justicegrl Posted September 19, 2019 Posted September 19, 2019 Re Maggie's and salparadise's opinions, I see it much differently based on all posts, and I am not a self-entitled princess who expects men to chase and do all the work. Hardly. So if you choose to take their advice now Britany and essentially start chasing, I think it would be a mistake, which is not necessarily a bad thing, we learn valuable lessons from making mistakes and this may be one of them.
Maddie82 Posted September 19, 2019 Posted September 19, 2019 I definitely don't advise her to chase after the 'have a good day' text. He has dismissed her. He doesn't want to know. 1
justicegrl Posted September 19, 2019 Posted September 19, 2019 I definitely don't advise her to chase after the 'have a good day' text. He has dismissed her. He doesn't want to know. I see, must have misinterpreted, apologies.
Author Britney25 Posted September 19, 2019 Author Posted September 19, 2019 Ok the bastard told he met someone! I told him BS you didnt have the balls to tell me you're not coming. I called him out on all his **** and wished him well. He kept on reply no it's not true I really wanted to meet you, I am wish you well blah blah. I really wanted to tell him **** off. But I held my composure. Oh and I told him it's not that you haven't told me about meeting someone it's you didnt have the balls to tell me I'm not coming. If that would of happened then cool. I guess my ego is bruised people . God I knew never to text but at least I found out. Who knows maybe that will teach him something too. It goes both ways. I even told him dont be using Miss you on girls that's a strong word. He said nothing to that. Whatever
Maddie82 Posted September 19, 2019 Posted September 19, 2019 (edited) You haven't even met. You're not dating. He doesn't owe you anything and you have no right to shoot accusations at him. It's not like he cheated on you. Cussing at him just shows immaturity. Did you honestly expect him to take that 6 hour flight just to see you? That's a hell of a looong way to travel and he must've seen sense. Edited September 19, 2019 by Maddie82 3
justicegrl Posted September 19, 2019 Posted September 19, 2019 (edited) You can't teach guys like this anything Britney so don't even try, futile waste of energy. If I had to guess, it would be he never had any intention of meeting you, and there is no "other" woman he suddenly just met. He's a scammer plain and simple. Oh I am sure his face his real on Skype, even his job may be real, but the essence of who he is, his nature, his goals, his motivations, whatever he has shared with you about those things could be a big facade, which is why he resorts to these on line interactions versus real life relationships. Once its time to actually meet, he pulls the crap he just pulled. This has nothing to do with who's doing all the "work" I mean it's on line, how much work is there to do?? Lol You've initiated texts several times, promptly and enthusiastically responded to his, mutually made plan to meet in person. You both put in the "work" from what I can see. Guy is a loser Britney, a scammer which is different from catfish, and I am sorry to say, you have been scammed. Edited September 19, 2019 by justicegrl 1
stillafool Posted September 19, 2019 Posted September 19, 2019 I can't believe you would text him back after the "have a good day" send off. Well you forced his hand and he told you the truth that he met another girl so now you can put this behind you. Next time try to find a man in person who will actually court you. 1
justicegrl Posted September 19, 2019 Posted September 19, 2019 I highly doubt he suddenly met someone else (see my last post). He's not even looking, he is most likely juggling several of these interactions on line. That's his game, all he's capable of emotionally.
Maddie82 Posted September 19, 2019 Posted September 19, 2019 I highly doubt he suddenly met someone else (see my last post). He's not even looking, he is most likely juggling several of these interactions on line. That's his game, all he's capable of emotionally. You don't know this. 2
justicegrl Posted September 19, 2019 Posted September 19, 2019 You don't know this. Based on everything that's been posted AND my own experience that's my sense. Just like what you post is your sense of things. But you are right, no one knows for certain and frankly who cares. Guy has bailed, he's done and so should Britney. The End.
Author Britney25 Posted September 19, 2019 Author Posted September 19, 2019 You can't teach guys like this anything Britney so don't even try, futile waste of energy. If I had to guess, it would be he never had any intention of meeting you, and there is no "other" woman he suddenly just met. He's a scammer plain and simple. Oh I am sure his face his real on Skype, even his job may be real, but the essence of who he is, his nature, his goals, his motivations, whatever he has shared with you about those things could be a big facade, which is why he resorts to these on line interactions versus real life relationships. Once its time to actually meet, he pulls the crap he just pulled. This has nothing to do with who's doing all the "work" I mean it's on line, how much work is there to do?? Lol You've initiated texts several times, promptly and enthusiastically responded to his, mutually made plan to meet in person. You both put in the "work" from what I can see. Guy is a loser Britney, a scammer which is different from catfish, and I am sorry to say, you have been scammed. He is a player. I told him that. I told him you had some fun didn't you. And he was trying to go on back and forth with me how he really was going to see me and wanted to email me proof. I'm like stop just stop. He had no intentions and everything was and is bull****. I unfollowed him and deleted whatever last thing he messaged me. Deleted everything. And he still follows me. What a jackass.
Author Britney25 Posted September 19, 2019 Author Posted September 19, 2019 I highly doubt he suddenly met someone else (see my last post). He's not even looking, he is most likely juggling several of these interactions on line. That's his game, all he's capable of emotionally. Of course he hasnt net anyone. All of a sudden?! That's one in a million chance. His ego was hurt when I told him he has no balls to tell me. I know we dont owe each other nothing but he fired me up and good i told him it's not right what he did. If no one told him off before he deserved it.
Author Britney25 Posted September 19, 2019 Author Posted September 19, 2019 You haven't even met. You're not dating. He doesn't owe you anything and you have no right to shoot accusations at him. It's not like he cheated on you. Cussing at him just shows immaturity. Did you honestly expect him to take that 6 hour flight just to see you? That's a hell of a looong way to travel and he must've seen sense. I didnt curse him I said I wanted to say **** off but I didnt. Re read my comment.
Maddie82 Posted September 19, 2019 Posted September 19, 2019 You still got snippy with him and that's just immature 2
Author Britney25 Posted September 19, 2019 Author Posted September 19, 2019 (edited) He deserves it. If he thought I was immature why go on and on back and forth with me justifying himself and the ******* is still following me. Edited September 20, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote removed
justicegrl Posted September 19, 2019 Posted September 19, 2019 Britney, there is no right or wrong with how you choose, or chose, to respond. If it made YOU feel better to speak your piece, that is all that matters! 1
Maddie82 Posted September 19, 2019 Posted September 19, 2019 He deserves it. If he thought I was immature why go on and on back and forth with me justifying himself and the ******* is still following me. He was one expected to do everything. All the recto g, travelling. He just saw semse and realised you were too much for him. 2
justicegrl Posted September 19, 2019 Posted September 19, 2019 (edited) Look, if he suddenly realized the distance was too great, and was not up for it, he should have been straight with her about it. Not this suddenly fading out and he met someone else BS , what a load of ****. The way I see it, Britney wasn't "expecting" him to do everything, not sure how anyone could conclude that. There was a mutual exchange of messaging, they mutually discussed meeting in person and agreed he would visit. How is that her expecting him to do everything ? What happened is very typical of these on line interactions and connections, been through it myself. Lots of texting, lots of idealizing and fantasizing, but when it became real, time to meet in person, guy couldn't hack it and bailed. Britney you did nothing wrong except become overly attached to the outcome of this interaction with a man who most likely had a different agenda from the get go. Edited September 19, 2019 by justicegrl 1
Author Britney25 Posted September 19, 2019 Author Posted September 19, 2019 (edited) [Thank you for your understanding and insight. The ******* is still following me lol that's what I think as well he just bailed and didn't have the balls to tell me Edited September 20, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote removed
preraph Posted September 19, 2019 Posted September 19, 2019 I'm sure he's feeling he dodged a bullet about now. It is true that you never really see the whole real person until they're not getting what they want. There really is no such thing as commitment over the internet. 3
Author Britney25 Posted September 19, 2019 Author Posted September 19, 2019 (edited) Again it was an Adult conversation. He deserved to be set straight. If he would of texted me and told me you know I'm not coming I met someone whatever but he didnt. So dont blame this on me. The guy is still following me so obviously he thinks differently from you P.S if I was so wrong he shouldn't have kept replying to me and justifying his actions and wishing me well. He could of not reply right? So have some balls Edited September 20, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote removed
ExpatInItaly Posted September 19, 2019 Posted September 19, 2019 OP, you would be wise to learn not to get so attached to someone you’ve never met. 4
Author Britney25 Posted September 19, 2019 Author Posted September 19, 2019 (edited) Yes I know but I dont do it with everyone mind you. I guess me not having any luck in love and now this I was naive to trust his motives and my emotions exploded. But it was meant to happen for a reason. Maybe even a lesson for him. Edited September 20, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote removed
justicegrl Posted September 19, 2019 Posted September 19, 2019 I think they both dodged bullets, had they actually met, has disaster written all over it. Britney, you certainly have the right to be disappointed, and guy could have handled it better and more sensitively, but what's done is done, serves no good purpose holding on to such anger. Your anger doesn't mean a hill of beans to him, but holding on to it, becoming all wound up about it, will hurt you ultimately, and give "him" way more power than he deserves! Let it go.
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