Angeleyez2583 Posted September 29, 2005 Posted September 29, 2005 Yeah so here it goes.. I've posted on here a while ago when my ex and I first broke up... and then we started hooking up this summer, having sex.. all that fun stuff.. he would get mad at me if I hung out with other guys and even hounded me when I was dating other guys... I really wanted to smack him.. sex with an ex doesn't work... stupid me thought we might have had another chance.. nope.. def. didn't happen.. no matter how much i thought that's how he was feeling... we were best friends.. he met a new girl.. now he shut me out of his life... i can understand this tho... i'm letting him go.. i'm done with him.. and his games.. and I know there's bigger and better out there... i've met so many guys out there who want to offer me the world... so my question is this.. I've over my ex.. I keep meeting amazing guys.. why am I not having feelings for them??? I keep trying to push the guys away.
unsafe Posted September 29, 2005 Posted September 29, 2005 Maybe you are scared. At least you are meeting amazing guys. I was with my ex for 3 years it didn't work out. I met three guys since dated them all. for a while. I liked them all. But they turned out to be the biggest a**h***s I had ever met. Broke my heart used me and abused me and left me all alone. Now having a boyfriend or even dating scares me so bad that I would rather be alone. I have been hurt so bad this year and I don't trust and I am scared because I always fall way to fast even when I am trying not to. The last guy dated me and his ex girlfriend at the same time just about. and I could tell he just wasn't into me and I wasn't sure why till I finally told him I couldn't do it anymore. He said well I am back with my ex. I was like nice..thanks..thats what I deserve right? Man I can tell you I am having such a bad day. I can't meet any nice guys. I have been hurt way to many times this year. This last one ripped me apart. I am so hurt and overwhelmed by this. I find myself tearing up as I write this. Its crazy I miss him and he doesn't even deserve me to think about him. He treated me so wrong while we were together and then to come to find out it was because he is with his ex again. I am just so scared, but someday some way I have to get over this because when you have a relationship and its great its everything and the greatest. my ex of the 3 years is calling me again. I don't know what he wants. I don't want him back. I know he isn't the one. But I feel so alone. I don't know why these guys think they can come in and just swipe me off my feet to throw me down on the ground and kick me till I can't breath? I am so angry, hurt, sad, happy, and worried at the same time. Happy you say? yeah happy I am happy that I am not with those jerks anymore. That I got out fast enough not to get used more then I already was. I guess its just not your time or my time. Maybe there are other things you need to focus on. work, school, jobs, friends, family, investments. date around..enjoy it. Just don't think to far ahead.
In Sync Posted September 30, 2005 Posted September 30, 2005 The one thing I am learning that no matter what you know logically is done and over with, because you were physically with another...exchange energy good or bad, that person is not out of your system...yet. AND becuase I learned that from my experience and reading about everyone dealing with their loss however short term they were together..just the fact that you connected with them on some level means that an impression on your emotional DNA has been made. Mourning will be different from you than maybe someone else who is still hung up and in love with the person they split from, but mourning is mourning and it will take time before he's out the system. Therefore you can't expect a new guy no matter how wonderful they are to have any effect on you until you are through grieving. Sounds over the top a bit but this is what I think. As for you Unsafe, you have a longer time to heal because you've had on unsatisfactiry relationship after another..I am sure after the right amount of time for you and you only will things dating look like an option again. We can't be meant to be on this planet alone I mean why would there be so many of us? No we will connect again with proper mates but after the bad taste had faded from our palette. Who's to say when each of us need to be in a relationship..there's no law saying that we have to be with someone immediately after a breakup. Maybe 6 months is a good time to recharge and better not to rush into anything until you feel SAFE.
In Sync Posted September 30, 2005 Posted September 30, 2005 The one thing I am learning that no matter what you know logically is done and over with, because you were physically with another...exchange energy good or bad, that person is not out of your system...yet. AND becuase I learned that from my experience and reading about everyone dealing with their loss however short term they were together..just the fact that you connected with them on some level means that an impression on your emotional DNA has been made. Mourning will be different from you than maybe someone else who is still hung up and in love with the person they split from, but mourning is mourning and it will take time before he's out the system. Therefore you can't expect a new guy no matter how wonderful they are to have any effect on you until you are through grieving. Sounds over the top a bit but this is what I think. As for you Unsafe, you have a longer time to heal because you've had on unsatisfactiry relationship after another..I am sure after the right amount of time for you and you only will things dating look like an option again. We can't be meant to be on this planet alone I mean why would there be so many of us? No we will connect again with proper mates but after the bad taste had faded from our palette. Who's to say when each of us need to be in a relationship..there's no law saying that we have to be with someone immediately after a breakup. Maybe 6 months is a good time to recharge and better not to rush into anything until you feel SAFE.
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