2019 Author Posted September 20, 2019 No doubt. I bet he is wishing that he never got involved here... What the hell are you talking about? He was the one set on flying to me. I didnt pressure him. He said I feel we have chemistry. This wasnt just flirtytalking. The guy sent me intimate photos of his home his goddaughter ..why to a stranger like me?
Author Britney25 Posted September 20, 2019 Author Posted September 20, 2019 Why are you so angry over someone you said you didn’t give a **** about only a few posts back? He is not a *******. He didn’t wrong you. He simply chatted with you as you did with him , but you took it seriously. Why did you? As you said yourself , it was instagram , not a dating site, so there was never an intent to date exactly. Rejection is something we all face in our lives. Whether it’s relationships , romantic or not, employment etc. If you were called to an interview and subsequently didn’t get the job , would you call the company out on their “BS”? Even though they met and and still chose another? Would you take it so personally? Because he made me believe that he really wants to see if anything will happen out of it.he was the one who said he wants to fly to me. He was really set on it. So yes I really started to believe him especially when he kept messaging me twice a day e en, Skype and phone calls. Sending me photos of his goddaughter. Wtf? So yes I am confused but whatever this has taught me to keep my guard as I kinda dropped it for him.
preraph Posted September 20, 2019 Posted September 20, 2019 This is how it goes with long distance flirtations on the internet. At least now you know. Men like close convenient less expensive sex for the most part. 1
Author Britney25 Posted September 20, 2019 Author Posted September 20, 2019 This is how it goes with long distance flirtations on the internet. At least now you know. Men like close convenient less expensive sex for the most part. Yeah I'm starting to think he only he only wanted sex I dont know.
preraph Posted September 20, 2019 Posted September 20, 2019 Even if he might eventually want more than that, he'd still want someone close and convenient, but yes, sex will be the No. 1 priority for most men. That rules out any form of long-distance true commitment. 2
Maggiemay1 Posted September 21, 2019 Posted September 21, 2019 Is this what hes going to do with the next chick? He didnt suddenly find anyone as it was close to the date he was supposed to come so yes he was lieing and didnt have the balls to tell me this is not going to work. He kept leading me on. So no I'm not in the wrong You were not the only chick he was talking to and sharing photos with. You can’t be that naive!? Maybe he did intend on flying to you but happened to meet one of the other chicks he was talking to and they hit it off? Someone closer to home. Who knows? He is not the first person to break a promise. Have you never broke a promise? 1
ExpatInItaly Posted September 21, 2019 Posted September 21, 2019 He didnt suddenly find anyone as it was close to the date he was supposed to come so yes he was lieing and didnt have the balls to tell me this is not going to work. He kept leading me on. So no I'm not in the wrong OP, I know it protects your ego to deny any possibility that he is more interested in another woman, but you need to get real with yourself here. You don't know this guy. You have no clue what his day-to-day life is really like. Thus, you cannot reasonably claim with any measure of certainty that he didn't meet another woman. By the same token, you also never had the chance to really evaluate this stranger's sincerity about meeting you and attempting to date. All of this was fantasy at this point. You have got to be more realistic and not let your ego stand in your way, or you're going to continue to struggle with men. Your past threads indicate this is an ongoing issue for you. 1
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