If he was interested would he do this?

[dalialba]

We work together and he showed some signs of interest such as fidgeting when talking to me, taking deep breaths etc. Anyway, he's a doctor and a rep was bringing us food today. Strangely the order came and was only 3 when there is 4 of us in the office. It was salad so i dind't like it anyway and didn't eat it and nor did my other coworker. As the rep was leaving and the doctor came out with him, the rep said there is 3 order for you to share with your employess. So the dr went inside kitchen then came out and said"you guys got food right" (my coworker and i were sitting together).I said "no" in a bit of offended, bit of sarcastic way.

Then he said well there's one untouched dish there. Anyway, i was offended and just went downstairs to walk around. I ran into him and a guy walking together and heard the doctor saying laughing and saying "sensitive world". So he had gone down to the cafeteria(he gets free stuff) and he brought coffee for the other 2 girls and nothing for me. So what i wasn't in the office at that time. He knew i was gonna come back. It was the lunch break. Ugh would an interested guy get butt hurt like this and do this?

[ExpatInItaly]

Huh?

 

I don't see signs of interest nor butt-hurtedness on his part. Your end, yes. His? Unless you're leaving something out, no. He didn't bring you coffee because you bolted out of there, for some reason. I would've assumed you didn't want anything, too.

 

I also have no clue why you were offended and responded sarcastically.

 

This whole post is confusing.

[dalialba]

He can't look me in the eye when talking to me, fidgets with things/acts awkward, not as confident seems to take deep breaths when talking to me and it's very noticeable and his demeanor when talking to me softens. Yes, I left for the remainder of 30 min of lunch but obviously i was coming back to work, he could've brought the coffee for me too

[dalialba]

Huh?

 

I don't see signs of interest nor butt-hurtedness on his part. Your end, yes. His? Unless you're leaving something out, no. He didn't bring you coffee because you bolted out of there, for some reason. I would've assumed you didn't want anything, too.

 

I also have no clue why you were offended and responded sarcastically.

 

This whole post is confusing.

 

AND on top of that he was down the whole day, as was I

[ExpatInItaly]

I’m sorry, but I think this is all in your head.

[hippychick3]

What a confusing post. He doesn’t sound interested. If anything, he sounds put off and uncomfortable around you, for good reason. What’s with the sarcasm and rudeness on your part? That would turn any man off. It’s very unattractive.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

So the dr went inside kitchen then came out and said"you guys got food right" (my coworker and i were sitting together).I said "no" in a bit of offended, bit of sarcastic way.

 

Why were you so rude?

 

And no, this man doesn't seem interested in you, from what I can gather from your very confusing story.

[ExpatInItaly]

Yes, I left for the remainder of 30 min of lunch but obviously i was coming back to work, he could've brought the coffee for me too

 

You behaved in a rude and bizarre manner.

 

I can't see why he would be inclined to bring you coffee after that.

[stillafool]

He can't look me in the eye when talking to me, fidgets with things/acts awkward, not as confident seems to take deep breaths when talking to me and it's very noticeable and his demeanor when talking to me softens. Yes, I left for the remainder of 30 min of lunch but obviously i was coming back to work, he could've brought the coffee for me too

 

I fidget and take deep breaths when a conversation doesn't end fast enough so I can go about my business. I hate being held up when I'm busy even to answer a question. My husband gets so annoyed with me over it. So I would say that the doctor is fidgeting and taking deep breaths because he has loads of work to do and doesn't want to bother with trivial matters. I see no romantic interest from what you've said.

[dalialba]

You behaved in a rude and bizarre manner.

 

I can't see why he would be inclined to bring you coffee after that.

 

What are you talking about? How did I "BEHAVE" rude, it was rude because there were only 3 salads. And a day before I had told him i didn't find salad filling. The next day he had ordered salads and only 3, what would YOU think in my place? even my coworker said it's strange how he didn't bring me coffee. And he acts awkward, cannot maintain eye contact, fidgets with his clothes, and he's a new doctor so he's not SWAMPED with work. Even when celebrating a birthday part and it's AFTER work, he fidgets with his tea, smiling, forgetting what to say etc. He didn't seem annoyed with me to be doing those things because he smiles/laughs. So yesterday I felt he was mad at me for something. There is no way a rep would come in w/ 3 salads if he had mentioned that there were 3 employees. His not bringing coffee was passive aggressive even one time where he had done something mean, I considered getting starbucks for everyone but him but i didn't because i didn't want to stoop that low.

[ExpatInItaly]

What are you talking about? How did I "BEHAVE" rude, it was rude because there were only 3 salads. And a day before I had told him i didn't find salad filling. The next day he had ordered salads and only 3, what would YOU think in my place?

 

That he heard what I said about salad not being filling. I certainly wouldn't have been offended nor sarcastic, which is rude.

 

Your posts are not very coherent so it's hard to follow your story, but I still don't see any signs of interest from him. You seem to be projecting because you are interested in him, but nothing you have described so far leads me to think it is mutual.

 

Sorry.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

So are you mad that he didn't order you something other than a salad? Like a sandwich? I'm still very confused by your story.

[Big Aus]

Firstly, no, that's not the signs of interest. Sorry.

It may well be the opposite, that he doesn't like talking to you, but I can't say.

 

Ok, so the rep bought Salads, he asked if you had got some, you said no and tried to indicate that you don't like salad, and he's basically said "well its there if you want it."

The rep only brought salads, you don't like them, I' not sure what else there is to this??

 

You overheard him say "sensitive world"? I have no idea what that means?

 

He didn't bring you back coffee, but brought it for two other coworkers.

I don't know why he would do that. It seems a bit insensitive, but I wouldn't read too much into it. Sometimes the male brain works in very cold-logical manner. You weren't present, so to his mind it made no sense to bring you a coffee?

 

But to answer your question, no if he were interested he would NOT neglect to bring you coffee.

[dalialba]

I fidget and take deep breaths when a conversation doesn't end fast enough so I can go about my business. I hate being held up when I'm busy even to answer a question. My husband gets so annoyed with me over it. So I would say that the doctor is fidgeting and taking deep breaths because he has loads of work to do and doesn't want to bother with trivial matters. I see no romantic interest from what you've said.

 

What are you talking about? How did I "BEHAVE" rude, it was rude because there were only 3 salads. And a day before I had told him i didn't find salad filling. The next day he had ordered salads and only 3, what would YOU think in my place? even my coworker said it's strange how he didn't bring me coffee. And he acts awkward, cannot maintain eye contact, fidgets with his clothes, and he's a new doctor so he's not SWAMPED with work. Even when celebrating a birthday part and it's AFTER work, he fidgets with his tea, smiling, forgetting what to say etc. He didn't seem annoyed with me to be doing those things because he smiles/laughs. So yesterday I felt he was mad at me for something. There is no way a rep would come in w/ 3 salads if he had mentioned that there were 3 employees. His not bringing coffee was passive aggressive even one time where he had done something mean, I considered getting starbucks for everyone but him but i didn't because i didn't want to stoop that low.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

So a rep was coming in and bringing lunch for everyone and the doctor told him to bring 3 salads for 3 employees? And that makes you mad for some reason? You're not making sense.

[dalialba]

Firstly, no, that's not the signs of interest. Sorry.

It may well be the opposite, that he doesn't like talking to you, but I can't say.

 

Ok, so the rep bought Salads, he asked if you had got some, you said no and tried to indicate that you don't like salad, and he's basically said "well its there if you want it."

The rep only brought salads, you don't like them, I' not sure what else there is to this??

 

You overheard him say "sensitive world"? I have no idea what that means?

 

He didn't bring you back coffee, but brought it for two other coworkers.

I don't know why he would do that. It seems a bit insensitive, but I wouldn't read too much into it. Sometimes the male brain works in very cold-logical manner. You weren't present, so to his mind it made no sense to bring you a coffee?

 

But to answer your question, no if he were interested he would NOT neglect to bring you coffee.

 

I'm the one interacting with him and felt it from his behavior, describing in a few words, isn't the same as observing his behavior. Male brain? he knew clearly i was coming back from lunch

[ExpatInItaly]

Look, your primary question here was would a man behave the way he did if he were interested.

 

And we have all essentially confirmed that no, he would not.

 

Ergo, he is not interested.

[preraph]

Um, I think you're the one that's butthurt. Don't think that doctor is interested in you.

[smackie9]

He offered salads for lunch, you don't like salad so he didn't order one for you. That's pretty straight forward. No different in my office. I don't like what they are offering for lunch, I bring my own lunch. My advice, pack a lunch.

[stillafool]

What are you talking about? How did I "BEHAVE" rude, it was rude because there were only 3 salads. And a day before I had told him i didn't find salad filling. The next day he had ordered salads and only 3, what would YOU think in my place? even my coworker said it's strange how he didn't bring me coffee. And he acts awkward, cannot maintain eye contact, fidgets with his clothes, and he's a new doctor so he's not SWAMPED with work. Even when celebrating a birthday part and it's AFTER work, he fidgets with his tea, smiling, forgetting what to say etc. He didn't seem annoyed with me to be doing those things because he smiles/laughs. So yesterday I felt he was mad at me for something. There is no way a rep would come in w/ 3 salads if he had mentioned that there were 3 employees. His not bringing coffee was passive aggressive even one time where he had done something mean, I considered getting starbucks for everyone but him but i didn't because i didn't want to stoop that low.

 

Why are you directing this to me? My post didn't say anything about your rudeness.

 

The fact that there was only 3 salads and you got no coffee is further proof that you are not even on this guy's mind. He wasn't even thinking of you. But, since you are convinced he is why do you need us to say anything?

[d0nnivain]

He's your boss. He spent his life pursuing his degree & might not have the best social skills.

 

He's not interested in dating you. He's not about to open himself up to a sexual harassment action by dating an employee. He may not be able to look you in the eye because he senses that you want something more from him & he has no idea how to dissuade you.

[justwhoiam]

My guess is the doc told the rep he'd be getting something at the cafeteria, and the rep bought 3 salads for the 3 employees. The rep doesn't know your tastes, and the doc didn't come forward with: oh no, (insert your name) doesn't like salad. He let the rep do the gesture. Apparently, one salad was intact, so that's your further proof.

 

Then he was returning to the office with two coffees for the two employees who were there... and maybe asked for it or had agreed on that, since he was going there.

 

You left before you could see any of that happening, and even if that never happened and it was just his idea, you were not in the office anyway.

 

Does he like you? Based on the elements you provided, we have no reason to think so. He might be nervous around you because maybe he could feel you're into him, and he might not want any involvement with the employees. Whatever the reason, we don't know enough to say something about it.

[dalialba]

Why are you directing this to me? My post didn't say anything about your rudeness.

 

The fact that there was only 3 salads and you got no coffee is further proof that you are not even on this guy's mind. He wasn't even thinking of you. But, since you are convinced he is why do you need us to say anything?

 

you don't know half the story. A situation happened before where i didn't like th efood he ordered so i told him i didn't want it and wasn't gonna get anything and left during lunch, when the food came he was upset and remarked why are there only 3 orders to my coworker. She said well she dind't want it that's why and had to step out and he said "why is she so picky" So after lunch when i came back to the office he passed by and said "the food was soooo good and healthy right guys" so passive aggressive. I didn't respond, because it was so childish, id ind't like it i dind't eat it no need to make such comments. Then a month later, i said a rep was asking what alcoholic drink he wanted he said what do you want? i said well i don't drink anything but muscato wine, but i'm not the doctor he's asking what you want. Then he said "well i don't really drink and when i do these lunches i do it for you guys, to feed you guys because i want you to eat" I said well we do and he said "well do you remember that one time" (i was shocked he brought it up).I laughed and said well that was a different situation(bc he didn't order from the place i wanted even though he asked what i wanted).I also said yes my ex bf didn't eat when people brough them lunches either, and he's also a doctor. So idk if now he's doing this in spite. If he wanted me to eat then you order a salad?? and if i'm just a employee you get coffee for all employees? BUT me? why all this tension

[Watercolors]

I agree with justwhoiam, that the sales rep brought lunches for all the employees. This had literally nothing to do with you or your boss -- the doctor -- and for you to attribute some sort of meaning to it, is because you are the one who likes the doctor. To answer your question: no the doctor's actions of accepting the sales reps salads and coffees (which is what every sales rep does for his/her clients: brings them foods, gifts, etc. as a 'thank you for being my client') are not an indication that he has any romantic interest in you whatsoever.

[ExpatInItaly]

OP, have you posted about this doctor before under a different username?

 

This story, and your tone and style of writing, is very familiar.