matty145 Posted September 12, 2019 Posted September 12, 2019 So I've been having difficulty getting a girl to actually stick around. I've been on lots of dates, hook ups, and flings in the last year. And they all usually end in the same way, they say I'm a nice guy but just aren't into me enough to start a relationship. I like to think I just haven't found the right girl yet. Any positive advice somebody can give me? Seems like every time I meet a nice girl they just aren't super interested.
Ami1uwant Posted September 12, 2019 Posted September 12, 2019 You are likrly foing something wrong. If you are attractive enough to get dates but you don’t go anywhere after 2-3 dates there must be something you are doing. Maybe you aren’t doing anything wrong but the peop,e you are interested in are very different from you thus little in common. 1
scooby-philly Posted September 12, 2019 Posted September 12, 2019 So I've been having difficulty getting a girl to actually stick around. I've been on lots of dates, hook ups, and flings in the last year. And they all usually end in the same way, they say I'm a nice guy but just aren't into me enough to start a relationship. I like to think I just haven't found the right girl yet. Any positive advice somebody can give me? Seems like every time I meet a nice girl they just aren't super interested. Know your enemy - you might win some battle - know yourself - win every time. (okay - stretching it here) But I think it's true - if you know what you want, what you have to offer, your strengths, your weakness, your good points, your bad points, and you can love yourself - AND (lesson for me) you can stop yourself early in and analyze things and get advice to see if what you have is lined up to those wants/your personality - you will eventually find someone. As long as you're having fun along the way and learning - it's a ride. Not saying it makes it easier on your heart sometimes....I know all too well the pang of disappointment, love un-returned, etc. - but work on you, be a good friend, be a good family member, and be yourself - and keep on trying. And remember - when you feel like crap - 3,000+ people died 18 years ago today who weren't planning on it. How many left things unsaid to a loved one? Or last words spoken were in anger? Children left without a parent. A spouse left without their best friend. Sorry - not trying to be morbid. And maybe it's a bit of an unfair comparison - so maybe this - think about how many couples are together and they're terrible humans. They're terrible couples. They're terrible parents. It doesn't change you desire, but it keeps you positive. And of course - come here for the friendly advice too
Author matty145 Posted September 12, 2019 Author Posted September 12, 2019 You are likrly foing something wrong. If you are attractive enough to get dates but you don’t go anywhere after 2-3 dates there must be something you are doing. Maybe you aren’t doing anything wrong but the peop,e you are interested in are very different from you thus little in common. I don't think I'm doing anything wrong. I'm a fairly normal guy, with normal friends who would probably tell me if I was doing something wrong. Idk I feel like I just haven't met the right person yet. Who knows... sucks tho
scooby-philly Posted September 12, 2019 Posted September 12, 2019 I don't think I'm doing anything wrong. I'm a fairly normal guy, with normal friends who would probably tell me if I was doing something wrong. Idk I feel like I just haven't met the right person yet. Who knows... sucks tho Age? Location? (Meaning country, burbs, city), hobbies? etc. And you would be surprised - a lot of people who could offer sound advice don't speak and a lot of people who speak can't offer anything sound.
mortensorchid Posted September 13, 2019 Posted September 13, 2019 You might as well ask what the meaning of life is while you're at it. Because I don't know that either. Just put things up to experience and ... It's experience. You know by these bad interactions that they were NOT right for you, to be sure. They say when you know, you know. Just believe that somewhere, somehow you'll find someone.
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