Princesz Posted September 15, 2019 Posted September 15, 2019 I like him since we are still officemates until now he moved to a different company. We keep in touch by chatting. Few days back, he said he'll treat me. I was shocked because since he left our company, he never asked me to go out. I was always the one who invites between us and he usually says he's busy. But this time is different. He didn't literally asked me to go out with him but as he said he will treat me, that's what it means then right? Earlier we went to mall. We chatted, laughed, ate together then he asked me to join him buy clothes. He even asked my oponion which suits him. He asked me how was the the work. As I'm shy with him, sometimes we don't talk much and he glance at his phone. We had few food trips together before but this is our first time to go out like this, in a mall with other people and not as officemates.
stillafool Posted September 15, 2019 Posted September 15, 2019 You should have asked him if it was a date. To me it just looks like he was going to "treat you" because you've "treated" him and it's pay back. Plus you helped him shop for clothes. Lots of men like a woman's opinion on the clothes they buy so they can make sure they are dressing to please women. I don't see anything romantic about what you two did it just looked like co-workers hanging out.
Beendaredonedat Posted September 15, 2019 Posted September 15, 2019 In a couple of days, contact him and tell him that it's your turn to "treat" and would he like to go to dinner with you on (insert a time and day and make sure to say "or on another day of your choosing") If he says he's busy and doesn't offer another time/day then it was defo just im being a friend. If he agrees to go then the next "treat" is his turn so wait for him to contact you. No idle chit chat over superficial text.
justwhoiam Posted September 15, 2019 Posted September 15, 2019 Are you two dating? I guess not. He didn't literally asked me to go out with him but as he said he will treat me, that's what it means then right? No. I guess it was his way to celebrate his new job elsewhere, which he hadn't been able to do yet. As I'm shy with him, sometimes we don't talk much and he glance at his phone. He's comfortable with you and seems to behave as if he were around his male friends.
preraph Posted September 15, 2019 Posted September 15, 2019 People don't normally take a date to the mall. I think he wanted help buying clothes and also just didn't want to go alone. Don't jump to any conclusions. 1
Ami1uwant Posted September 16, 2019 Posted September 16, 2019 He may have believed I’m not dating coworkers so he kept his distance. Now working elsewhere he is open to dating you But He wasn’t sure about you if you looked st him as s friend or something more. He doesn’t usedate word.
Maddie82 Posted September 16, 2019 Posted September 16, 2019 No, this wasn't a date. It was hanging out as friends. Nothing more. Doesn't sound like there is any romantic interest on his part. Just friendship.
smackie9 Posted September 16, 2019 Posted September 16, 2019 It wasn't really a date BUT he could be feeling things out. Some guys don't have a whole lot of confidence, so they go the friendship route first, to get you comfortable being with them....kind butter you up before they have the gonads to ask you out. 1
PRW Posted September 16, 2019 Posted September 16, 2019 It wasn't really a date BUT he could be feeling things out. Some guys don't have a whole lot of confidence, so they go the friendship route first, to get you comfortable being with them....kind butter you up before they have the gonads to ask you out.Yea, I think this is exactly what it was. Low confidence behavor. It is low effort too, and the shopping part seems misguided. OP If you want it to be a date then you need to clarify it with him,...if you don't want it to be a date then clarify that to him too. If you don't it will take him forever to clarify, assuming he ever does. The "friends first" thing doesn't usually work out most of the time, so you need to decide what you are wanting and make sure he is moving the same way.
d0nnivain Posted September 16, 2019 Posted September 16, 2019 It does sound more like friends. At best it was a date but no you are not "dating" or "in a relationship".
Maggiemay1 Posted September 16, 2019 Posted September 16, 2019 Are you male or female? If female , my best guess is that he is gay ? It certainly was not a date. If he is not gay , then it seems very platonic. If you are male, then yes it suggests interest.
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