Londy Posted September 10, 2019 Posted September 10, 2019 (edited) Actually you said to sit back and relax with a glass of wine and wait for him to call, you also said to text him and you also said that playing games is a good thing. If you cover every possible scenario you'll be right all the time. To the Op- as it was me who clearly suggested reaching out and not play stupid games as suggested by others - You are quite welcome. Edited September 15, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote removed
Author MindYourBusiness Posted September 10, 2019 Author Posted September 10, 2019 Well he initiated the first date and the first text messages after the date. If both parties read somewhere to act like the prize then goodnight it aint gonna work.
smackie9 Posted September 11, 2019 Posted September 11, 2019 Well my guess is he has interest in you and others. He’s keeping you on the hook while he weighs his options. Never think you are the only one he is going on dates with.
alphamale Posted September 11, 2019 Posted September 11, 2019 (edited) depends if he is an alpha or beta or in between Edited September 15, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote removed
Author MindYourBusiness Posted September 11, 2019 Author Posted September 11, 2019 For the first date we went for dinner and then to the theatre to watch a movie. I also think that after one date it’s totally fine if he’s still seeing someone else.. I am too. Doesn’t mean he’s not my favorite
Author MindYourBusiness Posted September 11, 2019 Author Posted September 11, 2019 Thank you all! So he is really hard to read but I met a few of his friends who were hanging out with him when I came. They left shortly after though
Author MindYourBusiness Posted September 13, 2019 Author Posted September 13, 2019 We haven’t made a plan yet. He is out of town for work this week. He sent me a message after the date Tuesday that he had a great time with me and that he’s glad he saw me before leaving town. Haven’t heard from him in 2 days now though.. how often should I expect texting when we just started seeing each other? I hope he will reach out when he’s back..
Author MindYourBusiness Posted September 13, 2019 Author Posted September 13, 2019 Yea that’s exactly the amount he texts right now. I just heard from friends that they expect the guys to text every day because otherwise it means they are not interested. It’s interesting how people have such different opinions. For me it’s all cool as long as he texts this weekend.. hopefully he will.
alphamale Posted September 13, 2019 Posted September 13, 2019 (edited) one should text when one says they will text Edited September 15, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote removed
Author MindYourBusiness Posted September 14, 2019 Author Posted September 14, 2019 He hasn’t said he will text. His last message just said that he’s glad he got to see me before leaving.. that’s all
Author MindYourBusiness Posted September 14, 2019 Author Posted September 14, 2019 We were at his place, he cooked me dinner and I met a few of his friends who shortly left after
alphamale Posted September 14, 2019 Posted September 14, 2019 We were at his place, did you have sex?
dramallama Posted September 14, 2019 Posted September 14, 2019 First you said 'we went for dinner and to the theater' and now you're at his house and he's cooking - did you go out or was it Netflix & chill? I'm not judging you, just asking. It's easier to advise if we have a straight story. We were at his place, he cooked me dinner and I met a few of his friends who shortly left after Meeting his friends doesn't mean a whole lot if they're used to seeing him with lots of girls. I'm dating a guy whose communication pattern sounds like yours, and after our first date on the Sunday he took until the Thursday to actually suggest meeting again, though he'd been texting the whole time - he's a much more frequent texter than I'm used to. After our second date he hadn't suggested meeting up by the Thurs so I just asked what his schedule was like and it was packed with work but then we ended up in a discussion about how our childcare and work schedules can allow time to see each other - which is all very promising if unromantic You just have to take it easy, let things unfold as they will. I don't know if you're overly invested because you had sex or if you had sex because you were swept off your feet with how amazing he was - you need to know yourself to answer that question. 1
Author MindYourBusiness Posted September 14, 2019 Author Posted September 14, 2019 @dramalama correct, the movie etc. thing was the first date followed by the second date where we decided to meet up at his place. To be honest, I do not regret the sex part or think that there’s something too early. I wanted it too or I wouldn’t have slept with it. I guess I have a different opinion about that than most people in this forum.
Calmandfocused Posted September 14, 2019 Posted September 14, 2019 I wanted it too or I wouldn’t have slept with it. Admittedly I had a good chuckle reading the above. It? Don’t you mean “him”? In any event it was very funny. Nothing wrong with sleeping with him op. However I get the feeling that you’ve got the feels for this guy. As it stands at present there’s nothing to say it will go anywhere. See it for what it is and if he comes back after his trip, it’s a bonus. Just remember in the future : if you really like someone make sure you know his intentions before sleeping with him. 1
Author MindYourBusiness Posted September 14, 2019 Author Posted September 14, 2019 Oh lol! I typed that earlier at 5am sorry. On the bright sight, he doesn’t know I’m freaking out in a forum calling him „it“ hahah. Also, we did talk about his intentions because he brought up that he was married a few years ago . He said he’s not looking like crazy for anything serious but he’s not against it either and that he’s in a very neutral headspace. I told him on the first date I’m not just looking for a hook up and he said he respects that. Anyhow, I’m not sure why we all got stuck writing about the sex because that’s my least concern lol. Ok trying to understand this guys texting pattern!
Allupinnit Posted September 14, 2019 Posted September 14, 2019 Hon, let's lay out the facts. You didn't hear from him regarding a second date, so you prodded him into asking you out. Men who want to see you again will make sure they are locking down when he's going to see you again - trust. The second date is what I would hope you'd reserve for later on, but that's me. A man who wants to cook for you on the second date is trying to move things into the bedroom - and there ya go. Pretty low effort on his part so far. Men who say they aren't looking for anything serious off the bat - believe that this will never turn into a relationship, if that's what you're looking for. Men say that so that you won't start having expectations of him. He's setting the tone for the spotty communication. If you aren't just looking for a hookup, but slept with him on the second date anyway and then don't hear from him for a few days, I'd say that's what this was. Ask me how I know. 1
Author MindYourBusiness Posted September 14, 2019 Author Posted September 14, 2019 I think you didnt read all the posts. He did text me after the second date.
Allupinnit Posted September 14, 2019 Posted September 14, 2019 ...but didn't ask you out. You had to reach out to him again.
alphamale Posted September 14, 2019 Posted September 14, 2019 I think you didnt read all the posts. He did text me after the second date. yeah but you didn't mention that you two slept together, that changes the dynamics of the whole situation 1
Author MindYourBusiness Posted September 14, 2019 Author Posted September 14, 2019 He just texted me and asked if I am free some time next week when he is back from his trip
Allupinnit Posted September 14, 2019 Posted September 14, 2019 Crazy timing! All I'll say is any time I had to post on this forum regarding a man's interest in me, my gut was already telling me something. But, I could be reading this all wrong. 2
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