Do I have a chance?

[Tagalz]

 

Your posts/threads regarding work come across as extremely insecure.

 

Also, your previous threads have indicated paranoia with your coworkers, believing they are conspiring and talking behind your back. Whether it is true or not, it shows how sensitive you are about every little thing they say and do.

 

Be honest with yourself. If she rejected you or broke up with you, would you be able to stop the thought that everyone was talking about you behind your back? Every time you heard people laugh or talk privately, you would assume they would be gossiping about you, right? You already do this.

 

 

I do believe that they talk behind my back because of their behaviour or signs. I don’t like it and it’s unfair cause they are first saying it in a group and then saying it to everybody.

 

I was responsible for scanning tickets (they are calling it for control) and I was so busy that I had no time to clean the room after the customer’s had left. I needed to worry about standing there to make sure every ticket’s are scanned and let them in to the see the movie.

 

I asked my co-worker to take over so I can make the rooms ready and then go to the toilet. I did but when I came back they told me to clean the room again because I didn’t do a «good job»

 

The girl who I asked to take over told 2 of her best work colleague that «I was using the toilet when I had control» she were also telling them about my bad cleaning of the theater room.

 

And so came the girl who I have previously been angry at. She told me to say «sorry» and I did. After I did she laughed.

 

I seriously hate her and I think someday I would let it all out and make her listen to what I have to say. Or just report her

[Tagalz]

:laugh:

 

Unfortunately, Norway ranks among the highest depression rates (top 10) in Western Europe. Suicide rates are high too. It's in the Western European top 10 countries for beer consumption. And according to Hofstede masculinity factor, Norway has one of the lowest scores in the world, being second only to Sweden, which means they don't have gender roles anymore. Could all of that be intertwined?

 

I don’t know about suicide because the news are rarely talking about it. Other than that it’s true. I can’t say anything about Norway being ranked top 10 depressed country in Western Europe because I don’t really understand why hahha

 

But when it comes to beer oh yes. Norwegians are in their social habitat when drinking alcohol. We need beer to be social and to be outgoing and fun

[justwhoiam]

Yes I’m very shy and I tend to back off in a social setting when there is many group of people.

The risk is that you fall into the background, sort of like wallpaper. The mysterious/shy guy can be attractive his own way, but you need to do something, if you want a chance. What I mentioned is still valid. Try to steal her from the group sometimes, so that you have some time alone with her.

 

We do have 30 min to 1 hour of freetime to do whatever we want in the cinema

What could you do? Let her see she can have fun being around you.

 

I have gone through alot of drama when I was younger and were more open. I have met people who used me, who were bullying me and who were a fake friend.

Your ex was cheating on you with a friend of yours? How were you used and bullyied?

 

I think that’s selfish of you’re ex.

Yeah. That's why he's an ex. He arranged his bday party in club, and didn't consider me all night. Meanwhile I was getting drinks or going to the bathroom, and guys would stop me asking to know my name, chatting me up and basically wanting to hook up with me. What a night!

[Scarlett.O'hara]

I know it's hard to resist someone you are attracted to at work, but I'm really concerned that this will only add more complications to the negativity and stressful situations you have been experiencing.

 

Dating and relationships can be difficult enough at the best of times. Dealing with it at work on top of that just sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.

 

Maybe it would be different if you trusted her and were feeling more relaxed and confident, but that doesn't seem to be the case right now. That may change in time.

 

I'm not discouraging you from dating, just not with a coworker. It would be great if you met someone you really like.

 

The most important thing right now is to minimize the amount of stress and anxiety you are experiencing at work. You should feel comfortable and confident being there. Sometimes it can take months to truly settle in, but if you keep working hard and try to distract yourself from negative thoughts, things should start to improve.

[Maddie82]

Judging by your post, no, she doesn't have any interest in you. She seems interested in Tom though and they are without a doubt talking about you behind your back. Don't bother with her.