Erin2 Posted September 14, 2019 Posted September 14, 2019 A male acquaintance of mine sometimes stares at me and holds his stare for several seconds, maybe even minutes. It sometimes makes me uncomforfable, it usually happens when he drinks. He will stare at me, squint, I look away and he continues staring. He’s never asked me out, so why the constant creepy stares ?
spiderowl Posted September 14, 2019 Posted September 14, 2019 He is interested in you and wants you to know it. If you don't like him or feel uneasy with him, trust your instincts. While maintaining eye contact is supposed to be a sign of flirting, staring without break eye contact has an aggressive feeling to it. What do you know about this guy. I think you ought to be wary of being anywhere isolated with him.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted September 14, 2019 Posted September 14, 2019 Some people just stare. My mom and her twin sister are like this, always have been. It's very annoying. Sometimes when I'm out with my mom I have to tell her to stop staring at people (like she's my child).
ExpatInItaly Posted September 15, 2019 Posted September 15, 2019 Ask him what's up. It could be a sign of interest from him, or it could be poor social graces. I have a coworker who does this, and it's extraordinarily awkward. She makes everyone uncomfortable when she does it.
Maggiemay1 Posted September 15, 2019 Posted September 15, 2019 A male acquaintance of mine sometimes stares at me and holds his stare for several seconds, maybe even minutes. It sometimes makes me uncomforfable, it usually happens when he drinks. He will stare at me, squint, I look away and he continues staring. He’s never asked me out, so why the constant creepy stares ? The fact that he does it while having a drink suggests he is simply staring blankly but not specifically at anything. Also the fact that he squints suggests he doesn’t even know he is staring and most likely needs glasses. My mum does that and when I point it out to her she is completely unaware!! Hope that helps!! 1
schlumpy Posted September 15, 2019 Posted September 15, 2019 Do his eyes follow you around the room or stay fixed on one spot? Most people that have romantic intentions will not stare directly but give sidelong gazes when they think the other isn't looking. Rarely works. The other one not looking that is. 1
basil67 Posted September 15, 2019 Posted September 15, 2019 Perhaps there is something about you which piques his interest. It may not be romantic in origin.
schlumpy Posted September 15, 2019 Posted September 15, 2019 Perhaps there is something about you which piques his interest. It may not be romantic in origin. That's a good point. Someone with unique looks does draw attention. It could also be that you remind him of someone he used to know.
d0nnivain Posted September 15, 2019 Posted September 15, 2019 You say this happens when he has been drinking. That is your answer: it's the booze not him. It means nothing. It's just the alcohol
rightondude Posted September 15, 2019 Posted September 15, 2019 maybe this is his attempt at a seduction technique. Too bad for him it ain't working and you feel it's creepy.
alphamale Posted September 15, 2019 Posted September 15, 2019 its not just creepy, it's disconcerting
WorkingGal Posted September 16, 2019 Posted September 16, 2019 The information is too vague to imply he's interested. What other things does he do? Or is this the only quirk? People, after all, sometimes stare when their minds are rather preoccupied. I have a lot on my mind between work, business ventures & personal and will sometimes 'space out' just staring ahead. If someone gets into my line of vision it's not that I'm 'staring' at them it's that they 'got in my way'. Next time he does this point it out nicely. He may not even realize he's doing it. 1
lurker74 Posted September 16, 2019 Posted September 16, 2019 Answer: because your acquaintance is creepy AF. Eye contact held for a couple of seconds = good. Eye contact and staring for several minutes = serial killer (I'm joking, except I'm not joking).
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