Scollier93 Posted September 11, 2019 Posted September 11, 2019 So I asked a girl I like at work out and she said she doesn’t date people she works with but I kind of think she might like me too which is why I asked. Well I think she might have gotten a new job. If she did should I text her and ask her again or just wait and see if she asks me?
LivingWaterPlease Posted September 11, 2019 Posted September 11, 2019 If she no longer works where you do, there's no harm in asking her out.
smackie9 Posted September 11, 2019 Posted September 11, 2019 What makes you think she likes you? Lots of women use that as an excuse to get out of actually rejecting someone. 1
mortensorchid Posted September 11, 2019 Posted September 11, 2019 I am telling one and all who post on these things after having a lot of terrible things happen to me on the job : coworkers are not friends. It's easy for you to think that coworkers are friends because you spend more time with them than you will with anyone else. You may be lonely, you may want to make friends because you want a human connection to another. Whatever you do, don't seek companionship from coworkers because they will stab you in the back. That being said, a former coworker - You may friend them on social networking but only after you or the other party no longer works there. Date a former coworker? Also dicey and high risk. Because you don't know if and when the person in question may share that with others. Whatever you do, don't just assume that because you two no longer work together that you two are okay to be friends by any means. You may be thinking reading that that I am being paranoid or foolish. Not true. This has been learned through years and years of experiences and abuse both good and bad. I am only trying to help you and others.
Author Scollier93 Posted September 11, 2019 Author Posted September 11, 2019 Well long story short one day a guy I work with told me he put in a good word for me with her and said he thought she liked me and I noticed after he told me that she’d be smiling at me and making more of an effort to talk to me so I asked her and she said yes first and gave me her number but then ended up telling me that.
preraph Posted September 11, 2019 Posted September 11, 2019 She knows where you are and she knows you want to go out with her. I'd leave it up to her. If she really thinks she might like you, she'll contact you, at which time you can ask her out anew. 2
d0nnivain Posted September 11, 2019 Posted September 11, 2019 I don't date co-workers is an easy excuse & a neutral way of rejecting an unwanted advance without hurting the person's feelings. While she may have been flirting I don't think she's interested I will give you a middle path. Assuming you know how to get in touch with her, once you know for certain that she is no longer at the company, reach out & offer her congratulations on her new job. See how she responds to that. If you are given an opening, great. Otherwise, let this be. 1
smackie9 Posted September 11, 2019 Posted September 11, 2019 Wait til she goes to her new job, and ask her if she would like to go for a few drinks.
Author Scollier93 Posted September 11, 2019 Author Posted September 11, 2019 I don't date co-workers is an easy excuse & a neutral way of rejecting an unwanted advance without hurting the person's feelings. While she may have been flirting I don't think she's interested I will give you a middle path. Assuming you know how to get in touch with her, once you know for certain that she is no longer at the company, reach out & offer her congratulations on her new job. See how she responds to that. If you are given an opening, great. Otherwise, let this be. I actually had that exact plan but part of me agrees on the letting it be and part of me just wants to go for it because I have nothing to lose. It’s not like I’ll see her a lot anymore
justwhoiam Posted September 11, 2019 Posted September 11, 2019 she doesn’t date people she works with but I [...] think she might have gotten a new job. If she did should I text her and ask her again or just wait and see if she asks me? When did this happen? Let at least a couple weeks go by. And I would only text: "How's it going?" And though it's tricky and you could send her a congrats text for her new job, I'd refrain from that. You don't want to have work getting inbetween again, and I wouldn't want to give out info spreading in the old workplace. I actually had that exact plan but part of me agrees on the letting it be and part of me just wants to go for it because I have nothing to lose. It’s not like I’ll see her a lot anymore I think if you like her, you just want to get in touch with her again. Not asking her out for the moment.
Author Scollier93 Posted September 11, 2019 Author Posted September 11, 2019 She just hasn’t been here this week I haven’t heard anything about it so I’m not 100% sure. But I saw where they were mailing her something so that kinda made me think she’s not coming back but I’m not sure yet.
Author Scollier93 Posted September 12, 2019 Author Posted September 12, 2019 False alarm guys I think it’s military related so she’ll be back lol
kendahke Posted September 12, 2019 Posted September 12, 2019 Well long story short one day a guy I work with told me he put in a good word for me with her and said he thought she liked me and I noticed after he told me that she’d be smiling at me and making more of an effort to talk to me so I asked her and she said yes first and gave me her number but then ended up telling me that. Long time ago, I had a "friend" who I worked with who said she would "put in a good word" for me with a coworker I liked. Then about two weeks later when I was leaving work for the evening, walking in front of me to the parking lot was that same "friend" and this guy, dressed up to go out on a date. She actually cringed when she turned around and saw me walking behind her. They ended up marrying... having 2 kids... and then she cheated on him and divorced him to marry the guy she cheated with. Don't put any stock into anyone "putting in a good word" for you---he's positioning himself to step into that role, not you.
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