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Ok so i went on date from tinder.

 

For the last 7 weeks we have none stop texting and being flirtatious and lovey dovey.

We have been on 5 dates and each one was amazing.

We had sex on the 4th date and it was great and she even said she cant wait for round 2.

Only problem is....she then text me to say she needs space.

I have 2 sons and my youngest is 7 months and needs to be with his mum so i spend 2 days a week being with him while shes around.

The girl im seeing has a 7montj old son, her husband left when he was 2 months old and shes just sold her house and started back her job has a school teacher also on the day she texted me.

She told me she feels like im still love with my ex and that she feels like if she wasnt on the scene, we would get back together....thats not the case, i would love to start a relationship with this new girl.

She then said she cant do this right now and i need to give her time and space.....so i text her and told her i will leave her to it.

She has alot on her plate....i think shes still in love with her husband.

She said hes going away with his new g.f and moving in with her when he gets back.

She hasnt deleted me off facebook.....and still on good terms, i want to be their for her but i just dont know what to do.....

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I'd do nothing.

 

I'd say she is still trying to figure out what she wants in life and she's kinda bouncing around different things to try.

 

I'd give her all the space in the universe and if she decided she really wants it, she'll find you and make it really obvious.

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For the last 7 weeks we have none stop texting and being flirtatious and lovey dovey.

 

Yep,...it's over

 

We have been on 5 dates and each one was amazing.

We had sex on the 4th date and it was great and she even said she cant wait for round 2.

Tick...tick...tick

Only problem is....she then text me to say she needs space.
Boom!

 

You over pursued. The non-stop texting says it all. There was almost no point in reading further.

 

She told me she feels like im still love with my ex and that she feels like if she wasnt on the scene, we would get back together....thats not the case, i would love to start a relationship with this new girl.

She then said she cant do this right now and i need to give her time and space.....so i text her and told her i will leave her to it.

She has alot on her plate....i think shes still in love with her husband.

She said hes going away with his new g.f and moving in with her when he gets back.

She hasnt deleted me off facebook.....and still on good terms, i want to be their for her but i just dont know what to do.....

None of any of that really matters. It is just a distraction.
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I guess i did over pursue....but you never know lol

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OP, she is very fresh out of marriage (not by her doing, it seems) with an infant. No doubt she is navigating some heavy emotional issues and has not yet really come to grips with her new life. This woman has surely been through a lot and is still trying to make sense of it all.

 

My guess is that she is far from being ready to date. She tried to get back out there, it initially helped her feel a little better and she likes you as a person - but reality is that she has not yet processed the end of her marriage and how to be a single mom to a little baby on top of that.

 

You spending time with your own ex complicates things, though I realize you likely don't have many options given how young your baby is. Most women are not going to be comfortable with their man spending time with an ex, though. It might be wise to not expect a serious relationship to develop while your baby is so little that you can't spend time on your own with him yet.

 

Even if your ex weren't a factor in this particular situation, I still don't think this relationship would have gone very far. This woman isn't ready, and there's really not much you can do about it. As such, I wouldn't do anything here. She is trying to be kind that she can't offer what you're looking for and it's best you part ways.

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I think your 100% right.....i do feel me and my ex have got to stage where we can be friends for the kids and i dont think shes ready yet....i should have read the warning signs when she kept telling me she hates him....obviously because he left.

She has so much going off in her life, i just wish i could have been there for her.

Im not going to delete her off facebook....im just going to leave her to it and if she decides to reach out i will support her has a friend.

Thankyou for the advice

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You were a typical rebound.

 

Everything was amazing??? Then you got dumped.

 

So not really for her anyway

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That sounds like a load of drama, and you've got enough drama on your plate. Go for a woman who's drama free.

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