If he was interested would he do this?

[dalialba]

Sorry, but I reread that a few times and saw no interest on his part in you. Nor am I sure why you think this or why you were offended by what he said. I think I would just move on.

 

NOw i remember a day before when ordering with a different rep, our doc had given his order seperately and i gave our(3 employees orders) separately and had asked for 3 fruit salads as desert. Now i'm thinking my other coworker who likes him must've said to him that I only asked for 3, which now makes sense to me.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

What did you actually want for lunch yesterday?

[Sam2020]

Look, I can understand why you might feel a bit put-off by his ordering 3 salads instead of 4 to include you even after you mentioned that you didn't find salads filling. Overall, I do agree that it does seem like a passive-aggressive move to totally exclude you. BUT, I also think that you should have been gracious and eaten the salad anyway. You could have supplemented that with something else since you already knew the day before. It would have been weird for him to ask the rep to order 3 salads and one (whatever for you). Making it look like he was catering to your likes and not consider the other office people.

 

Regarding the coffee, I would have made a joking remark about being left out. Pouting about something like this in an office environment is never a good thing.

In any case, I think you should stop analyzing his every move. If he is truly interested, he would treat you much nicer. Unless he has maturity issues, lol. Just because a person is a doctor, lawyer or POTUS doesn't mean they are fully mature.

[dalialba]

Look, I can understand why you might feel a bit put-off by his ordering 3 salads instead of 4 to include you even after you mentioned that you didn't find salads filling. Overall, I do agree that it does seem like a passive-aggressive move to totally exclude you. BUT, I also think that you should have been gracious and eaten the salad anyway. You could have supplemented that with something else since you already knew the day before. It would have been weird for him to ask the rep to order 3 salads and one (whatever for you). Making it look like he was catering to your likes and not consider the other office people.

 

Regarding the coffee, I would have made a joking remark about being left out. Pouting about something like this in an office environment is never a good thing.

In any case, I think you should stop analyzing his every move. If he is truly interested, he would treat you much nicer. Unless he has maturity issues, lol. Just because a person is a doctor, lawyer or POTUS doesn't mean they are fully mature.

 

Well i don't think the salad orders were set in stone he could've asked what we each wanted because that's what we usually do. BUT a day before that a different rep was bringing us food and the doctor texted his order seperately and i texted the order for the 3 of us . For desert i got 3 fruit salalds so i'm wondering if this is the reason. My coworker mightve said that I only ordered for the 3 of us so the next day the orders came. I mean if i didn't matter he wouldn't pay so much attention to when i didn't eat before. Ive posted it above if you read. Why do i get the vibe he's interested? My gut says so and also another coworker of mine. BUt he wouldn't do this if he was interested you're saying?

[ExpatInItaly]

Why do i get the vibe he's interested? My gut says so and also another coworker of mine. BUt he wouldn't do this if he was interested you're saying?

 

Because you are gaga for him, and desperately want him to feel the same way.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

Him paying attention to things like you not eating sounds like typical human behavior in a small office, to be honest. You learn each others habits, etc.

 

I think lunchgate and coffeegate was just a misunderstanding.....

[smackie9]

If he was interested, he probably isn't now. If he was he'd be playing favorites, like making sure you got a lunch you desire, and not only bring you a coffee, but a nice cupcake just for you.

[justicegrl]

Ok he's interested in you, fabulous!

 

So ask him for coffee or something, you know an actual date.

 

I'm being serious, since you're so convinced all his actions reflect his interest, go for it, ask him out, something light and fun.

 

Why not, what's stopping you?

[Maddie82]

He's not interested in you. He doesn't even like you. He fidgets because he's uncomfortable around you. You make him uncomfortable with your aggressive behavior and rudeness. Leave him alone.

[preraph]

He is handling you with kid gloves because you're rude and ungrateful, that's all. He is in no way interested in you and the fact you think such minor little things indicate he is is a bit scary.

[stillafool]

OP, have you posted about this doctor before under a different username?

 

This story, and your tone and style of writing, is very familiar.

 

I was thinking the same thing. This whole story sounds familiar.

[stillafool]

I haven't given him reason to think i like him, i've only acted professionally, never flirted or anything but with him the way he interacts with me is different than others, he's more soft and my coworker also noticed that he's a gentlamn holds doors for me when he doesn't with anyone else. And someone else in the office likes him and she has been very open about it with her and he doesn't act nervous around her. But again i haven't shown any interest for him to think i am interested. And i just get that vibe from him before before this he was doing anything i said like don't drink energy drinks, started working out because i do(and called his friend round and he heard), tried share same take with me on things, etc. and read below please

 

Why are you copying and pasting the same post to people? Your thread doesn't make sense.

[stillafool]

upset about that he before said he wanted me to eat and didn't like it when i didn't eat before as I posted above. Then he ordered a salad when a day before I said i didn't find salads filling. Idk if they do or don't

 

This alone shows he's not thinking about you. He completely forgot that you told him you don't find salads filling. You are not on his mind. If it was a woman he was interested in impressing or getting to know he certainly would have remembered and got you something better. You're just one of the bunch to him. Why are you asking all these questions? Are you in love with him or something?

[dalialba]

This alone shows he's not thinking about you. He completely forgot that you told him you don't find salads filling. You are not on his mind. If it was a woman he was interested in impressing or getting to know he certainly would have remembered and got you something better. You're just one of the bunch to him. Why are you asking all these questions? Are you in love with him or something?

 

this guy doesn't forget ANYTHING he remembers every detail i tell him and has brought up dates i've said i have tests on that i don't remember