max3732 Posted September 10, 2019 Posted September 10, 2019 I was out of town for about 6 weeks and now that I'm back I'd like to give the woman I met that I asked about in the thread below another shot. When we met the 1st time it was for lunch. What kind of activity should I suggest or should I send something else just to see if she's interested? I was thinking maybe something active or maybe something simple like meeting for ice cream and walking around the mall? https://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/687263-how-would-you-say-date-went-what-can-i-do-better-2.html
PRW Posted September 10, 2019 Posted September 10, 2019 maybe something active or maybe something simple like meeting for ice cream and walking around the mall?So you want to demonstrate to her that even after 6 weeks she isn't worth putting much effort into for a 2nd date? Make it a real date and offer her the date. Whatever happened 6 weeks ago doesn't matter. She could have been through two more guys during that time. 2
Author max3732 Posted September 11, 2019 Author Posted September 11, 2019 So you want to demonstrate to her that even after 6 weeks she isn't worth putting much effort into for a 2nd date? Make it a real date and offer her the date. Whatever happened 6 weeks ago doesn't matter. She could have been through two more guys during that time. A real date would mean what? Another meal or an activity?
PRW Posted September 11, 2019 Posted September 11, 2019 A real date would mean what? Another meal or an activity? A real date as a context of being romantic rather than "buddies". Make it an event that shows you invested a little more effort than just walking around a mall. 1
Author max3732 Posted September 11, 2019 Author Posted September 11, 2019 A real date as a context of being romantic rather than "buddies". Make it an event that shows you invested a little more effort than just walking around a mall. From our 1st date I know she is into yoga, tennis, running and being active. I'm horrible at yoga and haven't run in years, but play a lot of tennis. How about doing that followed by a bite to eat? My problem has always been trying to get a woman to be more than buddies and avoiding the friend zone.
Watercolors Posted September 11, 2019 Posted September 11, 2019 For a second date after being gone for six weeks, I wouldn't jump into tennis. Make it something where you can sit and talk about your trip and ask her about what she was up to. Perfect date idea: go paint dishware together at a pottery place. You can each pick out a mug or plate, and while you're picking out stencils and paint colors you can get to know each other without breaking a sweat. Then, as you sit down to paint your plate or mug, you both can chat in an environment that is creative and casual. Then you can suggest going to dinner afterward. Just an idea. 1
nothingsintheflowerz Posted September 11, 2019 Posted September 11, 2019 So you want to demonstrate to her that even after 6 weeks she isn't worth putting much effort into for a 2nd date? Make it a real date and offer her the date. Whatever happened 6 weeks ago doesn't matter. She could have been through two more guys during that time. I definitely agree with this...if a guy hit me up again after 6 weeks and wanted to walk around a mall with ice cream, I wouldn't be receptive at all. 1
Author max3732 Posted September 11, 2019 Author Posted September 11, 2019 I definitely agree with this...if a guy hit me up again after 6 weeks and wanted to walk around a mall with ice cream, I wouldn't be receptive at all. What would be receptive to?
nothingsintheflowerz Posted September 11, 2019 Posted September 11, 2019 What would be receptive to? Something that actually takes effort. At least a bit thoughtful.
hippychick3 Posted September 12, 2019 Posted September 12, 2019 Ice cream and a walk around the mall? How old are you? If you’re older than 21, I’d be totally turned off. Ask her out for dinner at a decent (not fancy) restaurant. 2
nothingsintheflowerz Posted September 12, 2019 Posted September 12, 2019 Ice cream and a walk around the mall? How old are you? If you’re older than 21, I’d be totally turned off. Ask her out for dinner at a decent (not fancy) restaurant. Maybe even mini-golfing! 1
PRW Posted September 12, 2019 Posted September 12, 2019 (edited) My problem has always been trying to get a woman to be more than buddies and avoiding the friend zone.That doesn't sound too bad. Now once you are in a solid LTR then you can do more low key stuff because the context between you has been well established by then. But at the beginning you need to maintain a romantic "flavor" to the time you spend together. Edited September 12, 2019 by PRW 1
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