Prim&proper Posted September 28, 2005 Posted September 28, 2005 Okay, so I've been seeing this guy for a 2-3 months now. He claims to not be my boyfriend and that he doesn't know what he want from me at this point, but he sure acts like we are together. We've been seeing each other every night for about 2 1/2 weeks straight (yes we are intimate), until last Wednesday, when i didn't hear from him. He usually calls me after work or I call him and we would get together. I left him a message last Wednesday evening and he didn't return my call until the following day when he called and left a message saying he's going to a party and for me to call him back or leave him a message. I leave him a message and did not hear from him at all that night. Friday evening, I leave him another message. Did not hear from him at all that night, until Saturday evening when he called and i was on my way to meet some friends. Usually, returning calls the following day isn't a big deal, but since we've been seeing each other every day it seemed strange that he didn't return my calls right away. I don't expect him to see me every day but I do expect him to call me to say he's busy. Is that too much to ask or am I being unreasonable here? Thoughts?
slubberdegullion Posted September 28, 2005 Posted September 28, 2005 Relax. You're probably making a big deal out of nothing. So what if he doesn't call you every day? That just makes the times that you do speak to be that much more special. So, instead of focusing on this irritation, focus on the joy that comes when you and he interact. For, as sure as apples grow on trees, if you start haranguing him about why he didn't call, he'll begin to dread the contact, and then both of you lose. And nobody wants that.
Mary3 Posted September 29, 2005 Posted September 29, 2005 This is an easy one. You said he was not your boyfriend but he likes to have lots of sex with you. That means you are in a non committed booty call zone. He can sleep with others and he has freedom. He can also eat his cake too ( you ) whenever he feels like it.
dcsmom97 Posted September 29, 2005 Posted September 29, 2005 I think that Mary is right. If you guys still don't talk for a while and he then calls seemingly out of the blue and wants to hook up, then you have your answer.
jhurtinct Posted September 29, 2005 Posted September 29, 2005 I also agree w/ mary on this he has you when he wants you and its on his terms. Change it up some don't be available and tell him you can not be with him in a sexual manner without more of a commitment, tell him to call you when he better knows what he wants from you at that point. Don't let him think your home waiting for him, make yourself available to others as your not in a commited relationship.
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