Author MindYourBusiness Posted September 17, 2019 Author Posted September 17, 2019 Stillafool: I don’t really know what it is. I just feel extremely comfortable with this guy and we were out and about the entire night before it happened and I just had a great time and it felt right. I still do not regret it. Justwhoiam I have noticed that you’re responses are always very negative. I think that’s an assumption that is simply invalid after just 2 dates.
Author MindYourBusiness Posted September 17, 2019 Author Posted September 17, 2019 To be fair, I’m still going on other dates too and he is allowed to do the same until we have the talk. I suggested Friday since I had to reschedule the first day he suggested... I feel kinda bad if I’d reschedule again now. Ugh I don’t know what to do.
Author MindYourBusiness Posted September 18, 2019 Author Posted September 18, 2019 He said between 830 and 9 like our first date and he want a to go grab drinks.
alphamale Posted September 18, 2019 Posted September 18, 2019 He said between 830 and 9 like our first date and he want a to go grab drinks. watch how much you drink Lenila1992, and good luck 1
justwhoiam Posted September 18, 2019 Posted September 18, 2019 Justwhoiam I have noticed that you’re responses are always very negative. Just because I guess this guy doesn't feel like making a date with you in the daytime? If you'd see that as negative, then casual dating and booty calls will be paper over the cracks. I think that’s an assumption that is simply invalid after just 2 dates. At times, I have good intuition. I feel kinda bad if I’d reschedule again now. Ugh I don’t know what to do. Lenila, he told you he has an event planned that night, even though he'd be willing to meet you afterwards. So you didn't really reschedule yet, he told you to let him know. When, today, people suggested proposing Sunday brunch, you said it was a great idea. But a whole day went by, you didn't feel like asking him, you didn't give him any real answer and you are unsure about what to do. I think you're afraid he will say no. It's fine. You don't know his intentions, and you seem confused about yours. 2
emeraldgreen Posted September 18, 2019 Posted September 18, 2019 "Got plans but let's meet after that" = let me have fun with my friends and still get to bonk with very little effort. I agree about the Sunday suggestion. Make him spend a bit of time actually investing in and getting to know you. 5
Allupinnit Posted September 18, 2019 Posted September 18, 2019 Girl - do NOT meet him on Friday after he's been out with his work buddies. That's what girlfriends do. Don't worry about coming across any certain way. Just say something along the lines of "Hey I know about this great brunch spot - why don't we check it out on Sunday instead?" See what he says. When you suggested Friday and he was already busy, he should have suggested another night for a real date - not what essentially amounts to a booty call. 2
Author MindYourBusiness Posted September 20, 2019 Author Posted September 20, 2019 Hey so I finally have an update . He texted me today "hey sexy, why are you making me wait this long". I did not flirt back since this is a huge redflag to me. I asked him if he knows what he wants to do tomorrow for our date and he said that we can figure it out and that he doesn't know.. I think I am done here. Even if its not a booty call its definitely not what I am looking for. Thank god I started talking to someone besides him. He is the opposite and we send voice messages backhand forth even when he is extremely busy and I think that just matches my personality a lot better. Do you guys have a suggestion how I can cancel the date for tomorrow without being rude but at the same time showing that he hasn't met my standards and that Im not just a booty call?
chillii Posted September 20, 2019 Posted September 20, 2019 Wouldn't worry too much doesn't sound like your meeting his standards either he's pretty whatever. Just do as above. 1
alphamale Posted September 20, 2019 Posted September 20, 2019 Do you guys have a suggestion how I can cancel the date for tomorrow without being rude but at the same time showing that he hasn't met my standards and that Im not just a booty call? yeah, just ghost him
Allupinnit Posted September 20, 2019 Posted September 20, 2019 I'm glad you're trusting your gut. I always said that I just wasn't interested in moving forward, and best of luck in your search and thank them for whatever dinner/ticket/drink they may have treated me to and that I enjoyed my time.
Author MindYourBusiness Posted September 20, 2019 Author Posted September 20, 2019 I am really annoyed by him and have try hard not to say anything mean
stillafool Posted September 20, 2019 Posted September 20, 2019 You don't have to be mean. You already have another guy who fits the bill so there's no need to say anything except "I'm sorry this isn't working for me. All the best." Block and delete and carry on with the new man.
Author MindYourBusiness Posted September 20, 2019 Author Posted September 20, 2019 Yea I wont say anything mean to him but I need to vent here
winny Posted September 21, 2019 Posted September 21, 2019 showing that he hasn't met my standards and that Im not just a booty call? Sounds like you met someone else so now you want to dump this guy. And you cannot accuse him of considering you as a booty call because remember it was you who suggested having the second date at his place instead of going out. Your standards are to sleep with someone on second date. How is "hey sexy, why are you making me wait this long" a red flag when you have already slept with him too soon? from where i stand both of you have same standards. 2
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