JackieDaniels1977 Posted September 12, 2019 Posted September 12, 2019 Asking for a friend, really!!! A girl friend of mine was out with friends and a guy friend of hers walked up to her with a guy and said Here she is you wanted to meet her. She had seen him many times before so she was a little confused as to why he had just did talk to her before. They talked for a minute and her guy friend hugged her and kind of shoed her in to going home. So she hugged the new guy out of habbit and turned and hugged her friend and went home. The following week She saw the same two guys and her friend talked to her and the other one will call mark. walked off. She tought he may of had a bad night or something and left him alone. THe following week. here is where the Question is.... She finds out that this guy Mark will be coming up later to the Bar She was going to be at watching a band because he has friends on the band. She see him watching her from the other side of the bar. She has him on her facebook page. So She texted him and told him where she was sitting if he wanted to come over. five minutes later he comes over. sits with her, then five minutes later the band takes a break, She and him talk a little bit. then Mark tells her he wants to see his friends and leaves her with his phone and drink. no big deal. she already knew about that. when the band starts to play again, Mark is gone and comes back 10mins later with another girl and asked if it was ok for her to sit with them. Again no big deal. A cowboy comes out of no where and Steals this girl from the table. My friend can See Marks a little put off by this. He say no more to my friend but stays at the table. The cowboy and the girl come back for a minute. Mark hugs the girl good by. Looked at my friend and said he was tired and was going home, have a good night and walks off. My friend texted him have a safe drive, it was nice to see you. he writes back thank you and you do the same. What she wants to know is, if he was so gun ho to meet her a few weeks ago and came over to the table to see her, Why did he bring another girl back to the table? And if her hugging her guy friend, the other night was put him off. which it shouldn't have because Mark Knows they are close friends because that's how he meet her to begin with. or do you thinkg the guy friend told Mark she was off limt's? Which in the pass this guy friend has ran off other guys when it has come to my friend. We were just trying to figure if at this point, Should She leave Mark alone and let him come back around on his own.
preraph Posted September 12, 2019 Posted September 12, 2019 Maybe it wasn't him wanting to meet her but the guy who introduced them wanting him to see her. Also, maybe it was just a drunk thing. And there would be zero reason, even if he did say, "Introduce me to your friend" for him to then start being exclusive when they've barely talked and never even gone out and he has not asked her out or anything. So I think the girl is making too much of the whole thing and it was just drunk bar stuff 1
kendahke Posted September 12, 2019 Posted September 12, 2019 (edited) What she wants to know is, if he was so gun ho to meet her a few weeks ago and came over to the table to see her, Why did he bring another girl back to the table? And if her hugging her guy friend, the other night was put him off. because after meeting her, he decided that she wasn't who he built her up to be in his imagination, so instead of adjusting his expectations, he'd rather give your girl the boot because she didn't meet them. Tell your girl to quit trippin' off a stranger. a guy friend of hers walked up to her with a guy and said Here she is you wanted to meet her. This isn't a contract to anything more, nor is she owed devotion after one meeting. Edited September 12, 2019 by kendahke 1
lurker74 Posted September 12, 2019 Posted September 12, 2019 Two possible answers, I see, neither of them good. 1) He has no confidence and didn't know how to turn an introduction into a date and looked at your friend leaving as a blow off and now wants to "get even" by rubbing her nose in how much he "doesn't care" when in fact he obviously does. 2) He has a lot of game and is trying to "neg" your friend into wanting to prove herself to him by blowing her off and throwing out opportunities for her to view herself is less than him (a classic pick up artist strategy). When I say "game" in this context, it's not good. Negging can get youo laid but it can't make a relationship. So whether he's too shy to hang and doesn't deal with things well or he's self centered and trying to manipulate your friend with negging and other PUA strategies, she should be happy that it's not going anywhere.
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